My girlfriend and I both go to a 2 year college. We are both freshman and next year my girlfriend is planning to transfer out. She called me up today and asked me if i wanted to come with her to visit a college? ...i don't really want to go...i told her the truth and now she's upset with me. At first i DID tell her i wanted to go but...I'm not that interested I still have one more year left at the community college and to be frank...I'm not looking to apply at the college she is going to look at got accepted to. I can't understand WHY she feels this is SUCH a big deal for me to come with her to look at this college that she got accepted to...it's dumb in my opinion. well now she's angry at me won't speak to me and is calling me a jerk! I just don't want to go...why does she want me to go so badly? Is what I'm doing wrong? ADVICE PLEASE
2007-01-24 07:35:09 · 15 answers · asked by Mike T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just be enthusiastic bout the things she dus!!!!!!!!!!!!
it can't be that hard!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-24 07:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by i-duno bout-much-stuf!-xcept-dis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying where you are at is not wrong! I think one of the reasons she wants you to go with her is because alot of relationships end in college if they are not true. In college the trend seems to be infidelity with parties and such going on. Maybe in her mind she believes that if you are at the same college there is a less likely chance of a break up or cheating. Sorry if this does not help you. I hope it has a little.
2007-01-24 17:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by charlie40d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably feels sad that you're not going to be together all the time...you're both used to that. Now she's trying to hold on to the possiblity that as long as the school year hasn't started, there's a chance you change your mind and attend her college.
Also, saying you were going may have given her this false illusion, and now that you clearly say that you're not even interested in checking it out, she must be crushed. This is not due to the fact that she dislikes you. All the contrary, she DOES care about you and thus is hurt b/c you will be "parting," in this sense. At least support her and go with her to check it out. It's a new phase in her life, and she wants you there alongside her. That's what couples are for: support.
2007-01-24 15:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by abby j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey!
i know this may sound weird, but i think this all means that she really really doesnt want to lose you.maybe she is afraid that if you dont go to the same college, you will hook up with some other girl behind her back, or she is afraid that the distance wont allow you two to stick together. but that is just the way i see it, and im not there, im just guessing- the best thing to do is to talk to her about it. NOT on the phone, and N-O-T on messenger.face to face is the best- that way she will least likely get out of talking to you, like hanging up before u get a chance to say something.sit down with her, and find out why this is upsetting her so much- there has got to be a reason, and let her know u want to understand what it is!
2007-01-24 15:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Morya tal i 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would like to be with you. She wants you to like the place she is going to, whether you want to go there or not.
I suppose she never goes along with what you want, even though she may be lukewarm about it, right?
If neither of you give a damn what the other wants, break up. Otherwise, stop being an immature jerk and go visit her school with her.
2007-01-24 15:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Husker41 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being a jerk. She thinks so because your a couple. And in a marriage, if and when that happens for you, you as a couple stand by one another and their needs and wants. She's in love with you, so she feels having you with her, that your showing your love back. She's wanting to share with you the things in the "future".
Now it's possible you may have her thinking you really don't love her. IF you do, you will have to prove it, but it doesn't mean to giving in to her request either.
2007-01-24 15:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just wants you to be with her... simple... she wants u two to be together.. she loves u thats the answer.. if u dont want to go its not wrong of course and its good u told her.. just sit with her and explain her the reasons.. try to find a solution that will benefit both.. tell her that u just want to be honest with her and that u dont want to do soemthing u will later regret.. explain that u also want to be with her but not in this way.. try searching for another solution.. be caring though and loving.. and make her understand that u do love her (if u do)to an extend its normal to react like thta to be honest.. but its also ur life.. just be nice and try to explain..
work on it .. find a solution togeher..
best of luck to both of you!! =D
2007-01-24 15:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she just needs your support. Just go with her, and be by her side. Maybe she just wanted you with her when she visited her new college. To her, it's probably a big deal. Good luck!
2007-01-24 17:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TILT TILT TILT !!!!!!! You might as well have slapped her in face my friend..... she was looking to you for support and you blew it........ After you explained to her YOUR unenterest in attending this other school, did you also give her YOUR support about her attending it ????????????? She wants to get your imput on this school, a school I might add that is IMPORTANT to HER so there for should, in her mind, be IMPORTANT to YOU !!!! She needs YOUR reassurance that going to another school will NOT effect your relationship, at this point, or the way YOU feel about her......... As a man , YOU , need to learn to read between a few lines, when it comes to women !!!!!! And the same goes for women...... sorry, but YOU are WRONG on this one.......GO SEE THE SCHOOL WITH HER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
God bless
2007-01-24 15:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to her it probably seems like ur not being supportive. also it probably has something to do with ur approval...not that she needs ur permission but it would make her feel better knowing whether or not u like the school she's going to or if u think its not right for her. plus girl just get mad when their boyfriends dont do what they want them to..trust me im a girl who would probably react the same way if my boyfriend did that. P.S. i dont know about ALL girls, but personally I HATE IT when my boyfriend tells me he's gonna do something and then changes his mind..its kinda hypocritical..that might be why shes mad also..good luck
2007-01-24 15:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by ☺ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong in not wanting to go and a person that wants their way is in a controlling mode and needs tamed to know that others have feelings and that she cannot alway have her way. She is mad oh well if she strongly likes you enough she will get over it.
2007-01-24 15:40:52 · answer #11 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋