-I'm a high school student and I study at the library. But occasionally, I get bothered by a mentally ill kid. He like to take my stuff for fun which affects me doing my homework. I tell him to go away, but he won't. What shall I do to solve this problem that is legal, non-violent, and preserves my dignity?
2007-01-24 08:01:37 · 22 answers · asked by RWC 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Since this kid may only be acting out as he has learned from others he may just want to be your friend and this is the only way he knows how.
Ask him to study with you. Give him a book and offer him a seat. Might work?
My youngest son is mentally handicapped, disabled. He gets picked on a offly lot and we went through this stage where he would be very mean to kids he wanted to be friends with. Kids he would claim were his best friends would beat the tar out of him, break his toys and just be mean. The teachers and I got together and showed him this is not the way a friend behaves. He is learning, slowly that he does not have to tolerate these kinds of friends and this is not a way to be a friend.
Maybe this kid is going through the same thing?
If this kid is truly mentally ill as you say and not just saying this to be mean, there are reasons for his actions that rational thinking people may not understand or even know about.
I would think a mention to the librarian what is going on if all your ideas do not work. The librarian will take control and fix the problem.
Good luck!!
2007-01-24 08:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
U need to speak to an adult u trust if u dont want 2 b a tatle tale and find out if u can what dayz he'll be there so u kin avoid him, find out sumthing he enjoys and bring it w/u so when he comes up 2 u:u kin offer a peac token {build a bridge of communication} so 2 say:this way he'll b able to cross over and b comftorble with u. He is probley tring 2 make friends but doesnt no or understand his feelings enough to do it .
2007-01-24 08:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm inclined to agree with those who suggest you talk to the librarian -- that what that person is there for (in part).
The other thing you could try is to try to make friends of him -- not best buddies, but to develop a friendly (though distant) relationship.
Smile and chat a bit when you see him. Act like you like him (not in THAT way, silly, just that you think he's OK as a human).
I applaud your looking for a non-violent solution. (I can't believe some of these answers you're getting. Jeez!)
2007-01-24 12:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the answer that you could try and be friend with him. Tell him to sit next to you, give him a reason to feel wanted. He may be doing that because he thinks its funny. Tell him that you will spend some time with him but not now. Tell him that these things are yours and he has to ask permission before he takes things. If he continues, then you may need to talk to his teacher. They are educated to work with kids with special needs. Good luck.
2007-01-31 04:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by isellhousesinnm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should go to a teacher after school and tell the teacher whats going on or if you don't wanna do that try to become friends with the kid and then the problem will stop because then you'll be able to tell him to stop and he hopefully will. unless if you don't wanna try that for an image sack then i guess you should probably just stay away.
2007-01-24 08:17:30 · answer #5 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a bunch of useless junk and scatter it around your workspace. Keep your real stuff hidden or at least closely guarded. Hopefully he will just grab the useless stuff and you can just shrug and say "have fun with it" and go back to your work. He should get bored with that and move on to other stupid acts, hopefully that don't also affect you.
2007-01-24 08:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by Signilda 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-26 23:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by geesey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oo tough one. A good idea would be to politely explain to the librarian what the problem is. That way you don't even have to do anything, the librarian will have to figure something out ;)
2007-01-24 08:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by ghostly*visage 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is trying to be your friend, and he doesn't know how to do it any other way.
He likes you.
Tell him, you'll go for a coffee after class, and you will help him with his work if he wants.
He just needs a bit of attention.
Have a bit of fun with him, acknowledge him, but tell him not to play up in class, or you'll both fail.
good luck.
2007-01-31 22:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by sylvia a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My general rule on bullies is fight back, however if the guy is mentally ill you probably should talk to an adult or authority figure.
2007-01-24 08:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by landerscott 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋