I think that she is in love with her friend to the point that she cannot say no to her. The girlfriend is what I would call a floosie. She has affairs with coworkers and shares all the details with my wife.
IS there any hope for me to be the focus of my wifes affection or is this situation too fargone?
2007-01-24 04:30:24 · 11 answers · asked by HOMAN B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try talking to your wife and let her know you're not comfortable with the situation. I would be more concerned if your wife is going to her friend for stories and dirt. If your wife shows the interest, it may mean she's likely to do some of it, she at least has an interest and curiosity may get the best of her. Just let your wife know you're not comfortable with it and if she respects you, she'll kindly ask her friend to spare the details next time. As your wife, you should be her best friend, not someone else. Having girlfriends is fine, just like you have your friends, but you should each be the best friend to the other. Just talk to her and hope for the best. She'll probably be understanding to your needs.
2007-01-24 04:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the 'friend' is a bad influence but it also sounds like your wife is exercising innapropriate thoughts and my bet is using the 'friend' as a scapegoat.
Do not blame the single floosie for your wifes temptations.
She is single and has a right to be any floosie she wants.
Now your wife that chooses to hang with floosies and is caught up in the lifestyle is a whole nother topic and should be you major area of concern.
2007-01-24 04:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you wife's g/f should "but out" and not be the focus of your wife attention. Do you feel neglected when this women is around? Maybe you wife just likes the juicy gossip.... anyways... try spending more time and doing fun stuff and keep wife busy, no time for the floosie then
2007-01-24 04:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband has a friend who is a bit too close emotionally and it's really weird like. He's getting divorced now and it's like I just don't trust him. When my husband and I had troubles - he tried to meddle with the in laws against me - he'd love to see my husband divorced so they could bo back to the way things were. I know my husband isn't like him or thinking like he does - but it's like - okay - I don't trust the other guy and what he might say or do. My feelings should weigh in a ton on my husband's decisions I think more than his. I'm thinking that I really need to do some things to win my husband's affection and perhaps suggest some ideas where it's not a problem like my husband inviting him to a bible study or maybe inviting him to share the superbowl with us. That would force him to realize that his friend is married, has children and that he needs to change how he looks at the relationship not expect my husband to turn into a single guy temporarily for his sake when they are together.
There is hope, you just need to do some things to win her over and try to suggest some ideas to help force that relationship to get healthier or dissolve. It's not easy because if you try to pull them apart - they will want to be together more.
I know for me I've got to pray.
2007-01-24 04:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit your wife down and tell her you do not like what's going on. Don't play around with this one. Firmly tell her that you would rather she curtail her activities with this woman. If this person is behaving inappropriately at work, your wife will be perceived as having the same tendencies; and you should explain this to her. Your wife sounds rather naive and this person's lifestyle may seem exciting to her. Sit down and talk with your wife; she's confused.
2007-01-24 04:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some point as a man you need to step up and put a stop to relationships that are damaging to your marriage. I don't mean telling her to stop seeing her playmate, I mean you need to sit her down explain your what you see and let her know that her friendship is damaging your relationship. Tell her that she may need to evaluate the friendship and the marriage and decide how important each is to her. Then give her time to think about it.
If things continue as they are well at that point you need to decide how you feel about being in a relationship where you are # 2 when you should be # 1.
2007-01-24 05:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your wife didn't want this person in her life she wouldn't have her, but if there is any way u can get rid of this person it may be wise to do so, as she may have an influence on your wife, and as they say birds of a feather flock together. sounds as if this woman is interfering in your marriage. talk to your wife about it, tell her how this is affecting your marriage, and if she doesn't stop seeing this women u may have to eventually give her an ultimatum. as friends do have such an influence on people, especially if she is very young and impressionable.
2007-01-24 04:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt very seriously if this person is involving your WIFE in any kind of inappropriate situations. Sounds more like your wife WANTS to be involved. Time for you to MOVE on.
2007-01-24 04:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TRUST UR WIFE WILL MAKE BETTER DECISIONS THAN HER SO CALLED FRIEND BUT IF U SEE THINGS R CHANGING AND SHE IS ACTING DIFFERENT LET HER KNOW THAT U R UNCOMFORTABLE WITH HER RELATIONSHIP WITH HER FRIEND BUT DONT FORGET JUST BECAUSE HER FRIEND IS A HOOCHIE DOES NOT MEAN UR WIFE WILL FOLLOW HER FOOTSTEPS!! GOODLUCK!!
2007-01-24 04:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by NONE OF UR BIZ!!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife and let her know how you feel. Nothing is ever to far gone. Communication is a key part here. TALK, TALK, TALK
2007-01-24 04:40:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋