friend's 15yo son missing for week, but seen in neighborhood, help?

Question

15yo son ran from home a week ago. Police won't look. Friends won't talk. Boy says he doesn't like rules and wants to be on own. What can parent do to find and to keep him at home?

Answer 1

OK, well I don't know which state you are in But I live in CO. I ran away when I was thirteen because I was dumb and didn't want to have any rules. (And that was the only reason) Anyway, my parents called the police but they wouldn't do anything with a runaway. They DON'T have to look for them. The only way your child will be picked up by the police is if he gets caught doing something illegal. Ex: Curfew, Shoplifting, anything he is not supposed to. I put my parents through hell, and I regret that to this very day. He will learn. If he is staying at a friends house, he will soon wear out is welcome. TRUST ME! Even if he is jumping to one friend to anothers he will get sick of it. It may take a while but most other Parents will catch on and try to get a hold of you. Unless you get the dreaded parent that says it's OK for them to be there. In that case you can get them for 'Harboring a runaway'
And I am sure your son will feel guilty if he gets them into trouble.
Just keep looking for him, no guarantees that he will come back. But if/when he does, you should sit down with him and make some terms and agreements with him. Remember, you have to let your son live a little, or he WILL just run again. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Hm. well 15 year old boys are REALLY good at keeping things to themselves so most likely that he's staying at a friends house and the partents of the friend probably dont even know it. either that or he has an adult friend that lives by himself. well it seems like the parents of this boy knows that he's ok since u say that he said that he doesn't like the rules and wants to be on his own. so if they have some sort of contact with this kid than atleast they dont have to worry about his well being...even tho they really will never stop worrying. let the kid find out that the rules at his house is NOTHING compaired to the real cruel world out there. its been a week which is like a vacation time. i dont think he'll last more than a month. but dont let it pass more than a month because then he's ganna think that he's not welcome anymore. its really hard to say what to do because teens vary in personalities and to how much u can push them. theres some that you can pertend not to care for and they come crawling back but then theres those who if you even ignore them a little then they think that you dont love them and think that whats the point of going back. but i think that your best bet would be to put up posters of him, hand out flyers, and even go door to door asking if anyone has seen them. also call all of his friends, or better yet talk to them in person. you can usually tell if they are lying and if they wont crack tell them that they could be sent to Juvi or even sentensed as an adult and go straight to jail. that usually makes them talk...and then if all else fails.....most friend will betray their other friends for money expecially teens. so offer a reward....but dont say how much.....so when they turn in their friend...in this case ur friends son. just say thank you as the reward or if they start with that they want money....give them a dollar. i mean techniclly that is a reward right?! well i hope i helped. atleast a little. Bye

Answer 3

You should start with his friends and beg them to tell you or try talking to their parents (someone always knows something). Tell them that all you want to know is where he is at and if he is being looked after. Tell the friends that his parents love him and are concerned about him and are willing to work things out but they need to talk to him and if they really care about their friend they will help you out.
When the parents do find him they should request a visit to the place with the person in charge and their son and talk with them, together. They should be there just to talk and not to force him home (he'll just take off and you'll never find him again. The parents have to let them and their son know that they love their son and are willing to work things out if given the chance. The parents have to be willing to listen to their son and decide what they are willing to change in order for him to come back home.
For the time being they should make sure that he is being looked after and that he is welcome home anytime.
They should really go to a family councilor to sort out the problem and to help them find a solution they can both live with.

Answer 4

First find out if the boy is all right. Tell his friends that you will not ask any questions just is he all right? If so then take a picture of him and start placing posters everywhere in your town so that every time he leaves a house to go to a store he sees them, so his friends see them, thier parents see them and soon some parent will call and tell you where he is. Keeping him home is harder than finding him. You and he need to really get down and find out what is the problem and solve it so he is home and safe, and if you cant then he needs to go into foster care where they can.

Answer 5

My brother started running away from home at this age. Turns out he was staying at a friends home. What you should do is get a currant photo of him and make up fliers. Say there is a reward to find him, the reward will be a good butt kick if you find out he was staying at friends house. Say that he needs to take bed wetting medicin or that he has special medication he needs to take. Then start going door to door to talk to parents. Tell them that if you find out they are hiding him, they could go to jail.

Answer 6

Kids don't usually walk away from a happy, healthy home because they don't want to follow rules. There may be more going on than your friend is admitting.

Sorry, didn't mean to sound so harsh. Unless foul play is suspected the police probably can't be forced to round up this runaway. And honestly, you can't keep someone like that at home. My gf's nephew was a chronic runaway from 4 on up, because of family circumstances when he was little. I could have gotten custody of him, but I knew I'd never have better luck than his parents--or every shelter that ever took him in. He's an adult now, and still basically a "runaway." Just pray that his friends are taking good care of him.

Answer 7

From staring at your record of previous questions, i could state that asking questions will further postpone your leveling up. once you are the son in question, who has yet in a distinctive way of existence family contributors and is experiencing advances out of your instructor i could be beneficial if thi is a real undertaking, you checklist as many info as a danger to your Dads & be keen to pass the college to have it stopped. in case you're only attempting to defocus the recent infidelities of your place so your Dads gets alongside than you owe it to the instructor to fess up on the lies. have been this my new child, i could take care in amassing all the counsel i might desire to, getting to know the teachers historical past & making a checklist to the college.

Answer 8

How could the police not look for a missing child?

Answer 9

leave him be I did the same things at exactly 15 years old I just wanted some freedom that I could get at home my parents were very strict but when I got tired of running from house to house I came home crying and begging to come back you know what bump that let his *** stay out there I know its harsh but these kids today don't know what's good and/ or how good they have it act like it doesn't phase you even if it does when you see him even speak but don't say anything about coming home cause sooner or later he will be back they all come back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

The police HAVE to look. If the local police won't help, contact your state police department. I guess that they may have forgotten, but that's one of their job descriptions.