How do you get your neighbors to mind there own business???

Question

Ok heres the deal. Me my husband and our 2 kids are currently living in an apartment while our house is being built. Last night I heard a knock at the door and when I opend it it was the police!!!!!!! Apparently they had gotton a call over a domestic disturbance with the possibility of domestic violence. I was completly HORRIFIED!!!!! Me and my husband weren't even fighting at the time. Earlier that night we had an arguement but that was like 2 hours before the police showed up on our doorstep and IT WASNT A LOUD OR VIOLENT ONE!!!! Just a normal dispute between a husband and wife. This whole incident makes me sick. I have never been so humilated as I was last night when I had to explain myself to a cop and consent for them to walfk through are apartment and make sure everything checked out. I hear our neighbors music blaring 24/7, our other nieghbor fighting with his girl friend constantly and our other neighbors kid jumps around so much above us you would think they were

river dancing. We ALWAYS mind our own business and stay out of theres and believe me they are all seriously more obnoxious than us. What do I do??? I feel like I have to tip toe around my own house now. The police didn't do anything last night other than to tell us to keep it down and that if they had to come back out someone would be arrested but bottom line is they now have our apartment flagged as one for domestic disturbance/domestic violence!!!! Which really didn't happen other than a small fight a few hours before. How do I deal and handle this untill our lease is up in 3 monthes?? I'm honestly really freaked out I havent evern had even a traffic ticket in my entire life!!!!!!!

Answer 1

You may have to fight fire with fire on this one thank God you only have three months because that sounds like a potential problem and in some cases if the neighbor doesn't know you then they are left to assume. That's why you still have people that introduce themselves to the neighbors or you may have to do it yourself. I suggest you inform your landlord about the situation get him/her involved and when the music is to loud which is illegal you need to call the police hell for that matter even when you hear some one fighting. You know what you might want to go introduce yourself both you your husband that is the American way, and if after that you don't feel like that worked then you just have to roll up your sleeves and get grimy.

Answer 2

Well the most drastic action you could take is burning down their house while they're asleep. No that's a joke, i'm not a serial killer. Next time he's mowing his lawn ask him to stop so you can speak with him and explain how you feel and that because of other stresses you like your privacy to be alone etc. If they don't change then they are playing with you guys for fun. If this is the case. Get a couple of friends. Get a car that can't easily be linked back to you. Go to a car yard at night and take some plates. Then leave your house in your car. Leave it somewhere and pick up the other car. Then go into his house with ski masks, baseball bats, a knife and a voice distorter. Pick a quiet time. Make sure you isolate them in one room. Hurt the guy a little till he's scared and tell them they need to move house. These guys sound like those brain damaged people who just don't get the picture. Nah that last bit was a joke too. Well I hope you find a way to fix this without too much mess.

Answer 3

Go over to the neighbor's apartment, and ask them why they called the cops on you. Tell them that you were having a minor arguement with your husband, and it was no big deal. Tell them that you hear their kids going haywire above you, you hear the two of them fighting like cats and dogs, and you hear their music blaring 24/7.

Tell them that you had every right AND even more to call the police on them, but you didn't. Tell them that you decided that you were going to mind your own business, unlike them. Tell them that minor arguements shouldn't be taken to the extreme. I mean- they obviously came up with some big story that you guys were screaming and shouting and making all kinds of noise (and probably throwing things, too).

Tell them that as long as you were keeping your mouth shut about ALL of their noise, they shouldn't have made a big deal out of a minor fight that took place many hours ago. I'd just discuss it with them, because clearly, your neighbors don't think that you can't do the same to them. Next time they're all making noise, call the cops on them!

Answer 4

can't do a damned thing...Evidently your dispute wasn't as normal to people outside your apt as it was to you and your husband.

Bottom line is that you can't influence the behavior of other people. If you were to confront me and I was the one that called...I'd simply ignore you. If you were to contront me and I WASN'T the one who called then 1) you'd get an earful right back and 2) the next time you got into a minor dispute or your kids were out of line...guess who WOULD be calling the cops!

That's the life of an apartment dweller...it'll end a little when you move into a house. But even there you will have neighbors who are busybodies.

Answer 5

My dad always said the best way to get along with neighbors is to completely ignore them. I have found this to be a good strategy, because it always seems that some neighbors push their luck, never leave, talk incessantly, borrow everything, repay nothing. This is not every neighbor, of course, but the other ones are not around because they're in their own house minding their own business.

Answer 6

First I would try to talk to the neighbors and let them know they are meddling, if your behavior is that loud then they should have your # to call you first.
If that doesn't work I would report to the police that they are beating each other up, doing drugs, or anything viable you can claim against them.
As a last step nothing shuts people up like a lawsuit.

Answer 7

A Lawsuit shuts their Mouths and Makes them mind their own business! You might want to file a police report against them..Ithink these people are from another planet. They were probably the same type of kids that told everything they saw except what they should in grammar school. they need to grow up!

Answer 8

you have nasty neighbours and you will be leaving soon, keep this in mind as carry on with your life, as if they do not exist, try to keep in mind that an invisible target is hard to hit, so ignore and do not bring your self to their attention in any manner, I am sorry that you got caught in such a trap, very likely that these people know the ropes and how to work them against you. other than that you will need lawyer for the next incident. just keep you head down

Answer 9

How do you know your neighbors weren't genuinely concerned about your welfare? What if it sounded to them like you were getting smacked around or that the kids were in danger?

Even though it's embarrassing to you, you should be grateful at least someone cares.

Answer 10

maybe had the wrong place? I would of been like you must have the wrong place, my neighbors are beating each other up. I would tell them to check the others and give the police the apt number