She always says no but I bet she would. How do I really find out???
2007-01-24 08:29:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If she says no, she means no. If you try to force her, you'll probably learn what it's like to live without your family jewels for a while.
2007-01-24 08:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by Rachies 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
OMG! This is such a touchy subject and beware. This could totally ruin your relationship...or not. Be prepared...but it sounds like you might not really be into your wife (possibly subliminally) if you know what I mean. Are you gay? This is how a man may actually come out...with their fantasies etc...then from one move to the next. Sorry no offense but obviously you don't mind if you want your wife to have a threesome w/u n a man/woman.
As for having a threesome....I would go about it w/a woman (unless she has shown to you that she is disgusted by the idea of a woman on woman...or man on man) but if you have a woman you trust or like or whatever...y'all could be at home having dinner etc...and maybe she could make the move. You leaving the room for a moment to could work. The same goes for a man...and have the man make a move or y'all could nonchalantly start talking about it and sex etc..and make moves from there. When people talk about sex I think it gets the hormones moving a lil....but it ultimately depends on your wife. You could pop a porn in. You could have the third wheel leave while you get your wife warmed up and have them come in and say something or try n make a move.
Good luck to you and this situation. Remember...this could change your marriage forever!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-24 17:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by tr95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try showing her a movie that involves a threeway that the woman gets very satisfied, then she may be more into it. Otherwise, you can alway go find two other women to do it with. Wife doens't need to be one of em. Threeways are amazing when everyone is into it...
2007-01-24 17:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by Aziz_Z 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So many of us men have the notion that a three way would be great. Have you considered the consequences of a three way if your spouse were to agree? Would you be fine watching your wife do something to another man that she doesn't do to you? Are you ready to accept the possible let down of your male ego, if by virtue of comparison you turn out to be inferior physically to the other male participant? Are you ready for a male to male relationship if it turns out that way during your three way? Are you ready to accept the fact that your partner may become more attracted to the other participant, be it male or female?
Many times we become captives of our own desire for pornography. We view many activities on screen that seem very inticing. But watching something that has been edited endlessly is not the same as living it in person. All I have said up to now is if we were to consider the fact that your wife agreed to it. There is nothing more frustrating and potentially devestating than insisting on something for which your spouse or you for that matter are not ready for.
I have been married for 20 years and have sustained extramarital relationships, including three and fourways but with the complete compliance and permission of my spouse. We have had to fine tune our respect, tolerance, understanding, patience, stamina and a host of other traits in order to make it work. We have had no marital, family, or social problems stemming from our choice of sexual activities but this type of conduct is not recommended for those who are not ready.
Think twice before continuing to insist that your wife try this with you. There are no subtle ways of making her comply if she doesn't want to!
2007-01-24 17:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never ask directly. Drop hints. Watch three-way action movies together. Invite a bi friend over, hang out, drink wine, laugh. Just make it all very available. That's it!
2007-01-24 16:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me know how you like it in divorce court.
That is where you are headed if you keep this up.
I think you should be grateful that you have one female willing to sleep with you.
Don't get greedy.
And as far as another man is concerned are you sure you want to bring in competition?
You may be the one left in the cold or put to shame.
2007-01-24 16:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by octopussy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If she really loves you, you might risk her getting jealous when you pay attention to the other woman, and ultimately risk your relationship with her. You can get yourself into a stickier situation than what it may seem, I suggest you keep it just you two if you value your relationship at all.
2007-01-24 16:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by Meghan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Rachies. No means NO! If you talk her into it you will not only lose your family jewels but your wife too. If you have children you will lose them as well. Is your fantasy all that important to you?
2007-01-24 16:35:48 · answer #8 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
befriend a very hot chick who likes to drink and then get your wife drunk and while your wife is drunk bring up the subject.
Or get your wife so drunk that she passes out and then invite over the hot girlfriend and you guys can both have bliss!
2007-01-24 16:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by huckleberry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what happened to no means no. Some people just aren't kinky. I guess you could just show up with another nekid body when it's time for sex and see what happens?
2007-01-24 16:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by kb6jra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋