what should i do to annoy him back?

Question

on sunday my boyfriend told me that now he has been promoted we have been invited to a posh valentines ball on feb 14th.

he said its a really posh event so i would have to get an evening gown to wear and have my hair and make-up done professionally and we would have to stay in a hotel over night as its in a town just over 100 miles away from where we live.

as you can guess i was really excited about this ive always wanted a posh dress and somewhere nice to wear it to since i was ill the week of the school prom.

then he said "but since its 6 days before my bonus comes thru we cant afford to go as even if we hire out our outfits we cant afford to stay over night anywhere."

i was really disapointed by this. we never do anything romantic on valentines day.

why did he tell me this event was happening?
what should i do?
i dont think he understands why im upset.

we have been together 3 years.

i did tell him how i felt. so he said he was gonna buy me a new top to wear when i next go out clubbing. but it just isnt the same is it???

Answer 1

I am really sorry he got your hopes up. When all is sorted, if you really love him, you will understand. I would not be with a woman with whom I could share everything. Including events that we could not afford.
I think you might agree that it is better to share all the joys and disappointments than to not be open about everything.
Also it could be he was feeling bad about not being able to go and needed somone to tell about it.
--That Cheeky Lad
Eng may have said it best!

Answer 2

That wasn't very nice of him..... but thats men for you.

What I'd do is tie him up and do a sexy strip tease in front of him. Then stop half way and tell him this is what he could have had but won't be getting.... unless he takes you to the Valentines Ball.

If he is really serious about taking you and is really skint (till his bonus comes through) then I am sure you both can work out something.

You don't need to spend a lot of money to get yourself a classic ball gown and look sexy. You don't have to stay at the most expensive hotel - I'd suggest you both sat down and plan out an budget (ie. hotel, travel, clothes etc).

There are places like T.K. Maxx which does designer clothes at discounted prices although I only know that its UK based. There must be places like that in the US.

Hope you get what you want on Valentine's Day...

Answer 3

Firstly if he has been promoted surely this would be earning extra money. Why would anyone in his right mind suggest plan this then tell u that he cannot afford it. I would be furious and suggest he get a credit card to pay for the event then worry about paying it when he nexts gets paid. Valentines comes once a year to express love affection etc., surely he could think about this before disappointing you. Personally i would drop him like a hot potato becoz if he can do this once he is capable time and time again. Wish you luck dont be messed about by false lpromises and hopes Life is 2 short

Answer 4

Text him at work and tell him your making him his Favourite starter, main and pudding too, with all the trimmings, so he'd better be hungry, then when he gets home say ohh sorry i forgot I'm not a chef so thought better not bother, then ask him how he likes it ??. :-)

But i don't understand what the problem is ?, how will anyone at the ball know how much you spent on the dress or where you'll be staying over and how much it costs ?, you could be creative with the dress and stay at a cheap bed & breakfast and no one would be any wiser ?? Personally id sleep in the car if it meant having a good time and maybe impressing the bosses, it may look good on your parts if you attended this ball !.

Answer 5

Men can be a total pain in the bum at times!!! I've not seen my boyfriend since just after christmas, he has had family problems & been unwell. I won't see him at Valentines day, I know that for a fact, but there's 365 days in a year, so I can see him anytime & have my way!!! There's nothing to say you MUST go out on ST.Valentines day, enjoy yourself any day!!! Book yourself a hotel, take along some nice lingerie & that posh dress, have some fun!!!xxx

Answer 6

Maybe he was actually thinking of going, but thought of what was best for the both of you.
The trip would probably be fairly expensive and maybe he is planning and saving for an even larger event!
a Posh/ hawaii or something trip!
how would that be?
unless you are sure he is trying to "piss" you off, don't do anything
he could just have made a miscalculation before he told you.

If he truely is trying to irk you, then go out and buy a crap load of expensive stuff like furniture, a whole load of painting or something that you like and he doesn't
OR
here is something on TV
one day when he has to stay out late for work
buy a whole bunch of pink and fuzzy (feminine) bathroom items like a plush pink feathery tiolet cover
and candles
and set them up in the bathroom.
that would drive him nuts
make sure to get things like a tampon holder to put his shaver in
and other things that guys just can't stand
like, get very feminine shampoo (unless he already uses it, then in that case, get a pink latex wrapper for it)
and a nice pink loofa
and some pink shower curtains
pink carpet for the bathroom (or whatever they are called)
trash all the tooth brushes for pink ones with flowers (snow white ones or beauty in the beast ones)

Answer 7

Why instead of annoying him you don't find a way to spend Valentines spending less money and being yourself? Money shouldn't be a reason for your valentines not be good or romantic. Seems you worry much more about details while you should really be thinking about your guy.. Or is his bonus more important?

Good luck,

Answer 8

Just explain to him how you feel, and why. I don't understand the feeling of wanting to annoy him back. He can't have wanted to do it to deliberately to annoy you.

Try taking a step back from it. Are there other ways you could afford to go? Does he want to go, or would he find it stress full and just using the money as a get-out clause? If so I'm sure you could gently persuade him around.

Revenge will not make the relationship stronger.

Answer 9

Oh that was pretty mean of him to get your hopes up like that then dump the 'but I don't get paid in time' story on you, guess you either have to move on and forget about it or find someone else who wouldn't be so mean as to build you up just to let you down.

Answer 10

Promotion means pay rise, get him to stick it on the plastic then pay it back with the extra money hes gonna earn