If you were my boss, would this upset you?

Question

I got hired by a company and relocated out of state to work at the new position. The company paid some relocation costs and increased my salary to get me to sign on, which I gladly did.

My daughter is terminally ill. We have lots of dr.'s appointment and she gets sick often. I usually keep her appt.'s very organized and don't take any other vacation time off, except when I need to be with her. I had been with my previous company for 6 years, so we had it all pretty much worked out.

So... of course as soon as I got here, like within a month, she landed in the hospital for 6 days.

If you were my boss, would you be disappointed that you recruited me from another state to come work for you and then I show up with personal problems?

I worry about this. I wonder sometimes if I ethically should explain this information before someone hires me. Would you want some kind of disclosure in this situation?

Answer 1

You're under no obligation to explain personal matters to an employer. However, now that you are en employee and one who was recruited, you should explain why you need time of so quickly and don't just leave them thinking you keep wanting to take vacations. Having someone, a manager, or human resources, know your situation can make things a lot easier. I would appreciate the disclosure, though you have no obligation to do it. You may need to say something, though, in order to secure time off, since most new employees can't just take time off when they want it. Bosses and HR people are human beings and should be willing to help you through this as much as they can. Good luck to you and your little girl.

Answer 2

You may not have to explain this to your boss but it would have been nice if you would have been up front about it. Companys need reliable people to do their job. Unfortunately you can't be reliable due to a very real problem at the moment. You need to be with your child. I suggest sitting down with your employer if you haven't already and ask what you can do to work some arrangements out. Maybe he can hire a part time person to fill in when needed. Just be honest. If possible you might want to take a leave of absence. Good Luck

Answer 3

If my boss can let me go a half hour late because I had car trouble the first day of work (This was 5 months ago...I'm still here), then something as serious as having your daughter hospitalized shouldn't tick your boss off. If you've been with your previous company for 6 years, that says it all. Has your new boss brought anything up? You're just like me..I think about things like this.

Answer 4

You have every right to your maternity leave, so if your boss is upset, then she'll have to get over it. I did the same thing...my attempt was to take 2 weeks off before my little girl showed up, but she came a week early. :-) Was there anything in writing as to what date you planned on being your last day?? Take your maternity leave as planned and when you are ready, go back to work. ~~God bless and congratulations!~~

Answer 5

Of course I would,.

Your statement of knowing that there were problems "We have lots of Dr.'s appointment and she gets sick often."

You should of been asked if there was any reason that your moving to a new location may be bad for you or your family. This was the case for your daughter. If asked this or a similar question could be the base of your removal.

Answer 6

If your boss has any kind of compassion, he wouldn't be emotionally upset. But from a perspective of simple profit and productivity, he/she/they might be disappointed.

Just keep doing your best at work, and remain up front about your daughter's health problems. But if you can afford it at all, consider taking a break from employment, or finding part-time employment somewhere that flexibility is part of the deal.

Answer 7

First of all, I hope that your child is in a minimum of pain, and hope you have the strength to go on. You have my sympathy.

It appears that your child is a minor and lives with you. I don't fully understand why you would change jobs in such a position. Yes, if you think it would be difficult to maintain full-time hours, for whatever reason, you should tell your employer.

Answer 8

I don't think that you should have to disclose every individual problem/issue that you may have when apping for a job. Companies should understand that things happen all too often people are slaves to the corporation.

Answer 9

If you were upfront with your boss from the beginning then No. If you hid this from the company then yes

Answer 10

You do not have to disclose any info about your situation if you don't want to, but, yes it may help the situation.