and that he'd had it a long time. I knew he was evading me, but I let it go. I asked him again a few weeks later and he said his ex gave it to him. Then he got all paranoid and said he was nervous that I was mad. The thing is, his ex gave him the cross waaay before we started going out. So who cares?! I wasn't mad or jealous. But his nervousness made me wonder if I should be. Today he admitted he lied the first time I asked him. In some ways I think it's a small lie and I shouldn't stress over it. Then again I wonder if he'll lie about tiny things, what about when something BIG happens? Then he asked me if I were going to throw it in his face that he lied (as guys always accuse us of). I said, "Are you gonna keep lying?" THEN, instead of just saying, "No," he said everybody lies at times & he's lied to people before. I mean, true, people do lie sometimes. But isn't it weird for him to basically say, Yeah, I'll lie to you again"? Should I worry or just be careful?
2007-01-24 09:11:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
made in tx -
you are soooo right.
Organized,
Uh, thanks, but that makes no sense. Lying and saying you're lying doesn't make a person totally honest. It makes the person a total liar.
2007-01-24 13:32:07 · update #1
Girl, you are right to question his motives for lying.
I once had a guy tell me that the reason he lied to me about stuff is because he knew i would get mad. Turns out he was a habitual liar. I'm not saying all guys are the same, but you can't help but wonder.
I understand were u are coming from because your bf lied about something that he didn't have to lie about, and really, how mad could you possible get over something that occured before yall where even together. If he was scared of whatever little fit you could have possible threw over this, then think of how scared he would be over something major. In his defense, you might want to take into consideration that maybe the reason why he lied in the first place is because when you asked him the question, it caught him off guard, and he couldnt figure out what to say fast enough. Maybe [he really likes that chain and] he thought that if he did say his ex got it for him, then you would try to make him stop wearing it.
This situation does make you think, BUT...if this is the only the first occurence of something like this happening, then you should probably just let it go. Try not to rehash it or bring it up again, and just let him know that he can tell you anything, and you will be open minded about it.
As for his response, i don't think he meant too much by it, it sounds like he was just trying to justify his actions, because he knew he was wrong.
2007-01-24 09:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have told you the lie in the first place but when he turned around and told you the truth about the necklace later on it kinda canceled the lie out. See it wasn't a huge issue and he likes the necklace and was probably trying to keep you from asking to him to not wear it again. Now as for him telling you the truth that there still may be little lies in the future then that is a rare trait. Meaning that he knows he is human and that there may be times that he lies. Now just point out to him that you prefer honesty from him and that if the lies are serious you will split. But he sounds like a good guy don't worry about it.
2007-01-24 13:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by ADragonsGoddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a big deal. Honest people are rare all over, and hard to pinpoint. Lying I think is about selfishness, being too selfish to step up and take the responsibily for your own actions, situation and beliefs.
He will lie to you again. He also knows that he will lie to you again and this will effect his decision making later on. When faced with a tough choice like "should I cheat on her," he knows he can lie to you if he does cheat, while an honest guy would know he has to tell you the truth and would consider that when making such a decision on whether to cheat. Your boyfriend would view the consequences of cheating only as having to lie some more which he has already done. An honest man would view the consequences of cheating as his girl finding out about the cheating.
2007-01-24 09:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sean E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that lie about little things are the worst ones! that means he is likely lying to you all the time. A big lie only comes once in a while.
If he thought you were going to be mad, then you probably should have been.
2007-01-24 13:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he said he has lied before and will lie again shows that he is being completely honest. Anybody who says they will never lie to you is a liar. Your bf sounds like a pretty stand up guy just let the little thing go.
2007-01-24 09:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by OrganizedConfusion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just pay attention. he shouldn't have lied to you...but I do the same thing...if i wear something an ex gave me and my boyfriend at the time asks about it I tell him i got it from a friend because i'm scared it will bug him that i wear it...but i stop wearing. I think he was just telling you that yes he will lie that way when he does again, it won't anger you too much...i don't think you should make a huge deal out of it or anything...i think it will be fine...
2007-01-24 09:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by Sally Doll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-27 22:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my self i think that you should never lie, If you meet some one who is true, I think honesty is the way to be, I myself lie a bit now.
ButI hope you find the person who makes you feel the way you would like to feel
Thanks Robert i never did before and i think being honest is the way to go
2007-01-24 09:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by ROBIN C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well trying to be open-minded about this. It was a necklace. And his ex gave it to him a long time ago. Plus he thought you would get mad.
It was just a white lie. So i would let it go.
There are other things to worry about. As long as he does NOT lie about big things.
2015-05-24 10:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry, if he lies real bad, then DUMP HIM
but hang on to him now
hes right: everyone lies once in a while
and he cant promise never to lie to you because one day something will happen where he will have to lie to protect you from harm, like a white lie
cheers
2007-01-24 09:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by gr1m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋