Fallen totally for a friend, I feel I need to tell her to be true to my feelings even though I know we'll never be together for loads of reasons. If I dont (and i've felt this way for months) then it'll continue tearing me up; anyone got any advice?
2007-01-24 08:49:51 · 17 answers · asked by Ethereal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i fell for a friend... and we were drunk on night and there was a "moment"... we did speak about it and we did kiss... i did tell him how i felt even tho we both knew we could not be together... we have a close friendship.. mainly he is my fellas mate too and i met him through my fella..thats why we cant be together and he is in a relationship... telling him didnt ruin our friendship as if your friends and its worth it you will always be friends.... we are still close mates and we both know we are going nowhere as a couple..... and im glad i told him because i now am ok with my feelings and realise it was more of a crush ...im blessed to have him as a mate and have not regretted telling him one bit.. so id say if she is a good mate she will understand and not judge .. xx
2007-01-24 09:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by tikketiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could tell her how you feel it will help you to bring your feelings out in the open, but "the loads of reasons" why you cannot be together is puzzling me, does that mean you are both in relationships. If so you must be very careful if this girl feels the same way thats how affairs start and you could end up with nothing. Good luck to you, this situation must be hard for you, love does hurt, especially when it is forbidden love.
2007-01-24 10:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer depends COMPLETELY on the information that you arent providing.....the "loads of reasons" why you cant be together. I'll check back to see if you answer just a few of the reasons, then offer advice, but I cannot offer advice blindly; I do get where you are at though...Im right there with you.
2007-01-24 09:14:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her.... I felt the same way for a guy for years, we were friends. eventually he told me that he had strong feelings for me.... I was so suprised! all those years we'd wasted! and even though we can't have the relationship we'd like it is good to know how we feel about each other.
If it is mean't to be it will happen one day.
2007-01-24 10:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by ragdoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess its strange really who we fall in love with but sometimes its suprising when that person secretly loves you back.
I say tell her because you never know what she will say and if you dont tell her you wont just be tearing yourself up you will always regret not knowing what would of happened.
2007-01-24 09:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be quite honest this would not be a good idea as this is how affairs start. If you are married and if she feels the same way there is a good chance your not going to be able to stop yourselves. You need to ask yourself why you want to tell her? is it because you want something to happen and if you do are you willing to lose your wife?
2007-01-24 09:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by charlie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well all I kno is that when I fell in luv for one of my best friends we tried the dating scence and we both could tell we we're better friends so Just tell her it can't hurt but u never kno Nothing ventured nothing gained
2007-01-24 08:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by BigBallerGurl2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it depends, some times as in my case it completely ruined our friendship, so i believe its best to let it unattended if you know it will not work out. But if you know there might be a chance then follow your heart. the only answers possible are yes or no
2007-01-24 08:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by xanax 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 03:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by catharine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. If she is a good friend she will understand and at the most be flattered. Good Luck
2007-01-24 08:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by shonnie b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋