contd..when my parents started pressuring us.i asked him and he agreed to settle down.However a month before the marige,he told me that he has fallen in love with another girl.i tld him tht we need brk up.he sd he wld brk up with her.just few days bfre the marrge he tld me that he cant so he dsnt want to marry.by thn all invitatns were out.so we ended up gettng married.i realy loved this guy n so did he.i had thght he wld come bck to me.its been 8months of marriage n things are worse.he has tld me he wants to separate.my parents hv always supported me n i m scared tht something might hapn if i tell thm this. i still care for him.he is not a bad guy.i cant see him hurt and want to remove myself from his life.he does not care about my feeling however he still wants me physically.i what to do..how to talk to my parents..or can i get my husband back.i have not loved anyone else. please help me..i m so scared.i cant get a dvrc bfr a yr.its hard to live with him as he does not love me
2007-01-24 05:32:46 · 8 answers · asked by baruah s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you are legally able to get a divorce immediately (sorry i dont know the law) then you should.
this relationship has been doomed from start to finish. He never wanted to marry you in the first place, but being spineless he went along with it, and now look at the results. Even BEFORE you got married he had already cheated with someone else (assuming that was the truth and not just an excuse to give you the elbow).
The likelihood is, he probably has never loved you. Is that what you want? A lifetime with someone who would rather be somewhere else? And he has the nerve to want you physically???? Are you a human being with feelings or a sexual object??? You should always know your worth.
It will be hard to get over him, because for some reason you think you are in love with him, but GET OVER HIM YOU MUST!!! If you have single friends, now is the time that you need to call on their help. Go and try to enjoy being a single woman (trust me its not that bad). Who knows you might even meet someone else in the process. But forget this guy and this relationship.
And just explain to your parents that things didnt work out - but your parents should be the least of your worries. Just focus on yourself, discover who you are without this guy.
2007-01-24 05:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like your more concerned with what people think then what is the right thing to do. Do what makes you happy! Don't worry what other people think. The people who really love you will not judge, and will support your decision.
Needless to say.. you need to leave him, and get over the "OMG we divorced in under a year!"... honey, I'm not trying to kick the dead horse here... but you never should have married him in the first place 'just because the invitations were sent out'. Your getting yourself in deeper and deeper just because your worried what people think... stop that cycle NOW.
Good luck to you!
2007-01-24 05:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by CEP 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You do not live for your parents or anyone else's approval. Divorce him, either they can accept that or they won't. You are an adult, you don't owe anyone an explanation. Obviously your husband doesn't care about you, stop worrying about him and after the deadline go file for this much needed divorce, start living your life.
2007-01-24 05:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage got off on the wrong foot! Pluck up your courage and tell your parents you made a terrible mistake. They will support your decision, whatever it is. I recommend you end the marriage and find someone who deserves you!
2007-01-24 05:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just live apart do not go to bed with him it will only make things worse tell your perants your both just having time out things changed when you both got married you must stay strong times a great healer its lust with him not love sorry.
2007-01-24 05:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents he turned out to be a real asshole and you want away from him. They'll understand your reasons why.
2007-01-24 05:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here is the best advice I can give to you. Please enroll in a spelling or english class at your local community college. Your spelling is terrible. Your english grammar skills are lacking.
2007-01-24 05:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
really would love to help...if i could read that
2007-01-24 06:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by northukstudent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋