Does anyone think that homosexual men and women may.......?

Question

sometimes be fooling their own psyche that they're homo...? Is there a chance that some of them are subconsciously choosing to opt out of heterosexual relationships to avoid all the ensuing hassles of getting to understand the opposite sex etc? Just a thought so don't start to attack me !

I don't mean to offend anyone - it's just a subject I have no real knowledge of and am curious to know what you think. I'm learning!

Answer 1

You can have sex with someone of the same sex, for any number of reasons, and not be homosexual. Sometimes it's just an emotional attachment, not really physical, but the person's sex drive makes it physical. If the person thinks the act makes him or her homosexual, then it's more confusion about what it means to be homosexual than it is "fooling" themselves.

They don't usually subconsciously "choose to opt out" for surface reasons, though. More often they consciously avoid the opposite sex for unconscious reasons (bad experience, abuse, etc).

IMHO.

Answer 2

I think it certainly is possible for some. I'm certain that that some would not be the majority.

I say this because I was married once. I always knew I liked girls, but I thought that I liked guys sexually as well. I was comfortable around men and am of a mindset where I can enjoy intimacy with anyone. But really I dated men because it was easier. Certainly part of that was social pressure to be strait . . but I was perfectly comfortable identifying as bi so I don't really think that that was the big thing I was avoiding. First of all boys are easier to meet and more direct, so they were easier to get involved with. I know that this is the case in gay culture too. Also, girls frighten me. They make me nervous as shy, especially if there is a chance that they might return the feeling, and that's very strange for someone like me who's typically outgoing. Furthermore I could control my relationships by not being completely head over heels awestruck by my partner. In alot of ways I dated men to avoid the levels of infatuation and lust that I feel for women. I'm certain there is some issues with understanding women in a setting beyond friendship too, but I really haven't had the kind of relationship that has brought out those issues so I can't say for sure.

So I guess if I can do it someone else could too.

Answer 3

No, not a chance, in part because this is not a question about statistics. But mainly because you would be trading one hassle for a much greater one. You discover your sexuality during your teens, and the one thing you want when you're a teen, more than anything, is to fit in. Homosexuals don't fit in, they're different. So it takes a brave teen indeed to proudly declare, "I'm gay!". Just look at yourself, what would it take for your psyche to willingly have sex with a person of the same gender?

Answer 4

not any more or less so than those who opt out of homosexual relationships to avoid all the ensuing hassles of getting to understand the same sex in an intimate fashion

Answer 5

I dont think there is anyone fooling themselves about their sexuality only they know which way they are inclined for instance a gay man may marry a woman and know he is gay but also knows he cant find acceptance in society due to its biggoted outlook on life and vice versa for a woman
teenagers who think they are gay will expierement and then find out if they are inclined to men or women or both thats why we have the labels of homosexuality
to be honest its no ones buisness what sexuality any one else is but sadly this is not how the world is
your sexuality doesnt make it a choice in figuring out what your hetro partner is like and in understanding them for no matter your sexuality you will still have opposite gender friends so you still need to figure them out so to speak married hetro men dont understand their wives and vice versa it takes time andpatience to understand and learn the behaviours of the opposite gender just as much as it takes figuring out someone who is the same gender as you thats why we have different personalities and behavioural traits

Answer 6

You're kidding, right?

I think that people may go through an experimental stage to try to figure out what they want, but people are what they are.

If you're straight but you're sick to death of all the hassles, you might find a person of the same sex to be best friends, but you're not going to get involved in a homosexual relationship with them.

BTW - Gay relationships are just as difficult as straight ones.

Answer 7

Maybe, but I personally don't consider that my reasoning. It's a possible answer for some maybe. I actually am physically attracted to women and that's why I'm a lesbian, but I'm sure there are tons of different reason's why homosexuals are the way they are. But it doesn't matter what the reason is, homosexuality should not be as big of an issue as people make it out to be. Who we sleep with is between us and our partners.

Answer 8

Once you visit Capitol Hill in Seattle or hang out at Castro Street in SF, you will realize that some people truly are meant to be homosexual and there can be no other way for them.
I'm not saying that there are no fakie homos, I am sure that there are. But probably just as many as fake heteros.

Answer 9

No. The "hassles" that go with being a homosexual are easily 3 times as bad as any issues one might have in learning to deal intimately with the opposite sex.

Answer 10

Does anyone think that straight men and women may sometimes be fooling their own psyche that they're straight?

See, I can as as bigoted a question as you can!

The answer is no. LGBT people are this way from birth.