Please help.......?

Question

Ive known this friend quite closely for over a year (i have a b/f so this is purely platonic). After having quite a serious argument and not talking for about 2 months, i started talking to him again to see what happens, and this is what he said to me:

He kept saying that "a sequence of events had already begun which is out of his control, but he is doing his best to stop it, because if it happens, i will not be grateful"
and then i said that i didnt want to talk to him (out of anger) and he replied "when the sequence of events has reached its climax, thats the last thing you would want to do"

So, what could this mean?

It sounded like a threat to me, but i confronted him and he kept saying it was not a threat at all - but he hesitates to say what he meant by saying things like "forget it" or "doesnt matter". And he doesnt seem like the type to threat at all - i think he was holding back something because he said "its best that you dont know" - and then i just left it.

Now i dont think its a threat anymore because he genuinely is a lovely guy who wouldnt hurt a fly, and he did make an effort to talk to me again despite the fact that what i said to him was REALLY mean.

I said a few things to him which i didnt mean in the heat of the moment like "its people like YOU that i avoid" and he just replied "you've got me all wrong", so he's sending me a lot of mixed signals.

Answer 1

Now wouldn't I would liek a penny for everytime that sor of thing happened to me.

He was vague because he wants to be vague. He's vague because what he is implying is something within your and his social circle. (Probably something about relationship between the guys and girls or another group of guys/girls.)

He is supposing that you will not fully appreciate how serious the situation is to him, hence the 'ungrateful' bit. If you two are as close as I think you are, then it's likely that, by guessing your character, that you wouldn't. (No offence:)).

The thing to do now is to try to understand, cooperate and see what is happening within your social circles. Accept what he is telling you for the time being and play along. Within 1-2 he should be able to tell you what he is thinking.

If you can't get an answer out of him or figure out what is happening by the end of the fortnight, then post a message here again.

These sort of situation can be insignificant , but they can hurt the ones affected sometimes.

Answer 2

That's a tricky one really. I'm sure there's more to the story than you've got time to write. First thoughts are, he's in love with you and he's gonna say something to your boyfriend. I suppose all you can do is wait.
You haven't said how old you all are. That makes a difference too. I went around telling everyone I was gonna change their lives at 16 but I wouldn't say that now.
If it's worrying a lot tell your boyfriend and say something strange may be about to happen but it's nothing to worry about.
Good luck.

Answer 3

It is indeed misterious, and in these cases you need to think the worst, 'cause he doesn't leave you any other option.
He may be doing something that he knows or considers as bad, like, may be drugs, fraud, or something else. If he says "It's best that you don't know", he is definitely hiding something.
Now, it may or may not be too bad, but he considers it to be. Tell him that you are his secret keeper (though to keep a secret nobody need helpers) and no matter what is going on, you will understand, but be aware, you may end up with liabilities if he tells you and you end up with the obligation to, say, tell the police or something alike.
Take care. Be wise in this matters. God Bless you.

Answer 4

What ever you think you know about this man don't push it he may be trying to get his Owen way with you and doesn't know how to do it and that's why he says better you don't know its a way of intriguing you making you think hes hiding some thing and he might just be doing that so be careful what you say to him you might find out the hard way and you would not like that don't just take my word for ask around as you are doing and if you are a believer then ask our father God in the name Jesus Christ and Waite upon the Lord To answer you I know he will. yours in J. C. peter william lack. I hope this Helps and I ask our father God in The name Of Jesus Christ to Bless You Yours amen it is so.

Answer 5

u cannot get an answer from any of us, unless we know him personally. we can only guess. it could be almost anything from trouble with the law to him changing sexuality or having a new girl friend to a planned crime or drugs or anything. u could drive urself crazy wondering.
the only way u will ever find out is by a soft approach and asking what he meant.

Answer 6

all sounds a bit strange...i would have thought that he wanted the opposite, like he loved you and was planning some big thing but the wording doesnt seem quite right. im afraid unless he tells you, you may have to just wait and see. be careful though because even though you think you know him, he may be threatening you...just covering it with your perception of him. take care xxx

Answer 7

Sorry but I would be worried and I would see it as a threat even though he is now backing off x
Good luck

Answer 8

he is trying to keep you in suspence, it is his way of having power, i would IGNORE him. and of he starts saying all that sh!t about sequence of events again, i would tell him to grow th fcuk up and tell him that he was very annoying. dont go down teh root of asking him that is what he wants adn this will encourage him to keep on doing it.

Answer 9

It sounds like he is going to hurt himself.

Answer 10

Told you before - he fancies you!