My baby's father cut all contact with me when I was five months pregnant with our daughter. He had a girl call my cell phone and threaten me and my baby. He is in the Army so I immediately reported him to his sergeants.
In two weeks my beautiful little girl will be here but I don't know if I should try to contact him and tell him, or if I should just give birth and then deal with him when I go after him for child support. What should I do? Serious answers please! Thank you.
2007-01-24 09:00:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
He obviously let you know how he felt when you were 5 months along..i wouldn't call him and let him know, he doesn't deserve it and you never know the harm he could cause the two of you. When you go into labor, you're going to have enough on your mind without worrying about him causing you or your baby trouble. After she is born, you should send him a birth announcement just to let him know, and then he can choose what he wants to do. For the sake of your baby, I would stay away from him physically though..if he wants to know your daughter make him prove himself to you and don't give him the satisfaction..if he still wants nothing to do with your beautiful baby girl, then its his loss..but make sure you get child support! Good luck and congrats!
2007-01-24 09:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by JKlein 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
those are all questions that ought to were suggested earlier you requested him to get you pregnant!!! in case you comply with keep him on your new youngster's existence - and yours then by technique of default - then you surely will continuously have the drama that his existence will convey. determining on on your infant even if his father will be allowed in his existence is a wide decision. it type of feels you try to respond to this difficulty with an "all or no longer some thing" anwswer. merely because you do not enable the daddy contained in the shipping room would not recommend he won't be able to ever be in his youngster's existence. consisting of your youngster's properly-being in innovations - that is time to work out an lawyer & draw up some type of "visitation" or custody preparations.
2016-12-03 00:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by molander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I would not contact him, but as soon, and I mean AS SOON as you give birth, like a week later I would file child support on him. You dont want that negativity around you or your child. What if he would want to show up for the birth, and as soon as he does, he starts acting up. I would wait and go after the support.
2007-01-24 09:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well,personally i wouldn't have contacted him and would have given birth and named the child too without him.And that's what i did after i got damped five months pregnant with my first child.He's ten now,never had a father.When he asked i told him he got knocked down by the motor bike.I wonder if the father will come some day. But do be careful and take care.Congrats too and have a safe delivery.LOL
2007-01-24 09:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by shygirl78 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Contact him from a Phone that he can not contact you back.
Let him KNow what you are planning to do If he does not Attempt to take care of this baby. Do evrything for the child that will make her fell love I Am sure it would stink to be unwanted by even just one parent {poor dear}
Good Luck ,and God Bless you
2007-01-24 09:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by Arc_Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd handle him strictly through the legal system, and I'd get on it as soon as possible. If he gets deployed to war he will get a legal exemption from certain legal preceedings (check to see if this qualifies), so you might have to wait until he got back from war--and go all that time without the support. If he's not willing to sign a paternity affidavit (which it sounds like he won't) then you'll have to go after him through DNA testing. If you get along well with his parents you might want to call them after the baby is born so that they will not miss out on such a special moment in their grandchild's life.
2007-01-24 09:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he knew you were pregnant when he started acting like a moron, I don't think it would do you OR the baby any good to contact him right now. I say, he will know you had your little one when you take him to court. Don't subject yourself to more pain than you need to when it comes to a BOY who would allow someone to threaten you and your unborn child.
Good luck to you and the baby!
2007-01-24 09:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by amanda r 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until the baby is born then send him the papers for child support. He doesn't sound like he wants to be involved. Please be careful. If he is threatening you and your baby, he needs help.
2007-01-24 09:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by offroadmolly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want you can contact him and give him the option of being there. If he doesn't want anything to do with you then that's his mistake, but you can always know that you tried to make him a part of your babies life.
2007-01-24 09:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by melly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe send him a reminder... he might regret missing out on her birth if he decides to grow-up and take resonsibility.
It is very likely he will be a complete jerk... if he is, go after him, and concentrate on your new baby girl!!
2007-01-24 09:08:17 · answer #10 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋