I am stuck...stuck in life?

Question

I don't know where I am headed :(

I don't know what I should do with my life :(

I am not passionate enough about anything to give that extra effort :(

I am loosing sleep, sanity and most importantly patience now and taking up bad habits to distract me :(

Its getting harder to live each minute I try to understand and discover myself :(

I am more sad about myself day by day :(((

PLEASE HELP !!!

I don't think I am depressed as I am able to stay normal in front of my workmates and family members....

I don't believe in the concept of God but thanks for the advice any ways....


As for writing down things I want to be or do and then trying to pursue has been tried but I never being able to work towards it and give up on them sooon...unfoturnately nothing motivates me at all

Thanks to all those who have adviced me so far...

Seeking professional help is the last option on my list because explaining something to someone which even I don't understand and can't relate to seems to difficult...

Yes, there are a few things which I would like to do....look better...earn better...make my parents really proud...have a better thought process (i seem to be thinking only negatives...but that's how it is really truly)
I gave up on trying to look better, earn better because I see no end to such goals and pursueing them seems pointless and endless
....making my parents proud of me has been pending for a long time but I just can't seem to kno the starting point..and here too I see no end to it either....

One thing for sure I am passionate about is being unique , different and achieve something which connects with me (emotionally) deeply

I just need a starting point...somehting that convnices me "this is it...get on with it now" and I am sure I will do well at it then.

Answer 1

Just because you can act normally doesn't mean that you aren't depressed first off. That is a common misconception. Secondly you sound like you are missing something in your life, re-evaluate it and find out what. Why aren't you happy, only you can answer that. Maybe you just need to stop focusing on the negative and focus on the positive of your life. Constantly thinking about what you are doing wrong is bound to bring you down, unnecessarily even at times. Finally maybe religion is something you should explore maybe it will give you that "thing" you are so desperately seeking.

Answer 2

you say you need a starting point--it is right under your nose! You are on the onset of a great adventure: discovering yourself. If that does not motivate you, what will?

Are you a reader? For narrowing a career path, What Color Is Your Parachute? is an excellent book. It requires a lot of work however--and you sound stuck. What obstacles keep you from moving onward with your life? What are you afraid of? Has this ever happened before to you? Even in a small way?

Getting to the bottom of what is causing this feeling of being stuck could set you free. But it requires effort...what is going on that keeps you from exerting the effort? What do you feel about failure? Success? What have you been taught about those concepts?

I don't know how old you are, but that may figure a lot into why you are feeling this way too. Unfortunately, wisdom and peace of mind tend to come with age. It's not always that way, but most of the time it is.

Professional counseling would help you I think. Find someone who perhaps specializes in Gestalt Therapy--it is a great technique for figuring out exactly the kind of questions/dilemmas you are facing....

good luck....

Answer 3

Even if you are not majorly depressed, you might want to get it checked out. I used to feel stuck a lot, and would eat and eat to distract myself. Even just find someone who can help you focus on something that maybe you can get passionate about in the future. Maybe try to find a little passion to discover yourself.

Maybe there is some anxiety about this, too? My anxiety and depression affect each other quite a lot. If the anxiety is under control, then the depression part is as well. Maybe ask yourself if there are one or two things you are even vaguely interested in? Are there? If so, go find more information on that thing. Look on the internet, go to a library. Do you feel more of a passion for that topic? If so, what can you do next to find out more and to see if it can play a role in your life? If not, then move on to another topic. Make a plan and explore. If you can't sleep at night, maybe try to write down ideas and thoughts instead of indulging in bad habits.

Also, have some patience with yourself. Anxiety can make patience impossible sometimes because the anxiety makes it seem immediate and now. . . like it's making you panic right now for something that can't be solved right this minute. Try to stop and take a deep breath. Again, maybe write down what you are worried about, sad about, and if you can, maybe one thing you can do to try to change them.

Answer 4

There is a poem...I think it is called Richard Cory. It is about a man that had it all. Money, happiness, everything. He killed himself. Just because you can put a smile on infront of family and co-workers doesn't mean that you aren't depressed. I've been there. First, get help (see a counselor or doctor). Second, the only way you can find out what you are passionate about is to try different things. Here is the poem Richard Cory...

Whenever Richard Cory went down town,
We people on the pavement looked at him:
He was a gentleman from sole to crown,
Clean favored, and imperially slim.

And he was always quietly arrayed,
And he was always human when he talked;
But still he fluttered pulses when he said,
"Good-morning," and he glittered when he walked.

And he was rich - yes, richer than a king -
And admirably schooled in every grace;
In fine we thought that he was everything,
To make us wish that we were in his place

So on we worked, and waited for the light,
And went without the meat, and cursed the bread;
And Richard Cory, one calm summer night,
Went home and put a bullet through his head.

Answer 5

Believe in yourself


Be brave...but it's ok to be afraid sometimes


Study hard


Give lots of kisses


Laugh often


Don't be overly concerned with your weight, it's just a number


Always try to see the glass half full


Meet new people, even if they look different to you


Remain calm, even when it seems hopeless


Take lots of naps..


Be weird whenever you have the chance


Love your friends, no matter who they are


Don't waste food


RELAX


Take an occasional risk


Try to have a little fun each day.
...it's important


Work together as a team


Share a joke with friends


Fall in love with someone..


...and say "I love you" often


Express yourself creatively


Be conscious of your appearance


Always be up for surprises


Love someone with all of your heart


Share with friends


Watch your step


It will get better


There is always someone who loves you more than you know


Exercise to keep fit


Live up to your name


Seize the Moment


Hold on to good friends; they are few and far between


Indulge in the things you truly love


Cherish every Sunday


At the end of the day... PRAY


....... and close your eyes

And smile at least once a day!

Answer 6

Wow you are depressed my dear. Sounds like you are ready to throw in the towel. Please don't give up. I no things seem hopeless in your eyes. There is so much help out there. First step for you is seek councilling. You tell them about how you feel about yourself. You dont have to prove anything to anyone but yourself. If you are going to just sit there and let life pass you by, then you are the one to suffer. Get motivated. Join a club, of common interest to you, maybe pilates, or yoga. You have to make the effort. It will be worth it. Not only will you feel and look better, you might make some friends. I no how you feel about the god thing. Maybe the devil is trying to get you, and you are going willingly. Give spirituality a small slip of a chance. Millions of people cant be wrong. It just might change everything.

Answer 7

I would recommend speaking to a counselor. If you're in school still, most have these services available to you at little or no charge.

You can also take some self action to help yourself. Sit down with a blank piece of paper, and write down something like
"My plan for changing my life"
Now make a list of the things you enjoy doing. lets say 10 things.
Now for each of these things, try to think of a way you can make a career out of it, or have it take you to a better path in life. You might also make a list of goals for yourself. Keep this piece of paper in your wallet, and look at it daily. Do what it takes to achieve these goals. If you can identify the things in your life that make you unhappy, that is the first step to finding positive solutions for them.

Answer 8

your situation is God telling you that YOU NEED HIM! somebody told me last night the more you ignore God the harder He will make things for you. You said you don't believe...maybe you should give God a chance. Give your problems and everything in your life and He will fix them(He will take as short or long time as He wants). Again I know you don't believe but put some thought into it. Being with God is a whole lot better than worrying and being lost in your life.

"TRUST IN THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, MIND, SOUL, AND STRENGTH."

Answer 9

Maybe you could take a time out from your life for awhile. Helping other people helps me to feel better. Making a difference, taking away some pain in others. Maybe you could try the peace corp? Big brother? Try helping someone else, maybe in turn this will help you. Good luck, things will get better. Take care.

Answer 10

Sounds like you are in a deep funk of depression.

This is something that most of us experience at one time or another. It sounds like this depression is feeding on itself and making you feel worse and worse.

It's not likely that you'll be able to get out of this by yourself. You need someone you can look in their face and see that they mean what they say and that they really care about you.

Also, you're looking for help in the wrong place. We can advise, cajole, belittle, and do all sorts of other unhelpful things but we can't really help you feel better about yourself and your life.

Please seek professional help immediately.