Is your life all you expected it to be?

Question

Many people across the world fall into the pattern of getting a job, getting a house, having a family... Not that there is anything wrong with that at all, far be it from me to judge, but is that how you wished your life would be?
I'm currently cruising through the adolecent years of my life asking questions.. Today i ask you this. "Is your life all you expected it to be?" I would like to hear your storys on how you life has varied from what you dreamed it would be. Is there any way a youngster such as myself could diversify my life from becoming the ever occuring "normal" life style?

Discuss

*My Answer*

I believe that there are some people trapped in this "Normal" Style of living. It seems that they find it "Safer" to live as their parents did.
A monumental person whom i've been studying, Chris Crudelli, Travelled to china at a young age from where he learnt a new language, a new lifestyle and over all a new way of living.
I would personally LOVE to have the confidence of this man and indeed, others like him.

Answer 1

Its not who you are, but.; rather, who you are becoming. You are the creator of your own destiny given the parameters in witch you have to work with. Positive contributions to your self might include education, integrity, fortitude and courage to name a few. Grasp the cosmic mind. You mold your future in increments of thousands of years at a time not hundreds. Know that certain decisions that you make now will have its affects later on. Fear not- time- heals all wounds; but why damage yourself . Contribute to your cosmic future. Its like a bank account. Learn of those values that are most beneficial to your future and stick to them. This I pass on, and now you know some of my story.

Answer 2

This is such a great question I would swear it was asked by an adult and not a young person such as yourself. I can honestly say that at this late stage of my life (I'm presently 66), life is not at all what I had expected it to be and I am so thankful for that. Here is my sagest advice. Be totally yourself and by that I mean do not let any other human being determine who you are, what you think, the way you talk, the kind of music you listen to, the kinds of clothes you wear, the friends you have, the food you must eat, the sports or activities you must belong to, or most importantly once again, what you think! This does not mean you can not have friends. There is nothing more genuine in life than good friends. I still have a great friend who I met in kindergarten and we still get together today. You just need to be so confident in yourself that you will not be swayed this way and that by the uninformed opinions of others, including your friends. Your life will PROVE to be infinitely more rewarding if you are simply honest with yourself. Plato said "a life left unexamined is a life not worth living". As a teacher, I believe he was encouraging his young students to do what I have suggested. Or, as Dirty Harry said "A man has got to understand his limitations". Be reasonable about what you can and cannot do, where your skills and talents lie. But above all, I suggest you look for the presence of God in your life. Keep searching as you are now doing.

Answer 3

This is a great question! And I'm impressed that an adolescent would take the time to ask.

The biggest mistake I ever made was walking to a pattern that I thought would please others (i.e. parents). Everyday, people wake to make great money at what they love (from photography to throwing parties). I fell into the pattern of school-college-good job. But Mondays are hard because I don't do what I love. Now that I'm divorced with two children, it would be a huge risk to leave the 9-to-5 to pursue something I would like better.

My advice to teenagers is the always same - find a way to generate an income from the things you LOVE to do. Don't fall into the "get a good job" trap, because once you get responsibilities (e.g. bills, spouse, kids) - it is very difficult to get away.

"Good jobs" are only good if you use them to generate income towards your bigger goal. Get a job to meet your basic needs and to learn a few things, while working on the gig you really love to do. The truly prosperous people (in spirit as well as money) stepped out on a limb and allowed a true passion to generate resources for living.

Answer 4

Nothing is out of your reach if you truly have the desire to do it. You must want it, you must make it your goal, and focus on what it takes to accomplish it. The sky is the limit.

As for me I have traveled some, I have had several jobs that a couple were necessity one truly fullfilling. Everyone has different needs, and dreams. Sometimes the old patterns seem mundane. Sometimes you go all around the world to come home, and realize it was all where you left it in the first place. Really it is an individual thing. No one can choose what is right for you, they aren't you. My family is virtually all gone except for more distant relatives. I look at others and remember oh truthfully at times envy what they have and take for granted. I am not where I expected to be by any means and some days truly hate it. Others I accept it for what it is and make the best of it that is about all I can do. My word to you is think about it.....if you want to explore the horizon go for it. Never have any regrets. The Best To You!

Answer 5

Ok so I don't know if I'm the type of person you wanted to answer your question because I'm only a high school senior. However, when I was a little girl I always looked up to the "big people" who were in theater, and confident, and going to college. So I'm going to an amazing school in the fall, in a million groups, have the best support system in the world, and am a confident independent young adult. I couldn't have imagined anything better for my life right now, and as for the future...my dreams are limitless.

Answer 6

My personal experience is that I am not where I want to be. I know that it is because like some of the above answers, I chose to do what I thought others I should be doing instead of following my heart.

Always follow your heart and your emotions. They are constantly telling you if you are on the correct path. If you are experience Joy, love, happiness then keep doing what brings those feelings.

If you are experiencing boredom, guilt, sadness..then do something different.

You are still at such a young age and are most likely still acquiring data as to what your purpose in life is, but you most likely have some insight as to what would make you happiest. Just decide and make the most of out it.

Answer 7

When I was young, I wanted an urbane life in Manhattan, in a pent house, going to theater, dining well, living high in a city environment.

Now, I am edging up on retirement years and my life was never as described above. I married, no children, and divorced.
I came out as gay. I left my work and home in Boston behind to move to a seaside cottage to care for my aging parents, who then died. I am preparing to move to Southern California. I may move into a penthouse apartment in the city - it may yet all come to pass as I viewed it as a kid... And maybe not.
But I have no regrets. I kept my mind active and do not regret for a moment that my life took a different turn from my dreams. Live for each moment, maximize your living and it wont matter if you have the picket fence, the 80th story apartment, or the cottage by the sea. What makes you happy and successful is within you, not outside of you. Good luck

Answer 8

I figure this you should be in school today unless you are being homeschooled, I say this dream and let life happen as it may, is my life what I expected? Never in a million years, and not exactly what I planned, but mostly it is good! Mostly circumstances and situations that I have had in my life have been meaningful and important and purposeful and I take that and try to help to make others lifes better with it. I think at this point that is all I can do and all that I should be expected to do really.

Answer 9

From what I can tell, what life expects from me and what I expect from life are exactly the same thing, and that is to be a good and loving human being. It's pretty obvious to me that our lives are works-in-progress.

Answer 10

i love the way how you explained the life process. good job>house>family. I processed my life(lol) the other way around. So right now, I am back to square one getting a little bit by bit up there. It's not what I expected it to be especially after my big downfall, but anything of this situation could have been worse. It is still livable =)