i have peopel who love me, and who i love.. but i have never been much to anyone..
i've had a couple of sucky relationships.. n i want to know if there is anything worth waiting for..
is it better to just turn cold n love ur work..
it doesnt seem to be a bad option
2007-01-24 05:54:02 · 18 answers · asked by anamika 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Perhaps you do just need some time to 'love your work' but you should NEVER 'turn cold' because you would become 'less human' if you did that. Yes, you can 'truly find love' but ONLY if you 'stay open' and be receptive to what other people have to offer.
I'm now married to the 'BEST MAN IN THE WORLD' ... but I went through lots of 'sucky relationships' and didn't even want to think about getting into another 'romantic relationship' when we first became friends. He didn't want to get into a 'romantic relationship' either, because he was 'broke' and was recovering from a heart attack. We became 'best friends' because we were the only people around us who could hold an 'intelligent conversation' and also because we could 'pretend to be a couple' and keep other people from 'coming on' to us. We even had a 'serious misunderstanding' between us after we agreed to 'explore the idea of a romantic relationship between us' ... I'd put the word 'slowly' into that sentence, but he hadn't heard it ... but everything 'worked out wonderfully' and we are now getting ready to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary. Yes, we also celebrate our 'going-together' anniversary, too ... and LIFE IS WONDERFUL these days SIMPLY because I'm WITH HIM. YOU CAN HAVE THIS, TOO, but you must be 'open' and even 'vulnerable' for it to happen. Hang in there ...
2007-01-24 06:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by Kris L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God is true love-AGAPE love. Perfect, sacrificing, unconditional love. He loves you so much that 2,000 years ago, He said "This person is so special to Me that I am going to submit Myself to men. I am going to be beaten and tortured for the sake of fear and jealousy, and then I am going to be killed in one of the most painful ways ever thought of by humankind. And then, I am going to rise from the dead, and welcome My children with open arms, no matter how many times they drove those nails into My hands, because I forgive them, and I love them." He will always love you no matter what you do or have done, no matter who you are. He created you, and He loves you. Even more than your parents have ever loved you, even more than "the love of your life" can ever hope to love you. Turn to Him, because He's waiting, and He wants you to be His child. "Behold, I stand at the door and knock..." If you let Jesus into your life, He will fill the empty spaces inside of you, and you will be complete. No man or woman or child, no matter how perfect you think they are, can ever do that for you, unfortunately. Only God. Even if you don't believe in Him, God has a plan for your life, and you'll find that perfect someone if He wills it. If you're worried about that, wouldn't it be nice to have a Friend and Father you can always go to for encouragement? You can always talk to Him, because "even though the Good Shepherd counts sheep, He never sleeps, He never sleeps."
I know this probably isn't quite what you're looking for, but I needed to tell you, and anyone who may read this, anyway.
God Bless!
2007-01-24 06:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ask Shirley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not finding good relationships, you should look at yourself. It's the truth. You're either attracting the wrong people, or you're rejecting/not looking at the right ones.
Love is just nature's way of ensuring we reproduce and stay together long enough for the mother and child to survive on their own. Of course, ignoring the unemotional explanation of it, you can find "true" love if you desire it.
PS: don't pay attention to these religious answers. Like good cult recruiters, they prey on people at opportune times--when they are highly suggestible to any mumbo jumbo.
2007-01-24 06:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! You can fall in love and it is AMAZING. It really is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. So I would not recommend turning cold and focusing on work. I think you should have fun, live your life, and it will happen when you're least expecting it.
2007-01-24 05:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not necessary to try and find love. Love is existing within you. The more love you give, the more you have to give. You cannot empty yourself of love. This quality is self-aware, meaning that as you give love, you will also receive love in equal measure. If you are desiring a loving relationship, then discover that love within you and give it freely. In no time at all, you will receive more than you know what to do with.
2007-01-24 06:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are all seeking love... even those that "turn cold" do so in response to the intense need to be accepted by others.
There are much better approaches to life...
Sorry, you've had bad luck with your previous experiences... maybe you've learned from your mistakes, and it will be better in the future.
2007-01-24 06:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by Phil Knight 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be a turn cold, love your work kind of guy...it isn't all it's cracked up to be!
I am he.
But I know love exists out there for us. When and where it will come to us is of itself. And we have to get out there and seek.
That's my problem...I've been waiting for it to come to me.
Now I'm seeking.
Don't turn cold it just turns you into the person you never liked.
2007-01-24 06:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by sunnyboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's simple, really. You can FIND true love if you are willing to GIVE true love.
And, yes, it's worth waiting for. (I can say that; I waited much longer than most to meet the person I am with now!)
2007-01-24 06:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by Gee Wye 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will find sincere love for, and from, another once you first learn to love yourself, grasshopper. Don't push it. You can't make someone love you.
Friendship. Liking. Loving. Lusting. Don't confuse them.
2007-01-24 06:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by donkey hotay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Finding true love begins with becoming that true love ourselves. When we can feel that same love that we seek, for ourselves, we find true love, as true love recognize us, as its mate.
In truth, we never find love, we only find ourselves. That is when we become love. And love automatically blossoms in our life.
Our 'outer' love life always reflects our inner love life as we are the source of all the love that we seek. Seeking it outside first, only leads to disappointments and hurt, as we first need to find it within so that we can find someone to share it with.
The moment we begin to love and accept ourselves completely, we find love, as we have become love, ourselves. While await love’s appearance in our life, love also awaits our love.
2007-01-24 06:19:53 · answer #10 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋