i slept with my boss and now im pregnant?

Question

i started sleeping with my boss becuz i just couldnt help it. but now im pregnant. he has a wife who i happen to be good friends with. and he has 4 kids. i told his wife but i ddnt tell her who the father was. and she was happy saying our kids can grow up together and now i kinda feel guilty what should i do

Answer 1

Get an abortion.
Seriously.
You shouldn't reproduce.

Answer 2

You 'kinda feel guilty'? That is really sad that you feel that way. First of all I wouldn't have told his wife that you were pregnant because when it does hit the fan, you will look even worse for making it seem like it was someone else that is the father. Now that is weird because if I was your friend I would have asked who the father was or hell if I was really your friend, I should know already.

You are in a weird situation, your life, your job, your baby, your friendship - all of the things are on the line. You should really take life more seriously. A piece of a** is not worth ruining someone's life and bringing your child into a disoriented family. I would tell you to come clean and start looking for other employment and some new friends. I'm sure your lover doesn't want you to tell. Remember that you are the 'other woman'. He probably would stay with his family. You are the sidekick. Think of how your child might be the one tossed to the side and treated differently than the rest.

When people get involved with others, they get selfish. They don't think about the lives that they are playing with. You need to face the consequences now and tell everything or face it later- I'm sure it will be uglier later.

Answer 3

You just couldn't help it?

uh-huh.

Well, think about it. You can tell him and demand child support, because he did the deed too, but something tells me that your friendship with his wife is going to suffer a little, and that your kids aren't necessarily going to grow up together.

Remember that by going that route, you also stand a good chance of breaking up a (sounds to be) happy home for his four other children.

You also stand to ruin both your careers at this company (especially his) for sleeping with the boss, which also will ruin his family's life. Of course, those things are really more his concern and stuff that HE shoulda thought of before he unzipped, but just remember that there are a lot of lives on the line here.

The right thing is for him to come clean to his wife, and for him to arrange to support your child, but you can't do that for him.

So one way or the other, you're pretty stuck with the consequences of your actions. You can have an abortion, and reward your child for your indiscretions by killing it. Or you can lovingly raise the kid as a single mom and be accountable for your actions, whether or not the guy does the right thing.

Good luck. I really hope you do the right thing.

Answer 4

Oh, you could help it. You just chose not to. Poor move on your part, but it will be a waste of time to further admonish you for it. What's done is done. You need to come out and tell the truth. Your friend, his wife, has a right to know. It is wrong to keep it to yourself. Yes, it is going to suck. The sooner you do it, however, the sooner you will avoid REAL problems like telling the kid who his dad is, or paying for the kid's upbringing yourself. Your boss owes you and your child support!! If you wait, one of these days it is going to come out. The wife is going to figure it out, and it is going to blow up in your face like nothing you can imagine. You think telling the truth now is going to hurt? Wait until someone else's attorney is telling YOU the truth. You are going to have to do the right thing and pay the consequences. Then your boss is going to have to pay HIS consequences. At least you are not HIM!! If I were you, I would never talk to him again... except through my attorney.

Good luck! I know this is going to be a difficult time. Keep your chin up and do what is best for you and your baby. You made a mistake, but it does not have to be the end of the world.

Answer 5

As hard as it may be I think you need to come forward and fess up. He already has 4 kids and now he's about to have a fifth. That means that those kids will be sisters and brothers. If you stay mute they'll grow up and suppose one of his kids with his wife starts dating and having sex with the child you have...not knowing that they are sister and brother? Do you want that?

If you were really his wife's friend you would never have slept with her husband. "Friends" don't do that to each other. But since you did you need to speak up and stop what could be an even bigger mess from taking place. Good luck to you

Answer 6

Forget about feeling guilty for the time being and ask yourself what you want and are prepared to do:

1. If you want to terminate the pregnancy, then do so as soon as possible.

2. Get another job and stop all contact with your boss and his wife

3. Get counseling so you can learn how to make better life choices

4. If you decide to keep the child, then decide to end the deception. Come clean with your boss and his wife, seek legal counsel concerning support for your child and prepare for difficult times ahead.

Don't take any more actions that will further complicate your life. No matter what you decide to do, there will be consequences you'll have to live with. Whatever you decide, consider what your real motives are. Many, many people are going to be hurt, you're just going to have to suck it up and deal with the consequences of your actions.

I'm not being insensitive to your situation, I'm saying that you have to take responsibility for your actions and make well thought decisions.

Answer 7

Well I hope you told the father. Maybe the two of you can hold hands and be together. I hope the wife finds out what a backstabber you are and I hope she beats the s**t out of you and takes HER husband for every penny. The kids might as well grow up together since they will be siblings. You and your boss are some lowdown cusses, what were you thinking. I don't condone abortion, you made your bed you need to lay in it. I hope a house falls on you and that dirty bastard.

Answer 8

It sounds to me like you deserve a raise, better benifits, a bigger office, more help, and more time off. A promotion might be a good way for him to show that he really understands the situation as well. And really, if he doesn't comply, you'll have no choice but to go cry to his wife since she's such a good friend, and you never know what will slip out when you're crying... things like who the father is and how little he's willing to help you out...

Answer 9

you know what... i'm not gonna call you horrible... whore.. or sl.ut... or i'm not going to remind you how you just have to be one of the most horriblest friend ever... i'm just gonna try to look past what you did... coz' only God could judge you anyway..

sooo..

here are your scenarios... in which i know you probably know this already...

1. You could choose to tell her. she might me accepting... and all will be well.. but most likely not... she'll proly beat you... and never talk to you again... divorce her hubby and get all the money during the divorce process... all her kids are gonna blame you for being the cause of their family break up... annnd your boss will probably hate you too...

2. You could choose to lie your entire lifeeee... and be fake...

3. You could have an abortion... but need i mind you.. you're trying to correct a sin with another sin...

4. Ask your wise a.ss boss for his help or opinion and do something from there...


soooooooooooooooooooo those are your lousy choices... good frikkin luck!

Answer 10

I don't mean to sound rude, but you could help it. You just didn't care about the consequences. I'm sorry that you are in the situation you are in, but you betrayed your good friend and committed adultery. The best thing you can do is come clean and let the chips fall where they may. You will more than likely lose your friend, but you couldn't have really valued that friendship if you were willing to sleep with her husband.

Answer 11

Fess up to everybody. First your boss, then his wife. It's only fair to your child. (Your baby has the right to know his/her father, and half-siblings). You made a bad choice and now you have to live with it.

In the future, make wiser decisions.

By the way, killing your baby through abortion is not a solution. It is murder. It's your fault that you are pregnant. Don't punish your baby by not giving him/her a chance at life.