My bf won't give up porn, how do I get into it even though I hate it?

Question

My partner knows that I hate porn and it hurts my feelings, but he won't give it up. So I told him I will get into it even though it goes against my principles and beleives. What do I do to desire other man if I already have one that I love? what are the websites for girls to see naked guys?.....oh god I can't beleive i'm writing this.....I think that's the only way I won't find it so disrespectful, if i have some for myself :o(

D.E.O.N.
thanks for your comments, but yes we do all those things you say and MORE!! almost every day!! We have great sex!
but he still watches porn every day, and I wouldn't say it is for the positions because we've donne it all. and It's not only porn he likes to look at pictures of girls who are just naked and masturbating. So I don't think it is because of the positions...am I being insensitive? is it wrong for me to feel a little bit sad?

Answer 1

Dont get into porn. You are right!! Its disrespectful! And addictive. Peoples lives, and relationships can be ruined from porn. Tell him to stop...I bet he wont be able to. It becomes like a drug to people. Its discusting and shouldnt be allowed!
You shouldnt give up your standards and beliefs for that!

Answer 2

Well, i suggest you to have some time alone with yourself and watch a porno. Be open mined about it. If you have already done this and you still don't like it and still believe it is against your morals then don't do it. Try talking to him explain to him how it makes you feel try to put him in your shoes and make him understand. Tell him that when he looks at porn it makes it seem like your not doing your job right or that it makes you feel like your not good enough for him. If that doesn't work then straight up give him an ultimatum tell him that its either you or the porn.

Answer 3

You don't get into it if you hate it. The human body is a beautiful thing GOD did create a masterpiece.If you look at the body as sin then it is sin if you look at it as beauty then it is beautiful.

Adem and Eve was naked until satan came along and made it a bad thing: go figure. not only that whats so different when a good looking guy walks buy and you check him out with or with out clothing on still the desire is there . Just be glad its porn and not real woman but if you cant live with that then i guess its time for you to go.

Answer 4

watch them together, find out what fetish you may have. There are a lot of categories to choose from. Try looking a porn for women ... . . they tend to be a little more romantic and they have a story or plot. If not that get one that has an attractive person on the cover and don't be afraid to set yourself free. It's natural to be shy at first, but just do it.

Answer 5

If you're absolutely dead-set against it, and he won't give it up then there is a fundamental problem with your relationship. Some people love each other, but are sexually incompatible. You should think about what you need and desire from him - if he can't fulfill those things, then move on.

If both of you are willing to compromise, how about suggesting that you both agree to only watch porno together. He can't watch it unless you're there, and you can bargain with him about what it will take for you to watch it. You may need more foreplay or different kinds of movies. Perhaps if it's playing while you are having sex with your boyfriend, you'll feel better about it. But there is nothing nasty or disrepectful about incorporating a little porn to spice up your sex life.

Answer 6

watch it together, its disrespectful if he sneaks around, or spends an unusually long period of time on the computer doing it or watching it. I too don't really care all that much for it, but would do it with him! I tried that "oh I will just do this and do that" and women are different, I prefer going out with the girls and dancing and thats my release or fun time. My bf spends an ungodly amount of time reading playboys (oh he says its for the articles) but he goes in the bathroom, I counted 1 saturday more than a dozen times for long periods. I'm sorry but theres nothing in the bathroom I want to read or look at for that long, they need that porn crap, I'm beginning to think. My bf has toys (so do i) all these movies, videos, he's like a preferred customer for Adam and Eve, and I've tried to just go along, and to be honest it gets to me, and it kinda makes me feel less confident about us as a couple, but men will never change, so make a date with the girls, go to lunch, go dance, have a blast flirting and looking at hot guys with clothes on, as long as you don't touch

Answer 7

Someone who loves you will never make you betray your principles and beliefs. Why do you have to get into it anyway, surely he has enough time to get into the porn himself. If you know he's doing it and don't mind then no problems. However, I'd start looking more closely at your relationship and what future it has. Not what you want to hear but, that's how I see it.

Answer 8

It's bad enough u feel disrespected by your boyfriend for watching the porn, but its a thousand times worse that you are disrespecting yourself by doing something you feel is wrong. If He loved you He wouldn't let you disrespect yourself. He is addicted to porn, and your not gonna change him. Don't compromise your principles and betray yourself or your gonna wake up one day bitter and lost and wonder how you got there.

Answer 9

There is no reason for you to "get into" something you don't believe in. Couples have different interests. And while you shouldn't think you have the right to make him give up something harmless that he enjoys, he doesn't have the right to make you engage in something you think is wrong. It doesn't effect your sex life or your personal life, other than the fact that you're both being too demanding about an unimportant thing. I'd say this is something you should agree to disagree on, and leave it alone.

Answer 10

why are you gonna compromise who and what you believe in for someone that is addictive to this porn? Is that what you want? to be addicted to something that you didn't even like anyway.You let him have his porn. When start to watch it in your presents then you kindly say, I will be in the next room until you re done watching you porn. All you have is you. Why would even be wondering how could you disgust yourself more? He has a problem and you should be there for him when he need you, but not to watch porn.