my friend is pregnant what do i do?

Question

my friend is pregnant and she told me and im the only one she has told she is only 14 and she keeps getting pains in her side she does'nt want me 2 tell anyone what do i do!! should i tell a doctor or something?

Answer 1

What some people do not get sometimes is that this is your friend's problem. Don't jump ahead of her. If she doesn't what to tell her mom or a doctor, don't. Only do it if it is hurting her health-wise and she refuses to do it.
Your job is to be her friend. Listen to her problems. Voice your opinion when you do not, but still be supportive of what she does. For example, if your friend wants to abort the baby and you do not believe in it tell her when you don't. And comfort her if she does. Help her. If you see a remedy for morning sickness, for example, buy it for her. Be there for her. It's hard to be a young mother. She needs help.

Answer 2

You should definitely tell someone. What about your mom?? Can you talk to her? I know you think that you're being her friend by keeping her secret. Normally, yeah, friends keep secrets when asked. But sometimes you can't. Pains aren't good. That needs to be looked into. What if the pains are a result of a tubal pregnancy?? A tubal pregnancy could kill her. Besides, even if the pregnancy is going well, she's only 14. She can't do this by herself.

If she gets mad at you for telling, just explain to her that you did what you thought best because you're her friend and you care about her. I won't lie. She may be *really* mad and decide not to talk to you. If that happens, just remember that you did it because you are her friend.

Good luck, sweetie. Hope it all works out.

Answer 3

I know you made a promise to your friend, but keeping a secret about a pregnancy isnt right. And, at 14 it is not fair for you to carry that kind of worry on your shoulders. She doesn't want you to tell because she doesn't want to get into trouble. But, if she is pregnant, she needs to go to the doctor to get an official test and to make sure the baby is OK. So, I would say- tell her she needs to tell or else you will. Be strong and remember, this is HER problem not yours.

Answer 4

If your friend found out from a doctor's visit, then you need to tell your friend that she needs to tell her parents as soon as possible. They have a right to know that their daughter is pregnant so they will know how to handle this. If you are saying that you are her friend, then help her by letting her parents know.

With those side pains she is getting, it could be something else serious that is going on with her. So sit with her and tell her that the best thing for her and the baby is to tell her parents. Tell her not to be afraid to tell them, but to stay calm.

Ask yourself this question, would you want your friend to tell you that you need to let your parents know? You will do your friend a favor, she may be upset with you for awhile, but she is still a minor under the same roof as her parents and they have a right to know. That will be the best and honest thing you could do for her and her parents. So be her friend, and do the right thing.

Answer 5

As a friend you should support her by encouraging her to see a doctor. If she truly is pregnant, then she'll need all the medical and psychological help she can get from her friends. Also, by seeing a doctor, she may find out that she isn't pregnant. Which will save a lot of money on baby clothes.

Answer 6

This is much too difficult to handle on your own. I understand that you are the only one she feels she can trust but you must be realistic; she is only 14 and much too young to be pregnant. Moreover, you say she's in considerable pain; this could very well indicate that your friend is having an ectopic pregnancy, in which case she will die without medical help. You must persuade your friend to go to a family planning clinic at the very least.

Answer 7

First, talk to her. Tell her that she NEEDS to let someone know.. it's not going to be the end of the world. She has to recognize that she is carrying a baby. At some point that boy or girl is going to be born and what's she going to do then? Carrying a child is already such a hectic thing, carrying the extra stress of not telling anybody about it is only going to hurt her more. If she doesn't listen.. then I agree with the first response, tell her counselor or yours.. or even a school nurse. They will be able to give you or her some additional guidance.

Answer 8

omg, don't tell a doctor but if she is a close friend of yours you should totally explain to her that being pregnant at a young age is quite a responsibility. you know, and talk to her about aborting a baby because you don't want her to realise she can't go to school , or hurt her body by taking birth control pills because later in life when she wants to have a baby that she will want and love she won't be able to because the pills kill your eggs and stuff. but even though i am not completely for abortion, sometimes your not ready to have a child and you don't want to bring an unwanted baby into this world. its just not right...

Answer 9

okay... this is what a real friend would do. this isn't about being true to a friend, this is about doing whats right. you need to cal her parents up and sit them down. and let them know what's going on. and let them help her. they are the only people that can help her. trust me. she cant reaise a child on her own. she's only 14. and some 14 yr. olds are mature but stil they can't take care of a child, and you should know that. and if she's early she can take a pill.and that wouldn't be killing a child because there isn't a child yet. it's only blood. so if i was you, i'd quit worring about being a true friend, because once its over she'll thank you for helping her out and being a TRUE friend and letting her parents help her.

Answer 10

Two words for you Planned Parenthood. Take the bus to your local one(they are everywhere just google them). Once she's been checked out her parents really need to know. She can't handle something like that alone especially at 14. If you love your friend you'll make her tell her parents.