why do some people assume teen parents are the worst?

Question

and why do they treat it as a sign of the times? Teen girls still would get knocked up in past decades as well. also, people say that teenage parents "arent ready for the responsibility". I've seen grown people who are immature as all hell that have children and treat them like crap and teens who are more mature than they look have kids and their children are turning out really great...
so anyway, why do people assume the worst of teen parents? why are pregnant teens treated like scourge and shipped off to group homes?

Answer 1

Teen parents are not the worst, they are able to care and love there child just as an older parent can. Being a mother is a job, the best job anyone could ever have. it alot of hard work but no one can tell you your not a good mother cause you are young. Know what I say to all the dumb people who want to say that teen parents are bad and shouldnt raise the kid? I say FU*K YOU!! she took on her responsibility for getting knocked up and not running off to kill her unborn baby who shouldnt suffer for her actions.TEEN PARENTS ROCK!! I SAY GOOD JOB, AND I"M PROUD OF EVERYONE OF THEM!!

Answer 2

Well, because this is not Medieval Times and teenagers are not supposed to get pregnant so young. If there is anything we have learned in the decades that have come and gone is, that teens are not mature or ready for parenting. It has been studied over and over again, you have teens who will step up to the plate but not so many that can change the statistics to a degree where it is acceptable or the norm. You are right, there are grown ups who should not be parents but that has nothing to do with age. Some people should not be parents, I don't care what age. They lack basic skills, like patience, tolerance and maturity, some even morals. As a teenager, you are supposed to want to enjoy your life, that is what you are mentally able to do. That is why so many teens cannot see themselves being responsible for another life, they are still trying to take care of their own. I know that for me, getting pregnant from 13-19, or even in my 20's was just not what I wanted. I wanted other things and I am glad I waited to the 30's to have children.

Answer 3

I do not assume that a teen parents are the worst. I can tell you, if you a teenager and you have a child, it makes life harder. You life as a child is over. You lost you years of being free. You might not understand it, but having a child takes away your freedom. Ask any parent, no matter what age.
As a teen you have high school, college, time where people can be free. I think everyone should have time like this.
Most teens do not have full times jobs, because they are in school. Some Teens make great mom, that not the problem, that they are giving up so much. Most teen pregnancy are not planned. I think if you are old enough to have sex, than to old enough to live with what happens. Not everyone is able to do that. Second, if old enough to have sex, old enough to get birth control and use a condom
take care

Answer 4

I agree with you, most so-called adults are not ready for the responsibility of children when some teens are. I was a teen parent and both of my kids turned out great. My oldest daughter is better than I was at her age. As far as being shipped off, the only thing I can think of is their parents are ashamed of what has happened and think if they hide the daughter away somewhere, then it never happened. If you ask me, that's stupid on the parents part. Yes, it happened and the parents need to put on their grown-up panties and deal with it by providing support and structure in every way possible.

Answer 5

Sometimes it just hurts people to see a young person that is now officially done with their childhood. I'm not saying that a teen couldn't raise a child and do right, but when having a baby at a very young age you miss alot. I had my first at 19 and I was older and had my own house and everything but sometimes I feel like I missed out on my "freedom" time I had. I love my son more than anything in the world but I pretty much got right out of school and my parents house, when I could finally do what I want, then I had my son. I went from having to do everything my parents said to having to do everything to make sure my son was taken care of. It's just hard. Especially, when you're young. Like I said I was 19, I can't imagine having to go through it when I was any younger.

If you are, or someone you know, is young and pregnant, prove them wrong. Prove to everyone that a teen can have a baby and can be responsible.

Answer 6

You're right that everyone is different. Some teens are highly responsible while some adults are not at all. But I think people mean that, the majority of teenagers haven't experienced enough to be great parents. Plus it's unfortunate for a teen to have children too early. They haven't had a chance to have a whole childhood. Your teen years are very important and you don't want to miss out on a lot of learning experiences. It's just GENERALLY better for everyone if a woman waits until she is mature before she gets pregant.

Answer 7

Do you know what it really is:

Adults do not want to care about or worry about the babies of the teens who do not care for or do not know how to care for the baby.

People think that that is just one more person on welfare who probably will never get off, andthat the baby will end up the same.

Personally, I do not think that you can't do it and you will never regret your baby but you will stay in day after day doing nothing but going crazy and you will miss your old routine before having a baby. You'll probably cry most of the time.

An older mother like 25 - 35 yeard old also go through the same but keep in mind they pretty much had their fun times, you didn't.

Mom and Dad can't watch the baby 24/7 and who's going to pay the 200 - 300 dollars a week for daycare while you are in school.

My husband and I both work full time jobs and still can barely afford daycare.

These are the reasons why people seem to think you can't do it.

Adults just feel as though you and your child will be a burden (even though they will love the baby) and a lot of times they are. And the parents (meaning yours) can't afford, their bills, the food orders, the gas, the car payment, you, your siblings and your baby to take care of.

Seriously, I know what it's like and because you sit around bored or you think that you are in love, you will tear your family apart and you will drop out of school try to find work which won't pay squat and then get on welfare.

I know this because I grew up like this, my mother was a teen mother.

We never had food, we never had clothes, all becasue she was a teen Mother. I think it is selfish to everyone. Especially the baby, in the beginning you'll have everything you need and then you'll find yourself having nothing for the child.

Think about the baby. Close your eyes and see what the future of the child would look like.

Good luck with whatever you do.

Answer 8

Honestly, a lot of teen parents DO make big mistakes regarding their children's lives. Many young parents are considered a burden because of welfare and other government assistance. It's a stereotype that I've realized I just have to change one person at a time. As a "teen mother" I am very responsible. I feel I know a lot about my son because I've dedicated my life to him. What we [as teen parents] need to do is get it together as a whole and show the world that we are great parents and break the stereotype. Seeing is believing! I make darn sure every impression I make is "Wow! She's a great mom." And that should be everyone's goal. Great question!

I have a son. I am close to a degree [only two credit hours now! YAY!] and I have a certificate in phlebotomy. I am also 19--I've lived on my own since I was 16. What am I missing out on? Drinking? Smoking? Doing Drugs? I'm sorry those aren't the things I enjoy doing and I'm glad I don't have to experience those lows in my life.

Answer 9

I think you are making a stereotypical statement, because this is not always the case. However, it is tough seeing a teen get pregnant because they are, in a sense, throwing away a future for her and the baby. Statistics are not on the side of a pregnant teen, who will most likely drop out of school, live off of welfare, and continue a cycle of poverty that may have no end. Also, most teens have no idea how much responsibility a child is. Before they have it, they are confident that they can do it alone, but that is almost never the case.

Answer 10

Okay, from the line about "treated like scourge and shipped off to group homes" I assume you've been a witness to some pretty terrible treatment of teenage mothers. For that I am sincerely sorry.

However, I would suggest you cosnider that generally speaking, American teenagers are often very selfish, immature, narcissitic and short-sighted - not the best recipie for good parenting. I've seen first-hand many teenage mothers who demonstrated they really weren't ready for the responsibility of parenting children, and very few where the children really do turn out to be great teenagers and more importantly great, balanced adults.

However, you make a very good point about many adult parents. But that sort of speaks to my original point. Selfish, narcissistic, immature, short-sighted teenagers often grow up to be selfish, narcissistic, immature, short-sighted adults. Many grow out of it over time - character is built in the crucible of difficult circumstances and the things that life throws at us - but I think you would have to agree that the kinds of flaws I'm describing are far more frequently seen in teenagers than adults, in general.

Best to you.