is there anything wrong with just being friends and being intimate but not committment?

Question

My friend asked me this last night and I told her I would think on it.

Answer 1

Yes, because eventually you'll either develop feelings or want more out of the situation than what you have. It will ultimately become a very shallow, hollow situation.

Answer 2

It depends. Many people with more traditional values are going to tell you that it is absolutely wrong. Less traditional people are going to tell you that there is nothing wrong with it.

This is a question that a person has to ask themself. Only they can answer that question for themselves. That said, they need to look deep and be rational about it, not emotional! Will they be able to separate sex from their emotions? Will they not fall in love? What if the other person still only wants to be "friends?" If your friend is a female, how do they know the guy is not just taking advantage of her just for sex? It is a dangerous path to tread on, because there is often much more at stake that what appears on the surface. One wrong move and the friendship is over and someone gets hurt. I, personally, doubt that it is really possible in any meaningful way that is worth trying, but I wouldn't know. I have never had a relationship like that, nor would I. So I cannot judge someone who wants to try it.

There is one other thing, however, that they need to consider very seriously: STDs and Pregnancy. Protection is ESSENTIAL. And even then it is not 100% certain. No committment means that your partner can have sex with whomever else they want to, and they probably will. That increases the odds of getting a serious sexually transmitted disease exponentially. Also, in case of an accidental pregnancy, what will happen then? Although it is not my place to make a moral judgement on someone who chooses to do it anyway, I do have to warn that it can be a dangerous path. If I were your friend I would proceed with caution. Good luck!

Answer 3

Nothing wrong at all but be aware that somewhere down the line like relationships in general there will be some form of ownership and/or jealousy issues arise. Being friends with benefits sounds like a Utopian idea but there are always downfalls with this also. My only advice is to be careful.

Answer 4

I think it's pretty cheap. I just "broke up" with a "non-girlfriend", because that's all it was to her. I think it's an ignorant and childish way to conduct one's life. If you are going to be intimate, there should be some kind of committment. It's not like you have to be engaged to get married, but something need's to be there.

Answer 5

not if both people completely understand that they are just friends with benefits, and nothing more. I would say that sounds good but eventually someone will get feelings for the other one and it can be really complicated. Just go into it with your eyes open and no preconceived notions about a releationship evolving between the two.

Answer 6

That isn't part of my belief system, but you may have a different one. Just know that there are ALWAYS strings attached and complications to be had. If one of you decides you want the commitment, or no longer want the intimacy for whatever reason- it could jeopardize your friendship.

Answer 7

Nothing wrong with friends with benefits. Just as long as you can keep it that way. Kind of nice if you get lonely.

Answer 8

THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH IT JUST KEEP IN MIND THAT YOU MIGHT END UP GETTING HURT IF YOU START FEELING SOMETHING FOR THIS OTHER PERSON OR MAYBE YOU ARE THE TYPE TO GET JEALOUS IF YOU SEE THEM WITH SOMEONE ELSE LOOK AS LONG AS THERE IS NO FEELINGS INVOLVED GO FOR IT MAYBE YOU'LL BOTH END UP FALLING IN LOVE OR MAYBE NOT IF YOU FEEL YOU CAN BE STRONG ENOUGH AS TO NOT GET YOUR FEELINGS INVOLVED THEN DO IT OR ELSE DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT

Answer 9

its called friends with benefits.. just be sure BOTH ppl kno its to mess around and they dnt want a relationship out of it

Answer 10

She wants you as a booty call, a friend with benefits, a f u c k buddy. lol