All right to start I have always said I support gay rights. However now my words are being put to the test. There is this transwomen that I'm having a very hard time accepting as a real women. I say this because... in all honestly she looks like a man in a dress. With a man's voice, hands, face, it's horrible. I know I'm being so mean but honestly I'm real having a hard time fully accepting her as a women. If transwomen are real women how many straight guys would marry one. This is very evil of me but the way she looks, its bad....its just so obvious that it's a guy.
Do you fully accept transwomen as real women in all aspects? I feel so guilty about feeling like this.
2007-01-24 10:16:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No. I've known one for years and only recently found out she was transexual.
2007-01-24 10:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, what a pitiful question - I truly can't believe you are asking.
First and foremost, I'm not sure whether or not a woman, be they real or not would really interest me to find out if the plumbing is in fact real.
Secondly, if they turned out be a transsexual, well I would applaud their courage to live their life honestly, and not be someone they are not.
Thirdly, I've got transsexual friends - going both directions - MALE > female and FEMALE > male. I don't care what they have in their pants, because I personally am not interested in them - other than being friends, before / during / after the operation.
Only a small mind without understanding ones need to be themself wouldn't try to understand these individuals who have fought all their lives for recognition but found they had to change their gender to live freely.
Dude, you only have to admire the looks - not do the dirty to these people. Think about it ?
bga
2007-01-24 10:38:38 · answer #2 · answered by bga 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A woman who has had a sex change operation is not a woman in every sense. Part of your sexual identity is how you grew up. A woman who isn't a woman until she's an adult was never a little girl. She never had the experiences that girls go through. She did have the experience of being a boy, something that real women do not have. The sad fact is that transgender people are always something in between.
2007-01-24 11:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by Lleh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A childhood friend of my husband is a male to female trans-gender. I met her as a him. This person didn't "change" with the physical changes the surgeries caused. It was still the same virtues and values that made the person someone I was interested in maintaining a friendship with. As a male, he was troubled and wasn't sure if he was gay or not. After the counseling, drugs and surgeries, I can see a person who is more comfortable with themselves - therefore with the world.
At one point, my father was visiting from out of state and this friend (who had completed her surgeries at this point) stopped by one evening. Since we had the grill fired up and dinner time was approaching, we invited her to join us for the evening. At the dinner table, my father (who is not aware that she is tg) began flirting with her! Guess she had good surgeries.
To answer your question, the only tg I know personally, I consider to be a female. She is, in every regard a woman. Emotionally and physically. Sometimes I do slip and refer to her by her male name, but usually it's when I'm speaking in past tense when she WAS he.
(PS - she's a lot more feminine that I am!)
2007-01-24 11:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by E_Tard 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to understand that being female is more about the inside then the outside. Transexuals are female inside and that deep seated known identity is what makes them go through their change from one gender to the other.
The physical gender change is of the genitials and the breasts. The rest of the body changes but not to the extent the surgery for sexual reassignment changes things.
Some transexuals are less fortunate then others and have a very masculine physical form that truly cannot be changed that much.
Hormones will make changes happen too but if your born with big hands and shoulders then after all the change you will have big hands and shoulders........there is nothing that can be done.
The gender identity is on the inside though it is not about height or body structure it is about the esscence of the person.
So try and understand what you see in her is not what she feels inside nor who she see herserf as. It is what you see her as and that is strictly a visual impression you are going on.
2007-01-24 11:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Conscience is just a choice. If you feel guilty then obviously you have made a bad choice. Let it go or live with it. You can accept transwomen or not. If everyone on answers told you that you should feel guilty would you?
2007-01-24 10:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Eva 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of female-born women can look butch or like "men in dresses," too. Think of athletes like WNBA players, for instance. They actually look more feminine in their uniforms than in dresses!
I say that if someone's willing to go through the surgery, the hormones, the sometimes-humiiliating therapy, and the hostility that transsexuals deal with, they can call themselves whatever they want.
Incidentally, one of my very good friends passes extremely well, and is married to a straight man.
2007-01-24 10:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't be so hard on yourself. Not only do you have to act the part, but looking the part is also an issue. If someone wants to seriously be thought of as a woman, they gotta go the full 10 yards.
2007-01-24 10:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by phxguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
society has a cruel double standard.. they think it's ok for women to be masculin but not ok for guys to be girly.
it really takes guts to go thru transition. people know darn well that people like you will judge them.. but they feel so strongly about what they need to do, that they don't care.
transition takes time and money. perhaps this person is in the early stages.. 2 years of female hormones and some voice training, and this person may be more likely to "pass" as a woman soon.. but many feel the need to "present" as woman early into the process.
try not to judge the person for their looks.. (heck, don't judge anyone for looks, that is just shallow!) focus on personality. is this person kind, friendly? loving, trustworthy? do they have good morals and values?? people like this are so used to being judged that when they do get friends, they will treat them very well...
i love transwomen so much.. mostly because i desire to become one in the future.. i just hate the gender role of men. i am not a manly person. i am shy, sweet, sensitive, emotional.. i am not a tough arrogant shallow jerk like men as supposed to be.. this friend of your probably feels the same..
2007-01-24 10:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
i also agree with gay rights & i don't fully look as tranvestites as full woman (from a guys perspective if i was a guy) Well if i dated a girl and got intimate with here and didn't know she was a guy in her younger days i wouldn't be able to look at her the same (and don't think i have anythin against trannys okay ) It's there life and they can do what they want and they can be whatever they wanna be
2007-01-24 14:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont find it hard to accept, i know some transsexuals and when you look at them you see a woman. Even though you kept on saying to yourself that they were born with a man´s body , what you see is what you see and you see a woman
2007-01-24 11:41:30 · answer #11 · answered by whoknows 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋