Embarrassing Situation...HELP!?

Question

This may sound ridiculous but somehow it makes me feel sooo bad that I just had to let it out somewhere. Basically I feel really bad and awful because I called my coach at 9.40pm to see if she had lessons available and it turned out that she was most likely sleeping with her children. Her daughter promised to kill me (half-jokingly, but it still sounded horrid to me) but she didn't seem very angry (she was just sleepy and said I woke up her kids) etc....But I still feel so SO stupid for doing this, it's like I'm the biggest idiot in the entire world and I don't know what to say when I meet them again. I don't know why this makes me feel so embarrassed but I hate that feeling... And I'm just posting this on here because I don't really have anyone to turn to in situations like this so perhaps someone here will say something that will make me feel a whole bunch better....please? :(

Answer 1

Stop being so hard on yourself. People make mistakes all the time and you need to let it go. Next time you talk to her just apologize and explain that you didn't realize it was that late and you would make sure you don't call at that time again. Making a mistake is okay when you learn from it, and you did now go and enjoy the rest of you day. Good luck!!! God bless.

Answer 2

Don't beat yourself up about it, it might seem like an embarrassing situation but its just one of those things, 9.40pm is not a time you would expect someone to be in bed, none of this makes you an idiot, just relax a bit and have a nice drink and you will laugh about the whole thing, even with your coach!

Answer 3

Tomorrow is another day dear, and you really should go to bed now yourself and get some sleep. This will ease your worries and embarrassment and make you stronger for tomorrow.

I think when you apologise (as you will, I recognise exceptional moral standards even from a few stressed sentences)... I am almost certain your coach will realise you have worried and will probably suggest to you that you did her a favour. Quite the reverse eh? I would think, that there was something she found she had forgotten to do before morning...and you awakening her gave her that little nudge. Besides dear...9. 40 is a little early dont you think. Stop worrying and run along to bed sweety. God bless you. Goodnight. oh, and call your aunty Di at any time you like.

Answer 4

In situations like these I always advise my kids to turn it around and imagine they were the person they believe they've offended.
So imagine you'd had an early night and someone woke you with a call, at which, lets face it was not a particularly late hour. You don't want to engage in conversation so you are perhaps a little abrupt but if it were you would you still be bothered the next day?

Answer 5

The thing about situations, is that we need to embrace uncertainty. If we did not embrace it, we will never ever learn anything. It is a little like riding a bike, first time you try, you tend to fall off, but then you get back up until you get it right. I mean how boring would life be if we got it spot on all the time? I feel the attributes of a good coach is to be at the teams/clients disposal, even at 3am in the morning. It sounds to me like you have eaten at yourself from things you may have got wrong before and that this may stem from some unconscious from how you were parented or a partner etc. You need to be thinking about your good qualities, I am sure there are many! Dancing, singing, conversation, witty, intelligent, artistic, sporty etc etc.


Is it dealing with the subject of guilt, we must first understand its meaning. Guilt is a legal term meaning "to commit a breach of conduct." There are two forms of guilt—genuine guilt, which comes as a result of violating one's moral beliefs and false guilt, which is derived from misconceptions or feelings gone astray. In the case of false guilt, the individual actually feels guilty without committing any violation.

"'False guilt' is that which comes as a result of judgments and suggestions of men. 'True guilt' is that which results from your judgment of when you know it is morely wrong.

In your case, you must say "nothing ventured, nothinging gained"

It makes me a little sad that you cant chat to anyone about it.

Personally I would probably change my coach, she dont sound like a positive mum to me, but my opinion is on the perifery

Answer 6

its certainly not your fault, you didnt know they were maybe still sleeping. You cant see thru phones! As a general rule. during the week if I know i need to catch someone early then I will ring after 8, but before 9(if i know their getting ready to go to work/school etc.)If however I know they dont work/drop kids off at school etc then I will ring about. 10.30. same rule applies to me ringing others at weekends,
My opinion certainly dosent reflect what you should do tho, each situation is different and the best thing to do would be to ask "what times best that I ring u".
You sound like a very caring and considerate person and that is a very nice person to be, but, you certainly shouldnt worry any more. They should have been up anyway, lazy sods Ha Ha!

Answer 7

Don't beat yourself up about it.

If you feel you need to, just apologise next time to see or speak with them, ie "sorry that you woke everyone up", and ask "what is an acceptable time to call to arrange further coaching lessons"?

I wouldn't have thought 9.40 pm was a very later hour but some people do go to bed early.

It really is up to your coach to stipulate the hours in which he or she is accepting calls for business or communicate to clients or students times that she will not appreciate being called.

Answer 8

Don't worry, although it seems bad to you just now, your coach will forget about it soon enough and she will know it wasn't deliberate. All you can do is apologise and learn not to call at that time again (though 9.40pm wouldn't seem late to the average person probably).

Answer 9

I know when I am just woken up by a phone call, I say some odd things. The daughter was probably not awake enough to understand how she was coming across.

That said, unless you're calling a friend who you know is already awake, it's probably not best to call people after 9 p.m. That time and after is usually reserved for urgent or bad news calls.

Answer 10

Honestly, no one knows how tired they will get when they have children and a job , until it happens to them.
She probably just staggered back to bed, and forgot about it.....
For future reference :
Don't call at meal times , or after 8pm in the evenings. Don't call at weekends. In fact, just try and contact your coach in working hours at her workplace.
See if your coach has an e-mail address she checks that you could leave messages at.
The embarrassment you're feeling will fade in time, but it is useful to prevent you doing the same thing again!!!!
Hope this reply isn't too honest for you ....

M : )