I hate how I look down town. Husband says if he didnt like it,the relationship wouldnt have continued. But I still cant help feeling unfeminine. I want surgery to make it smaller,husband says no way,he loves it. It dosent hang,not that bad but its fuller than Id like. He says they call it a "loaf of bread". At least where he's from. Seriously,should I still get the surgery or is it fine like it is?
2007-01-24 05:31:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
We all have things we don't like about our appearance, things we wish we could change. We are each our own worst critic. It's one of the defining characteristics of being a woman in this society, thanks to all the "perfect" bodies we see portrayed in the media.
If your husband loves you just as you are, take it as a sign that you are being too self-critical. Forget the surgery, and love yourself for who you are, just as your husband does.
(Then take the money you would have spent on surgery and take a romantic vacation somewhere warm. :-D )
2007-01-24 06:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone. I also feel like mine is ugly, because of the rather 'padded' pubis mons I have (never heard the phrase 'loaf of bread' before- lol!). Plus I feel like my labia are asymmetrical and all that.
But I think it comes down to the fact that your husband likes it, he's happy with it, and there's no real problem except you view it as less feminine than you'd like. I wouldn't do it if I were you, but I don't know how uncomfortable you feel about it. If you truly think it would help your feelings, go for the surgery- but think long and hard first if you can come to love it as it is. Plus, I'd be worried about something going wrong down there, or just the sheer cost!
Please reconsider, but whatever you choose, good luck.
2007-01-24 14:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm only 18 but I want to take a shot at this. I would leave it alone if I were you.... it's not worth the risk. Surgery is not a guarantee of anything and is often irreversible. It could do more harm than good especially to an area with such "delicate" tissue. Be proud of what you've got, honey!
2007-01-24 13:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by Venus Mantrap 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You honestly don't sound happy. BUT surgery is so invasive, and what are the risks and the costs. Honestly I would go check into the medical issue and the cost and see if it fits your budget and then weight it all out with your husband. He sounds like a wonderful person and it is great he likes you for who you are but you might need this for YOUR self esteeem. So go get the facts and then make an informed decision.
2007-01-24 13:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee honey, i see warning signs all over this.. did he really say that "the relationship wouldn't have continued"? gee, does this guy really love you? or does he just love beautiful vaginas?
gosh, his comments sound so cruel and insensitive.
geeze, i have only ever gotten up close and personal with 3 vaginas, but i certainly did not critique any of them. and i have, nor will i ever, critisize a woman for her body.. geeze, God gave us our bodies and we need to love them!
i honestly don't know what a "loaf of bread" is.. and i honestly don't know the difference between a big and small vagina.
but geeze, marriage is supposed to be about love, romance, passion, compannionship, trust, respect, partnership.... if all he cares about is the physical appearance of your vagina, then i think you should dump him..
say, even if you do get some sort of unnecessary surgery.. what will it look like 10 years from now? will he still love you and want to be with you as you age?
no way honey.. don't get surgery. your vagina is perfectly fine.. trust me.. if you were my wife, i'd be giving you oral every single night of the week and loving it, no matter what it looks like down there.. and no matter what it tastes like..
it's all about love.. and if you love someone, then you should automatically want to get as intimately close as possible, and love them for who they are..
you are a woman, you are a girl, you are a female.. you have a vagina... you have breasts.. you are as feminine as anyone can get honey! if he doesn't love you, then love yourself.. instead of having sex with him, lie in bed and masturbate and make him just sit there and watch.. maybe he'll eventually learn to appreciate what he has..
2007-01-24 14:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 22m. i hope youre not talking about your pen!$. if you are then dont do any unneccessary sugery( it is dangerous). be happy with who you are and what you have. maybe you feel uncomfortable because you hate being gay or you convince yourself that you are. you hate being rejected by women and you decided to go for an alterative. so see a shrink or some sort to get you out of that phase. youre feeling unfeminine because youre not. youre a man and there is nothing you can do about it - even if you do cut it off.
if it is not youre pen!$ then i have no cool what you are talking about.
2007-01-24 13:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by phatso 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hon, if he's still paying attention to you in bed...leave it alone. He obviously DOES love you JUST the way you are! Be proud of your labia!
If you mess with them, I'd be more concerned that your husband wouldn't want anything to do with your "tainted" body!
2007-01-24 13:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The thicker the better. . . surgery should be a NO NO!!! And plus. Think about all that time you will have to spend recovering..
2007-01-24 13:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_treat101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"loaf of bread" ~ bad term
Be proud of the way you look. It's a sexy feature.
2007-01-24 13:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is fat, diet. If it is how your pubic bones are shaped, don't worry about it. My wife has a mound that mounded higher because she eats too many Mounds candies. It looks awful, but I'm fortunate, she only likes doing it in the dark. I can picture the babe I married so I can live with it.
2007-01-24 14:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋