WE have only been married for 11 and half months. Been together for a year and 6 months. Recently he has been acting strange, not paying attention to me at all, says one thing and does another, I caught him in a lie or two (stupid ones) But when we first met I told him to never ever lie to me or else I would never trust him again...I dont know what to think, is he cheating? is he doing something behind my back? How can I find out? He says "no" about these questions, but so did my X, and he was lying ALL THE TIME.
2007-01-24 04:50:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he has numbers on his cell phone (same numbers every month) but claims he dont know who they are. he calls them in front of me, and says" your number is on my phone do yopu know me?" but of course she says NO, so I think he tells these people to say this if he calls and claims he dont know them...my husband is a courier, so he is all over the valley at any given time, no way for me to check his whereabouts....coming home late...preoccupied....wont talk to me about the issue, just gets mad...
2007-01-24 05:10:59 · update #1
Well first and foremost, never compare your current to your ex. Maybe he is just stressed, or tired. Do you have any reason to suspect that he is cheating on you? A stupid lie or two doesn't really mean anything except whatever is bothering him is something that he doesn't want you involved in, don't let petty chit spoil your trust.
If you mean he hasn't been paying attention to you sexually, try something different. Dress in a sexy outfit, leave some toys innocently lying on the bed, tie him up, let him tie you up. I have seen your pictures on the 360 and there is NO way he still doesn't find you attractive, you are gorgeous. Just seems your self confidence is shattered, and above all else, TALK to him.
Guys do keep things inside, its our nature. Its why you rarely see us cry. We keep stuff inside and work through it our own way. My wife tells me its wrong and that I need to tell her everything, then when I do she gets all upset. So I keep things inside too. Its normal for us. Give him a massage and a sympathetic and non judging ear and maybe he will open up, maybe he won't but he would be a fool to cheat on you, Gorgeous.
2007-01-24 05:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married yet but I do understand what you feel!! First I would sit down and have a serious conversation about how you feel and see what he says. If he is understanding and says he will change then give it a few weeks.. If he gets mad at you for saying stuff like that (which most guys if they are lying will get mad) then I would check his phone records if he has a cell phone and see if there are any numbers you don't know. Likely if he is cheating it would be on there. But until then I wouldn't get all worried cause it might just make it worse!! Ya know what I mean? Good luck..
2007-01-24 04:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should of took your word about you already told him when you first met him not to lie to you... means that she want the truth no matter how bad it is. but knowing that person I will be spending my life with will be honest and never lie to me and talk to me if I have done something wrong.
I saw your 360 and i was like what the heck that guy doing to you and you are beautiful and I don't get it what the heck he doing? I don't care if he changing or not but you been marred 11 and 1/2 and to gether for a year and 6 months and he should know if he not ready he should say no i don't want to get married.
But you know I married to a wonderful wife just like you and I have always be honest to her and I have that habit because I am from Deaf World and my wife is hearing... and I always tell her and tell her if there is a plm between us and we talked no matter what and she never gets mad why she knew who she married to smiling.
But many time i go with my F R I E N D are Female and I always asked my wife can i go with my friend to that movie??? and she would say yes and she always said why you telling me this because you always forget and she got to work next day all the women said your husband cheating on you and my wife laugh and said no he told me before you guys and they were shocked I wish my husband tells me where he go and who he with so I know he telling me first before someone tell me.
So Your husband should know that you told him stright up don't ever lie to me when you first met him... and guess he forgot or what ever it is. I don't forget and I have been doing this for 9 years of marriage and 2 kids age between 3 and 2 and 3rd due in march 2007... so yes we do have up and down and it not a perfect marriage but We know most improant to communcate eachother.
2007-01-24 05:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you probably rushed into a marriage, and never really had time to figure out the sort of person he truly is,he might have been infactuated and the novelty is probably wearing off. you didnt seem to know him that long, maybe he has found someone else, it is your duty to find out, do some investigating, talk to him he might be going through a problem he hasnt told you about, get some conselling, are maybe its time you should start giving him some alternatives... from your additional imformation you have already answered your own question, all the signs are there, now it up to you to act on it, cause it sounds to me like he is double dealing, tell him if he not gin step up, you gin step out.
2007-01-24 04:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he home when he is not at work? Does he have access to a computer at work?
Sometimes guys feel like after marriage that the chase is over. He caught you and now doesn't have to figure out how to keep you interested in him. Remember, that if you give him an ultimatum then you will have to stick with it. Or he will continue his behavior. Try a date night. Maybe go back to the place you met.Good Luck
2007-01-24 04:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by lisa s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And he's not going to lie just because you warned him against it! Yeah, right! He's probably gotten fed up with your typical female BS and has a couple babes on the side! Take it from your own experience! The last one was a liar. Think it might be you?
2007-01-24 04:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you have to have a sit down conversation with him and tell him about the things that bother you. Hopefully the 2 of you will work on the relationship.
2007-01-24 04:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk with him and ask what is going on. He may have stress in his life from another area, or he may be doing something he is not supposed to be. I would go with your gut. If he does not communicate it may be time to go to counseling.
2007-01-24 04:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by Peter G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well marriage is based on trust i would talk to him and ask him if there is anything he needs to tell you or get off his chest and if he says no or go to a marriage counselor and work on your relationship
2007-01-24 05:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hitting someone elses azz. Hire a private investigator and do him!
2007-01-24 04:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Doofus B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋