Friends came out and theres more?

Question

I love my friends and all but, recently they’ve all come out saying that they are either gay or bi (3 out of 6).
The worst thing about it is that they are hooking up with one another and this leaves me and some others clueless as to how to handle it. I’ve known them for so long and i’ve accepted and come to respect their choice even if I am religious and have been raised to see otherwise. But, now the friend who i’ve always preferred more over the others is planning to ask the other one out and i don’t think I can handle it. They’re always acting affectionate towards one another but its never serious. I don’t have the guts to face them and tell them how it makes me feel and I know its the one thing I should do. Perhaps its a little bit of jealousy on my part but I still refuse to see them together. I dont know how to deal with it.

Answer 1

deal with it if they r ur friends and u have been dealing with them they r still going to be ur friends no matter what. the jealousy thing will pass once u see that they might be happy together

Answer 2

You've got a combination of normal akwardness when two people in a circle of friends start dating, and your own unresolved baggage. You're still calling it their "choice", so you're not really completely up to date with what's going on with them. I'll leave that part of it for you to figure out and work on, because it seems like you honestly want to. Aside from that, it DOES get weird when friends start dating friends. I think its fair to tell them that, but I wouldn't expect them to change their plans or anything. And they ARE going to be affectionate, because any couple is going to be affectionate. Part of it is you getting used to the group dynamics changing, and part of it is just waiting to see how things play out. The worst case scenario is a messy breakup where people start taking sides and there's all kinds of nastiness: I would personally tell them both that while you're not trying to look on the negative side, or imply anything about the duration of their relationship, SHOULD it come down to something liek that you're not going to be dragged into it.

Answer 3

They can probably pick up on the fact that you're uncomfortable about it and that is why they are still acting like it's no big thing in front of you. I also can imagine that you are a little jealous because you aren't one of the #1 friends anymore and he is closer to another good friend of yours than he is with you now. Just try to get used to it, if you hang around them more the more you will be comfortable with it.

Answer 4

Sounds like a little bit of natural jealousy. And getting used to new relationships, which will feel weird and uncomfortable until you get used to it. Patience.

I'm glad you knew them before you knew they were gay. It helps to put what you were taught in perspective with reality. They're all still the same friends they were before you knew they were gay.

Answer 5

Dude, don't sweat the small stuff.

Your friends have not changed, they've always been who they are - YOU and YOUR FRIENDS are the ones who are changing .. you are changing your attitudes to gay people by letting these people express themself in public.

No matter if you accept them or not, they will always be themself, why cant you and your friends.

Answer 6

oh, this must be really hard for you, i dont know if i were you what would i do exactly, but maybe the only way out is talking to them about it, tell them that they shouldnt act all affectionate around you. and its really nice that ure open-minded about it.

Answer 7

Brace yourself.....let the gay drama begin. You're screwed.

Answer 8

time to make new friends or join the crowd