If your husband wanted u to have sex with his best friend while he watched would u..The decision would be entirely up to u and no pressure from hubby to do it.
2007-01-24 04:21:23 · 40 answers · asked by nicole h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's one way to wreck a whole bunch of relationships and it's future dynamics.
2007-01-24 04:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by MK6 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that we can go to a spa for a back massage just because it feels good; but when we talk about genital touches that feel good, our society makes us believe that there is only one person out there who can/should satisfy us? My husband and I have never done anything like what you´re referring to; but after 12 years of happy matrimony, we´re starting to talk about it. We know we are 100% committed to each other. Marriage is so much more than the sex. Having sex with someone else won´t cause any detriment to all those other factors. If we´d both enjoy it, why not? (Using protection, of course). Liberal as I may speak, I would still need a few drinks before I actually did it.
2007-01-24 04:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by annezwevil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way. That is creepy, homoerotic and will certainly introduce negative energy into the relationship. Jealousy and envy will creep in. You will not enjoy it either - in case you were thinking it is a free pass. You will be thinking about your husband watching the whole time and what happens if you really enjoy it? Your husband will see it and the seeds of doubt and insecurity will be firmly planted. Not to mention the future encounters with you and your hubby's friend will be uncomfortable to say the least. One more thing, if you do it, you may be forced to give him permission to stray. Bad bad idea. Very bad.
2007-01-24 04:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by Tara P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should try something else. My girlfriend suggested something to me that sounds fun.
What you do is a total makeover of yourself. Wear a wig, dress in something you would not normally wear. Call your husband up and invite him to a bar/restaurant. The catch is his he has to find you. Don't go to him. Warn him that you look totally different and that its not going to be easy.
You will have the best time ever and the best sex!
I dont think that what he wants you to do is healthy. You might be able to get out of it alive but still. You are opening doors to alot of things that may not have already been there. Insecurity, jealousy, posessiveness, anger. What if you really like how the other guy does you? What if you start having feeling for him. You will awaken alot of demons. I would'nt do it. No way.
Try the alternative. Good Luck
2007-01-24 04:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you fulfill your husband's sick fantasy, you might as well find yourself a pimp.
Your husband is really sick, and is probably beyond help.
I feel so sorry for you, if you would stoop so low to consider doing this.
You need to feel special and safe with your partner, not be subjected to this humiliation.
If you dont have a problem with this, then you are both meant for each other.
2007-01-24 05:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me, Hell NO I wouldn't do it. I believe that marrige vows are sacred and that would break them even if he is into it. Think about this too what if once you get going he is like OMG no no no...then you are the one he is upset with even though you were only doing it to please him. Why would your husband want to see you get banged by another man? I am kinky but that is sick to me. I would be sooo jealous to even see another woman touch my man...lmao! I couldn't do it...I hope you don't. Tell him how you feel about it...maybe he just wants to be like too after you did (if you do) well you did it now its my turn to do it to one of your friends? How would that make you feel...think about that tooo and tell him your thoughts on that! Good luck I hope you make the right choice for you.
2007-01-24 04:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by me! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, that can only end one way badly. No matter how much of a turn on it is he will never ever look at you the same. And his buddy will probably come onto you every chance he gets because he'll think your easy.
2007-01-24 09:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had this question posed to me and to be honest, the answer for me would be no. I had thought, "right moment, right time" but in reality, it just couldn't happen for me because, I know I would have emotional issues with it later, despite the fact that my hubby would be right there.
To go in this direction, you must have no doubts in either minds before engaging in this type of fantasy.
2007-01-24 04:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he truly loved you,,he wouldn't had even asked such a question.I think he's selfish and is only thinking about his needs and not your feelings.And if your thinking about doing it,then you need to ask yourself why are you 2 married if your having sex with other ppl.
2007-01-24 04:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Mother of 2 girls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, unless hubby was involved. However, be very careful, your husband might have other things in mind. If you do for him, he may suggest a role reversal
2007-01-24 04:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO I WOULD NOT DO IT. BUT IS HE ASKING YOU FOR REALS OR MAYBE HE IS TRYING TO TEST YOU TO SEE IF YOU WOULD BE WITH SOMEONE ELSE OR EVEN IF YOU ARE ATTRACTED BY HIS FRIEND SO IT'S A TUFF CHOICE IF IT'S YOUR SITUATION IF THE FRIEND KNOWS ABOUT IT THEN IT'S UP TO YOU TO CHOOSE IF YOU WANT FOR YOUR HUSBAND TO HOLD IT AGAINST YOU LATER ON LIKE SAYING HE DID NOT PRESSURE YOU THAT IT WAS YOUR CHOICE ALSO MAYBE HE WANTS A FREE PASS LIKE IF YOU DO DECIDE TO DO IT THEN HE WILL SUGGEST TO BE WITH ANOTHER GIRL THNK ABOUT IT BUT I WOULD NOOOOOOOOOOT DO IT!
2007-01-24 04:27:28 · answer #11 · answered by GIGGLES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋