I went threw hell with how my ex was treating me. Then I finally broke up with him. It took me three years to get over him. I was very in love with him. Then I met this guy one day and I felt something for him. I don't know why but I just did. Then the next time we talked and I fail hard for him. What I am trying to say is I think I am in love with him. But how is this possible? Maybe I just think this way because i'm a teenager.
2007-01-24 06:24:26 · 17 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You can feel things very deeply...attraction, compatability, sexual energy/tension, kindness, etc. when you meet someone for the first time, and these can often be good signs that a relationship could be very rewarding and should be pursued, but you should never confuse these things for LOVE which is a very special thing, and you should never use that "love" to decide whether or not to have sex with someone, or leave another, good relationship, or the like. Especially when things were bad and we have been missing positive attention or romantic love in our life--like in your bad relationship and the dry spell that follows, it can make you desperate for what you're missing and cause you to see it when it's not exactly there.
(Think about going shopping or to a restaurant when you're hungry...very different then when you're looking at a menu or grocery aisle with a neutral or full belly. Have you ever just stuffed yourself because you were so hungry and then regretted it afterwards? Exactly...)
2007-01-24 10:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by B B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, I met my husband one night and we got married 6 months later...It was a love at first sight thing and now we have been married for almost 2 years with a baby on the way. It is possible but, just be careful because you will change your mind over and over. I am glad I never stayed with the guys I "thought I loved" Because they were soooo wrong for me. I met my husband when I was 20 and I am going to be 23 in 3 months! So wait a while to take any huge steps but have fun now! Love is great but men can be jerks.
2007-01-24 16:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by MyOpinionMatters 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not love, I went through the same thing.
Since your ex treated you bad, and you finally getting over him, you see this new guy as your only chance, I dont know how your ex treated you, but with me I was so desperate to be with a guy that would treat me right that I thought it was love. Slow things down, maybe down the road you two will fall in love with each other.
Im sorry you had to go through a bad relationship.
2007-01-24 15:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by ~MexicanCutie~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't possible. We like to believe in the fairy tale, but love is something that grows and is nurtured. You can't throw a seed down and expect to instantly have a tree. You may love his looks, you may love the first impression that he gave, but Dear, you only love after time. When you have argued over his old girlfriend and then made up. When you layed silently on the ground and gazed up at the stars. When you can't sleep at night because you can't wait to hear his voice. When you know what he likes on his hamburger. When he sees you without any make up and still thinks that you are gorgeous. Instant love is no better than instant oatmeal...it can leave a bad taste in your mouth.
2007-01-24 15:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by lewp77ben 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way four years ago. I had just gotten out of a terrible relationship. My ex hit me quite a bit. Well, One day I met this guy Billy that worked with my cousin. The moment I saw him I felt,...Different. I didn't believe in love at first site until I met Billy....I know it sounds sappy but it's true. Just go with your instincts.
2007-01-24 14:36:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then maybe the first tiem u thought u were in love with that person but u really werent in love with him. and it probably isnt really possible since u are just a teenager. and things can get weird so next time just make sure u really love someone to get into a relationship.
2007-01-24 14:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by Daisy! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I no longer believe in love at first sight. It may be possible, but since you are younger, and it sounds like you may need the connection you may just have strong feelings for him. Give it some time first. Get to know him and what he's really about. I'm not saying it CAN'T be, but it's best to tread carefully, especially after a bad relationship.
2007-01-24 14:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by ojibwechik 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so they say......... thus the "love at first sight"
but in all honesty, what your probably felt was loneliness and you needed someone to comfort you and he was it! Ever hear of being on the rebound? Well sounds like he was your rebound...
Don't get me wrong though, maybe you are in love with him... but for the most part, I think your heart was just craving that attention and love again...
Just follow your gut... hopefully he'll love back!
2007-01-24 15:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Tans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can happen but not in the teenage years. the moment i met my hubby for the first time i knew i would marry him and i did 4 months later
2007-01-24 14:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was like that too. Four years and a wedding later- I still feel the same way.
2007-01-24 14:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by Small Town Gal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋