I attend a community college. I am very reserved and rarely speak. I don't even look people in the face that much, but that's just because there is no point! People glare at me and stare. I'm beginning to think this is because they think I'm snobby or something. Why is shyness such a loathable thing? Why is it snobby?!
2007-01-24 05:28:43 · 15 answers · asked by Blackadder 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Hmmm...i never really seen it that way. I'm not sure why you feel that way.
2007-01-24 05:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mariko 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh gosh, I know exactly what you are talking about. I too am reserved and speak very little. I also don't walk around with a huge smile on my face so i always hear, "smile for once!" all the time. When I was in highschool my best friend told me that this other girl thought I was a snob coz I never talked. I was like, what?? She thought that I thought I was better than everyone, which was why I never spoke. Not true at all, of course. And during the rare times that I DID talk to people I always made sure to be really nice because I wanted to make a good impression and make people know that I was a decent person.
It was always, and still is, upsetting to me that people can't just leave shy people alone and allow them to be who they are. If you are shy they expect you to change. They talk like being shy is something that needs to "fixed".
2007-01-24 05:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jensies 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a new one on me. Perhaps people think that you aren't speaking to or associating with them because they believe you feel you are above them...the arrogant perception. When in reality, the shy individual is suffering from a form of awkwardness or self esteem issues and cannot readily approach the people. Both sides are doing a bit of judgment before they give each other a chance.
2016-03-29 00:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice would determine how your actions and attitudes are being perceived.
Buy a book on starting conversations and verbal and nonverbal communication and practice starting conversations with parents or a close friend.
Verbal communication is not only key to having self confidence and a good social life but will determine how you do on job interviews and how successful you are at working with people on the job.
2007-01-24 05:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by aiguyaiguy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Shyness is perceived as snobbishness because people who are too shy to talk to others appear as if they're not talking to them because they think they're above it. Shyness isn't snobbery, but your feeling that there's no point in looking at others only reinforces their misperception of you. Why not try looking at others and smiling? This isn't as scary as having to actually talk to them, and after a while, you might find their glares turning into smiles.
2007-01-24 05:35:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a shy person myself. I can both feel your pain AND understand what it looks like from the other side.
I can't stand EXTREMELY shy people. Being somewhat shy myself, I find them of little use. I don't have the skills it requires to draw them out, and I find I have little patience for anyone who sits there like a stump.
I much prefer brash people even if they can sometimes be a bit abrasive.
I think you just have to put yourself in their place. Observe people that YOU think are arrogant. Might you be wrong about THEM? If you saw a movie of yourself, what observations would you make about your facial expressions and body language?
I guess the point I'm making is that unfriendliness, regardless of its cause, is still unfriendliness.
2007-01-24 05:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am pretty quiet too. A few people have told me that because I am so quiet they are not sure how to take me.
I don't think it is snobby or a loathable thing.
2007-01-24 05:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know sweetie, but when I was growing I was very shy and people thought I was stuck up. It used to hurt but after a while, I didn't care. I always had lots of good friends surrounding me and how I was as a person only mattered.
Trust me when you are older it will only make you a stronger person
2007-01-24 05:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by Willow 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because when you don't speak to people they can assume you are shy, standoffish, or stuckup.
Its something shy people have to deal with unless you make an annoucement I AM SHY before clamming up and staring at people.
2007-01-24 05:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it's easier for people to see the bad in you than the good. Humans are judgemental by nature and before they know someone they already "make" that someone in their mind...
2007-01-24 05:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by shygal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People always tend to take things personally. They automatically think something is wrong with them if you won't talk to them.
2007-01-24 05:32:55 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋