I just found out I have a Bi polar friend. He is always changing moods. One second he's happy, the next he hates my guts. I don't know what to do anymore and I'm getting pretty sick of him blaming stuff on me. He refuses to go see a doctor. Please help me!
2007-01-24 09:08:09 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When he's happy, he's only hiding himself from the problems he has. He's blaming you because he can't blame himself, that might be regrets from his past life or present problems, but anything he tells you, it's something he has already or is fighting against. Maybe you could take him apart and try to understand what's the problem with him...
2007-01-24 09:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First: if he is bi-polar, actually clinically diagnosed, and refuses to take meds or otherwise manage it, you should let him know that you like him as a friend. However, also let him know that you don't like him as a friend who is being ruled by the random swayings of his bi-polarity, and until he starts using meds or other methods to manage it, he can find someone else to hang out with. You have better things to do.
Second: if he's big on mood swings, but you're just assuming (or he's self-diagnosed) the bi-polar part, find someone else to hang out with. The point of being friends is to enjoy each other's company and support each other, but random yelling at you is not the kind of thing you should put up with.
I'd say differently if he were taking his mood swings seriously, but it sounds like he isn't.
2007-01-24 09:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mood swings can be a result of many things and self diagnosing can be dangerous. For years I suspected my husband was bi-polar and when he finally got in to see a doctor ... it turned out he was suffering from PTSD as a result of an abusive childhood. 6 months of therapy ... and Faith in God cleared it right up. Maybe your friend is having some serious problems at home and he needs to talk with someone about it.
2007-01-24 09:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by Falling Pettals 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm assuming that if she's a protracted time chum, you comprehend her family? possibly it's time you had a talk with them. She won't be seeing her therapist like she must be or she won't be taking her meds as pronounced or in any respect. If she is taking her drugs, possibly she desires a metamorphosis, drugs now and lower back end working for in spite of reason. something isn't staggering and because you have been a protracted time chum, you will possibly be able to desire to be the suited individual to convey it to the family's interest. perhaps you will locate out the call of her physician and therapist and provide them a call your self if the family isn't obtainable. you're a superb being concerned individual to prefer to help your chum. Bi Polar may be a creative ailment and he or she might desire extra help than she is at present getting. good success!!
2016-09-27 22:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough. I have a close friend who is bipolar too and I've gone through the same thing with her . . . sometimes it's hard to keep in mind that she doesn't do this stuff because she wants to but because of her disorder. That said, I don't know that I would continue to try to be friends with her if she did not take care of herself medically, i.e. by working with a competent psychiatrist and taking appropriate medication. My own friend does this and even so, it's a very difficult disorder to deal with.
I would strongly urge your friend to see a doctor. The truth is that he will only get worse and worse if he doesn't. The sooner he seeks treatment the better life he can have.
2007-01-24 09:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really is bi polar, then either you adjust and when he gets in a "mood" you can allways walk away. If he is trully your friend then he will understand. And he really does need to go see a doctor. if he hasnt then how does he know he is bi polar ? a doctor would have had to diagnos that ?
2007-01-24 09:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by clubchaos1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats pretty ruff. My uncle has Bi-Polar disorder. I am sure he is just as confused and frustrated as you, sit him down and let him know how you feel. That it is hard on you and that he needs to see a doctor, it will help with all the confusion and mood swings. Bi - Polar disorder is a big deal. Mainly when it's not being treated.
2007-01-24 09:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
zoloft isnt recognised as a main treatment for bi-polar but some people have been put on it.
Try convince him to get help. Once he does i'm sure he and everyone else will be better off. Just explain to him how you feel and let him now its hurting you.
2007-01-24 09:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by secrethouse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until he sees a doctor and gets put on the right meds then this is the way it is going to be with him. I do feel for you, but you will have to read up on this condition and it will also teach you how to deal with bi-polar people. Understanding what he is going through will help you cope with his behavior.
2007-01-24 09:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this relationship will not get better unless he seeks medical/professional help and gets medication. Its not his fault that he is sick but he can do something to make it better. Tell him that he will lose your friendship because you cannot take the mood swings anymore if he is not willing to get help. He may straighten up and realize he does not want to sacrifice the great friendship he has with you, good luck, that is a sad disease
2007-01-24 09:15:57 · answer #10 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋