Here's the most effective way to listen:
1. Stop talking
2. Focus your attention 100% on what the speaker is saying.
3. Notice what the person's nonverbals are saying, too - tone of voice, facial expression, gestures, posture, etc.
4. Put it all together and tell the speaker what you think he or she has been trying to tell you.
5. The speaker will tell you whether you "got it" or not and you can encourage the person to continue...
This pretty much guarantees there will be no misunderstandings, which is the goal of listening.
2007-01-24 09:23:01
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answered by ? 7
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when you get tire of listen, keep listen and tell your self, that your exercise has begun, though made sure you are listen show some interest, and don't try to talk or give the other person a much more better answers that the regular answer you have given then before., listen is Important, and don't feel guilty about, if some ask that you seam not listen then you know, stop thinking and what you did, and LISTEN!!, people don't like to be ignore. Be truthful and say, O I have some problem that I need to think about, I'm sorry, what where you saying????, and then do it again, don't feel a shame, at any rate, most everyone have not many important or transcendental things to say. this is a good exercise so then you can become not just a better listener, but a good talker.
2007-01-24 09:27:06
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answered by paradiseemperatorbluepinguin 5
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To be a good active listener you need to make sure that you are always looking at the person speaking. You need to face them in a posture that is relaxed and receptive. You should be sitting at the same level and you need to give feedback that you understand what they are talking about. You can rephrase what they have just said. Or say something like, "that must have been a bad time for you". This will show that you understand and are actively processing what is being said while the conversation is taking place. I hope this helps and I applaud you at taking steps to learn how to involve yourself in better communications. That is truly awesome.
2007-01-24 09:23:23
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answered by Deirdre O 7
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you really need to focus on what the person is saying. Sometimes it can be hard because that person could be boring but it takes some work. It's called active listening where you mimick the other person's body language. Don't say to much when they're talking just little things like yea i know...How? things like that. Nod that's a good thing to do because it makes them think you understand. Lean a little towards the person. Look them in the eye. just think about the people that listen to you. What do they do?
2007-01-24 09:27:51
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answered by BecBec 2
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Try cleaning your ears! Really, that is a GOOD question, and I'm betting that you really ARE a 'good listener' but that you want to tell/show someone special ... so ... look them 'in the eyes' and when you say something start by REPEATING something they said to you just before, and 'indicate' whether you agree or disagree with THAT POINT ... then go back to 'listening' so you hear the 'rest of the story.'
2007-01-24 09:42:13
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answered by Kris L 7
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By asking questions where you would really be interested
in the answer...this way you don't have to pretend to listen..
it will be natural. If someone is just chattering away to hear
themselves talk, you can intervene and get the conversation
on a more meaningful level by this same method.
2007-01-24 09:29:59
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answered by ? 6
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confident, eye touch is a key component in enhancing your listening skills. And, please do no longer think of me impolite or opposite as quickly as I propose this too: might desire to you no longer additionally get your listening to checked? There may be a average and actually-correctable listening to concern. does no longer you prefer to get that ruled-out as a a danger source of what were retaining you lower back from being a extra advantageous listener? different danger: perhaps it is not your listening to or digesting what somebody is asserting. perhaps that some everybody is complicated for many human beings to take heed to, additionally. the two way, I propose getting a 2d or third opinion.;D You sound extremely large & being concerned and worried. desire you detect your maximum suitable answer quickly and clean up this riddle for your self.
2016-09-27 22:51:13
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answered by ? 4
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Try not to space out. Look the speaker in the eye and don't look down or all around or whatever. To show the speaker that you are, indeed, listening, occasionally nod your head and murmur things like "Yes." and "I know!" (stuff like that). Gl!
2007-01-24 09:22:03
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answered by sowhatperson 2
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Have a good night sleep the night before, eat a good breakfast, if you are talking about school, ask the teacher if you can be moved up to the front, (that helps me).
2007-01-24 09:22:38
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answered by kmcmkfan 2
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by noting key words and interesting parts and asking questions on these to show you have listened dont allow distractions and keep eye contact going
2007-01-24 09:21:53
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answered by nendlin 6
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