How to get through to a virgo?

Question

I have a virgo in my family (Im a cap, virgo rising) who just wont give me a break. I've tried hard to make a frienship, and she isnt interested. We are the same age, same profession, I cant see the problem and its putting a strain on family get-togethers. Any advice?

Answer 1

That's a tough one! You two should be VERY compatible. The only thing that would make it tricky is if there's some negative ego playing into your relationship.

Virgo and Cap are so alike sometimes, it can go badly... if she sees you as a threat or feels undermined, if she feels you take the spotlight away from her, or make her look bad, she will react by putting you on the spot, calling you out, ignoring you, patronizing you, etc. If this person's position in your family is one that is crucial to your comfort (ie, a close sister in law, or something) my advice to you is talk to her, first, as a family member, as one who cares and (important:) admires her. Ask her qusetions, "Hey, how's work going for you?" Make a point of asking her opinion on subjects you both know about, "What do YOU think of...?" make a show of agreeing with her, and don't challenge too directly things you might not agree with. Play UP the positives, downplay any weirdness or disagreements. Have a sense of humor, make her laugh if you can. Make a little fun of yourself, be goofy... know what I mean? Let her see that you are human; maybe ask her advice in seriousness, about something personal (make something up, if you have to...) "Hey, there's this situation at work, mind if I pick your brain for a sec? I could use some advice from someone who understands..."

If none of that works, then she has it in for you. And THEN you talk to her as a (strong Capricorn) woman. You tell her you have something serious to talk with her about, and ask when she is available. Pursue it until she makes time for you, and then gently but firmly, with intent and conviction, call her out. "Do you have a problem with me, personally, or with my position in the family? Have I done something to offend you, or to otherwise warrent the behavior you exhibit toward me? I like you, (this may or may not be true) I see no reason why we shouldn't get along, and enjoy one another, and have gone out of my way to forge a better relationship with you. I would like to know where I stand with you, and why, so that I may close the door on feeling as tho I am wasting my time with you..." Let her know you feel it is important to resolve these feelings, since her behavior toward you is such that it is making family encounters unpleasant.

If worse comes to worse, lessen your exposure to her, and back off entirely, put the ball in her court... sometimes a Virgo won't see there's an issue until they are the one to initiate a plan to deal with it. If you make yourself scarce, she'll eventually wonder why.

Answer 2

GEMINI VENUS Venus in Gemini is classic for a player - they talk their way right into your pants. They are the flirts of the Zodiac; they flirt even when they don't realize it. They need variety and are classic for having two relationships at the same time. Both personalities need to be satisfied, hence the need for two people/relationships. A study done on bigamists showed most with Venus in Gemini. They are sincere when they say they love you and they are sincere when they tell the other person they love them. Venus in gemini represents the perpetual Peter Pan.

Answer 3

I know Virgo. My son is one and my boyfriend. There mean, you can't tell them nothing.There neat. They seem to be bossing, but there really trying to get there point across. Anyways I learned to wait until the right time to talk to a Virgo or there not going to listen. Like for example for me to talk to my boyfriend is right before bedtime. He claim then. As for my son it's best to talk to him after ate in is full of wake. You need to find there clam time or there just not going to hear you. They always think there right. But you could get though to them.

Answer 4

I'm a Virgo & sometimes we can get really jelous really easy may-be she doesn't like you cause she's jelous or something. Try asking her why she doesn't like you she might yell it at you but at least you'll get an answer.

Answer 5

You cant, even if you show them facts they are still going to believe what that to believe.Way too stubborn.They will psychoanalyze the hell out of you .They dont are blind to their own faults.You are wasting your time .it is like talking to cup

Answer 6

i am not sure but plz explain more about it ?
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