So my husband and I are going to try to work things out after a separation of a couple of months. We are enjoying each other's company, but I am trying to be on the extreme cautious side here. Not planning on moving back home just yet, we are treating this more as a dating relationship at the moment. I just don't want to move back and have all the same problems we had before come back.
Anyone else out there successfully make their marriage work after a separation? Any tips or advice on what worked would be appreciated.
2007-01-24 04:55:53 · 11 answers · asked by freebird 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take your time and do not rush it... Make sure you can really get along good and are working on your differences before moving back together again. You should go to marriage counseling if need be as well. Just date and be friend for a while before making it official again... There is time so dont rush it:) Love is spelled time. I wish you both the best and I admire the both of you for working on and trying to restore your marriage... This really encourages my heart and I wish that more couples would do this instead of just giving up and not trying. Thanks for sharing:)
2007-01-24 05:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-23 02:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never have just a "dating relationship" with your husband. You're not simply getting to know this man, your marriage is in serious danger and if you want this to work you should take serious steps to find out what went wrong and repair the damage. The website below has some very good articles about putting a broken marriage back together. I pray that everything works out for you.
2007-01-24 05:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by crystalonyx3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Conflict or anger itself does not have to cause an irreparable rift between partners. With good communication skills and a shared commitment to a marriage, even these are surmountable. How to save your marriage https://tr.im/7ELB5
However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?
You must realize first that, you do have a choice. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter. How can we change the situation when it involves another person's feelings or decisions? While we cannot, must not and in no way manipulate, blackmail or threaten our partner into changing their mind, we can actually control how we react to the situation. If anything, you must realize that you still have control over yourself. You have the opportunity to look inward and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and even have the chance to take personal inventory of what your partner is trying to tell you. Are there points in your marriage that must be changed? If so, respond appropriately and proactively.
2016-02-10 19:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got back with my husband after a 10 year separation. We both had changed alot and grew up, thats what has helped us alot. When we were married before we were so young. But now that we are older its just great. We both are happy with each other now. We just take one day at a time and enjoy each other and talk alot, which helps a great deal. good luck
2007-01-24 05:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling. My parents separated after my father committed adultery, and sometimes when the issue is big enough- you need a little outside help. Also, one of the top reasons for divorce is lack of communication(or lack of skill in said area). Counseling will also help with this. Kudos to you both though, for not giving up.
2007-01-24 05:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to go to marriage counseling. Your counselor can help you with the timing of moving in together again. He/she can also help with all of the other complications that will more than likely arise.
2007-01-24 05:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Go16 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried it but it was unsuccessful...I found very quickly that he wasn,t changed at all...When I first moved bck it was fine but as the days pass he will return to his old ways and then all of a sudden you remember Why you left to start with....It just prolonged the pain for me...Oh they say they have changed and they really want to ,but it rarely happens.....People are who they are and even if they try to change they are who they are.........
2007-01-24 05:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by slickcut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you consider an eight year separation good enough I will tell you!
The past is the past.
2007-01-24 05:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋