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Question

Is it wrong to want to be the opposite sex... i.e. MTF and if not how can you tell your parents this and get help?????

Thanks, jesse

Answer 1

I wouldn't say that it's wrong, but it will take a lot of courage to live your life as a woman if you're a man, or vice versa. Society is cruel and especially cruel regarding things that it doesn't nderstand. As a gay man, I love being a man as well as being WITH them. Though I respect those who wish to be a woman, I can't pretend to understand it. Telling your parents? Do they have to know? Will they understand? Probably not. Are you 18? If so, there are always outreach groups in larger cities, and you may find national hotlines in magazines like XY if you are younger, or look on the web. I don't want to belittle your feelings or desires because they are different than mine, so I can't/won't tell that it's "wrong". You should know this........You aren't the first person with these feelings, or to struggle with them. I once thought that I was the only person that felt the way that I do about other guys....We all know that that's not true. Hang in there. Send me a message if you like. Just look up my email here. Take care, Rob

Answer 2

In order to make the change, you will have to at least have a psychologist (preferrably a psychaitrist) and an endocrinologist determine that you fit. Early on, after some initial psychological consultation, you will be challenged to live in the role you want to assume. It is a gradual progression that can take a year or more. But getting the professional help is very important--crucial.

I wouldn't talk to the parents until after talking to a shrink. There will be tests and questions and the professional counselor will be able to remove the confusion--one way or the other. Part of the important determination is not whether you WANT to be the opposite sex, but how you've long felt like you NEED to be, or SHOULD HAVE BEEN the other sex. Explain your feelings HONESTLY when you talk to the psychologist, okay?

Answer 3

Not sure what your age is, if you are not a teenager anymore, then you may . . .

However, you know your parents, so only you can decide how, where and when.

You need to seek a qualified therapist to discuss this. Get a referral by calling an operator, then ask for local medical 'information & referral service at your local hospital or city hall.

Alternatively ask your MD or some friends for the name of a qualified therapist. This is a serious issue, and you need some healthy advice. You are NOT unusal or weird, just different.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

Whoever mentions "god" in their post are just talking bull crap. Listen, I don't think it's wrong that you want to be something it's not, in fact...we all do. I want to be a comic book designer....you want to be a female. I don't think that's wrong at all, but I do have to ask you, why don't you just accept the way you are? Being a male can't be bad. I think it's great if a person likes themselves for who you are. You're a male, but you want to be a female, do you want people to like you as a female or as your real self? I think your "real self" is much better. That's just the way you were born, but since you can't help it then just tell your parents. Be a real man for once and just tell them. They'll accept you because they love you.

Good luck

Answer 5

It is not wrong to want it, however it is wrong to act on it. Have you asked yourself why you hate yourself so much you want to change your own genetic composition you were created to be? God has great plans for you. Do not waste them.
As for telling your parents, tell them when they are not too busy and do not tell them when they are angered or upset. You need to sit down with them and have the discussion.

Answer 6

Im FtM and I still didnt tell my parents so good luck.