Am mum of 8. Kids doing my nut in.Wont do what they told or asked.Climbing the furniture like they going up everest. Hubby doing t.How to keep the cool before i string them all to the wall outside and start the next revolution...Any ideas guys and gals...PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEE
2007-01-24 04:09:53 · 17 answers · asked by GRANDMA 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would strong them to the nearest tre,, take your hubby's credit card for a road trip and come back refreshed and relaxed, hoping they have learnt a lesson. You can also just say:"Listen, I am going on a bit of a holiday. You guys have to see what you do, as that is what you do in any case." Then leave. Really. For a week or so. I bet you your family will think about themselves in your absence.
2007-01-24 04:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by MM 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Walk out. Leave them. Tell them what you are going to do; tell them you are sick of being their mom; that families are a co-op, and you don't see any co-operation coming from them.
Scare them. Kids have to understand you have limits too.
Make sure a friend or neighbour is keeping an eye on them, and GO.
Go to a movie. Go for a walk. Get your hair done. Have a facial. Have a massage.
If you have no money, go window shopping. Go into a nice coffe shop and treat yourself . Spend an hour over the coffee.
Call a friend.
When you feel ready to face them again, go back.
Don't yell.
Stay cool.
Do that for yourself at least once a week.
Be unavailable sometimes.
If you can't get out, put them all in the one room and close all the doors so you can't hear the noise.
Put the kettle on.
Take a few deep breaths.
Oh, lady, been there.........
They don't stay that way forever; one day you will be quite surprised at how civilised your children have turned out to be.
And it will be all down to you.
It might feel like you are losing the battle; I often did.
I had five; husband left; eldest child 16, youngest 8 months.
It gets better. You will make it.
Good on ya girl.
2007-01-24 06:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest family counseling and be more strict and firm with them. Also tell your hubby you need to get away for a vacation by yourself. Your kids should respect you and if they don't, paddle their bottoms and send them to their rooms and take certain privileges of their's away. Time-outs seem to work too. Also let them know you're not going to put up with their nonsense and make a house rules list and if the kids violate it, tell them that their will be consequences for their actions. Good luck. How old are your kids? If you need a friend I'm here. E-mail me at midnightwolf99_2000@yahoo.com
2007-01-24 04:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by midnightwolf99_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved to a different area (even country come to think of it!) in Sep and was feeling quite isolated until I stumbled across this forum. Some people might think it sad but to me it's God sent. I read a lot of what's flying about and can ask about things that are hard to discuss with anybody face to face and get opinions from all walks of life. I might be alone but do not feel lonely anymore. You have taken the first step already but if you like to go out you might want to find time to do that. Welcome to the cyber world. x
2007-01-24 04:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by kahahius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm normally everyone else's shoulder to cry on. My friends have so many bloody issues that I could be a psychiatrist without any further training. My shoulder to cry on is my boss in my part time job. She always listens to me (even when I'm supposed to be working) then tells me that I'm better than whoever has upset me and tells me to get on with my shift.
2007-01-24 04:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by Skippy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do practical things with them that will keep them ocupied, drawing. colouring,sticking, etc,set rules like time out .where if they play you up make them sit out until they behave, another thing to do is dont give them things with E numbers in etc,banning junk food if they eat it will improve things too.
2007-01-24 04:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by jcraze1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh God help you?
Take them to the park, let them run and scream, no actually take them for an extra long walk, thei'll be so knackered they won't know what'll have happened.
2007-01-24 04:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Bekka ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have something for them to do.. keep them buisy with art work that isnt that messy and/or read them a hsort story! maybe that way they can calm down! hope it works!
2007-01-24 04:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by love isn't everything! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flog em on ebay get some money for a few g&ts to calm you down
2007-01-24 04:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
8 kids? What the hell for? Nobody mention condoms at any point?
And now you want sympathy, I suppose?
Guess how sympathetic I feel towards your dumb a'rse... I'll give you a clue: on a scale of one to one million, one million being the most sympathetic a person can be, I rate considerably lower than one.
2007-01-24 04:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by madonnas_minge 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋