2007-01-24 07:06:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
What can you do its in the past and you move on. If you want a relationship with him you deal with the woman and the baby. Make sure he has a relationship with this kid.
Besides you dont know if your going to be around for a while or not (meaning marriage)
2007-01-24 07:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is the baby really his? Do you want to deal with all the Baby Mama drama? Do you think he'll stay with you now that he could be a father?
The situation just isn't pretty - I'd run the other way and find a new man! Life is too short to deal with all of that!
2007-01-24 15:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would avoid this situation at all cost. It's bound to get messy and jealous and once the baby is born it will be even worse. My friend is going through this exact same situation right now and I can't help but think she is having low self esteem and co dependency issues. You deserve better. If you think this is someone you'd want to be with. Wait until after the baby is born, don't get serious and let things unfold for itself.
2007-01-24 15:21:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not date him. My sister married a guy with a one year old boy and now has lots and lots of problems because of this reason.
My sister and him now have two children together and his first son doesn't like the children and even told my sister that he hated babies when he was only four.
The biggest problem is the child support payments because the money can well be used by my niece and nephew but his first son is also his son so theres is nothing that can be done.
2007-01-24 15:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by ♥SA-Spurs♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its up 2 u what u decide,no matter wot any1 tells u 2 do its your desion,but even if u stay wiv him its not guna b easy 4 u,u wil neva 4get about it no mata how much u try blank it out and u wil always come second best 2 his child.and u wil always b wanderin wil he go bak 2 her??is he meetin her behind your bak??all this wil do your head in all the time,belive me i no im 27wks preg.2 my partner n he as 2other kids t 2other women ive been wiv him 3yrs now but wen i 1st got wiv him his youngest was only a month old and it does my head in stil now so just think IS THIS WOT U WANT AND CAN U HANDLE WHATS TO COME?just do wot u thinks right x
2007-01-24 15:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by gemma g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in that situation once. I would say to wait until after the baby is born for sure and see how it goes. Make sure he is over his ex because he may be lying to himself about his feelings. If he is still interested in you afterwards, Then you can consider pursuing a good relationship. As for me I jumped in and ended up with a lot of heartache when I found out he still loved her. Fortunately for me we got back together.
2007-01-24 15:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by SquirrelBait 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he tell u right away? if not drop him. it can be stressful enough to deal with that situation after its established and the chilld is older, u definitely dont want to be there in the beginning stages. they dont have the baby thing worked out yet and the mother is probably going thru a lot of emotions. u dont need that.
2007-01-24 16:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by jean grey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the H**L out of that relationship....that means baby mama drama..lol! you DONT want that. Seriously.....it is only a matter of time before things get really hard between for the two of you! It may be different if he previously had a kid and the kid was a few years old....but even then its drama. My advice...get out now unless you like headache!
2007-01-24 15:26:54 · answer #8 · answered by mommyto2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest. It would be hard but then again if was BEFORE you guys meet. Just be prepared he will want to speak with this woman and spend time with his child. You should encourage this as well. He needs to be a dad first a boyfriend second.
2007-01-24 15:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Meggan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what does he want to do?Does he want to stand up and be a man or does he want to deny this baby.Either way I want you to take a good look at how he is treating this other girl and really think about this.That other girl could be you someday.Men dont change.If he wants to be responsible for his actions and it just didn't work out between them that's one thing but if he messed around on this girl like say with you chances are he will do the same thing to you.Please think about it!
2007-01-24 15:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by lady2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋