I HAVE LOU GEHRIG'S(termanal illness) IAM ABOUT A YEAR AN A HALF INTO IT ,DR SAY ANYWHERE FROM 1 TO 3 YRS LEFT. WHEN ME AND MY WIFE FIRST FOUND OUT....SHE SWORE SHE WOULD BE BY MY SIDE,AND NOW THAT THINGS ARE GETTING ROUGH,AT FIRST SHE TOTALY AGAINST NURSING HOMES,AND NOW SHE IS HINTING AROUND ABOUT THAT MAYBE I'LL NEED ONE SOON. I HAVE FAMILY IN OTHER STATES THAT SAID THEY WOULD TAKE CARE OF ME TIL THE END ...BUT WE HAVE TWO YOUNG CHILDREN...AND I FEAR I WILL NOT SEE THEM.
2007-01-24 04:13:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this. Ask your wife if having a nurse come to the home to help would be a better option for you and for your children. Your wife might want to consider that before a nursing home. When you two were married, it was for in sickness and in health. You need to be with your children. You are in my prayers.
2007-01-27 20:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother was very ill towards the end of her life. We tried very hard to keep her at home, but she needed a lot more care than a home health worker could provide. Although my heart goes out to you, I must warn that there is only so much care that can be provided in the home - most people are sent to nursing homes because they need the specialized care. Also, I would consider the impact that your illness will have on your young children. You could perhaps try an assisted living facility in your area first - you can come/go as you please and see your kids, but still have the specialized care that you will need.
If you are having problems with your wife, I would strongly urge that you settle your estate affairs as soon as possible.
2007-01-24 15:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is time to stop hinting with your wife and sidebar conversations with your family far away, and start talking openly with your wife. You did not say how disabled you are from the disease at this point, but I noticed you also didn't mention it.
Is your wife hinting at a nursing home or is she trying to talk to you about a nursing home because your care is more then she can safely handle? Is she financially unable to take care of you and take care of the household bills also? All the love in the world can't help a 100 lb woman lift a 200 lb man, not that there is a mention of love for this woman in your question. It doesn't even sound like you would miss her.
If you move away, you will need to talk to her about bringing the children to you to visit. If you move to a nursing home, you will need to talk to her about bringing the children to visit you. If you stay home, you will need to talk to her beyond hinting if you have any chance of staying in a quality relationship.
2007-01-27 08:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by PJ H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my prayers. If your family has the means and ability to take care of you then I would go to live with them. That way you have people you know and love with you at all times. I'm sure that your children can come to see you as often as possible. Especially more towards the end.
2007-01-24 12:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by DL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine what you are feeling but I think a nursing home would be a good idea. You would have a lot of people to talk to who live there and work there and you could still see your kids, because you said your family is out of state. God bless you.
2007-01-24 12:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by Tiny little hot one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad. I would have stuck by you till the end and will if my husband ever gets bad. You should let your family take care of you if they want and can. I am sure she will do all in her power to let you see the kids. Your family can work that out for you I am sure. Take of yourself and will pray for you. Peaceful end for you.
2007-01-24 12:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by browneyes79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my prayers go out to you....
i would want to be with family...knowing they care and would do what is best for ME. your wife sounds selfish...she should stand by you NO matter what it takes....and should not deprive you of seeing your children for the little time you may have...
will pray that they find a cure for you asap! god bless..
2007-01-24 12:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by STARZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋