If not, how many would be too many?
2007-01-24 03:21:36 · 32 answers · asked by joshjones007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For me it's like I want to know, but I don't want to know. Crazy as that sounds!
2007-01-24 03:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by ♦♦pixiechix♦♦ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, I did not care and did not want to know. For some stupid reason my husband had to let me know that he had lots. We were only married for a year and my husband thought that I should know. He lived a very wild life. Much different from mine. I was already married to someone else. He had told me that he did not care about any of them and only used them. I realize now that all of the women were only whores and all of them were drug addicts. We have only been married for 3 1/2 years and my husband has come a long ways since those days. How many would be too many? One would be too many for me to hear about. What's in the past should and needs to stay in the past.
2007-01-24 03:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did care, but I married him anyways, already knowing that had the tables been turned, and I'd have slept with as many as he did, he would not have married me. If I was a dude, I would think anything over 10 dudes for a woman is a lot. For a guy, I think the same amount for women he's slept with.
2007-01-24 03:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by Nyema 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't. How many women he may have slept with does not change the fact that he slept with them. My husband was 46 six when we married, so I'm sure he had his share of partners as I had mine.
Too many would be us stepping out the front door to go out and all of our female neighbors waving.
2007-01-24 03:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, as long as he doesn't care how many men I "slept" with.
One thing I would insist on, after we decided to become monogomous, is a complete check up and complete tests for STD's BEFORE we became intimate.
If your husband has made a commitment to be with you for the rest of your life and he is clean (physically), why would it bother you how many he has "slept" with? The past is the past. Look to the positive future the two of you can have.
2007-01-24 03:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im no longer married yet in a married type relationship, b4 this relationship i became in a 12 365 days defacto relationship which led to toddlers, after approximately 11 yrs i wasn't happy purely having some companions and it could have remained that way IF i became happy in that relationship.and then i had meaningless intercourse with adult males id meet on the internet, it became ok yet for a quick time.i'm somewhat ashamed of this. I on no account went out partying or clubbing turning out to be pregas @ 18 yet im sorta making up for it now, no longer particularly going out as much as love yet adequate and with my one true love, we've relaxing even whether it is at abode i advise you attempt this.needless to say u experience your relationship has lost relaxing and spontaneity. Make yours and his birthdays the time you pass out purely as a pair no longer a father and mom. My sister although is comparable to you has purely had a million sexual companion to whom she's married, she has no regrets and is in reality proud u must be too.
2016-11-01 04:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really, but then he didn't sleep around either. If he had, I probably wouldn't have had sex(or married) with him, because I don't want any diseases. The important thing to me is that we both feel marriage is for life. And he waited 30 years to find the right girl(ME!) to marry. I'm honored by that.
Besides.......guys who are 30 and haven't been with a woman are kind of weird in my book.
2007-01-24 03:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt at first but bothers me some now. I met him when he was 22 and I was 18 and he said he had been with 37 women sexually before me and I have only been with him to this day.
2007-01-24 04:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by MommyOf2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, hopefully thats something you guys have talked about LONG before you got married. but it depends on the person. i found out that my ex lied to me for years, saying he had slept with 9 girls before me, i didnt like that, but i figured he was with me now, thats what mattered. i found out later it was more like 30, and then he started cheating on me, so i had to draw the line and drop his ***.
if the guy (or girl- it can go both ways ya know) had been in a bunch of long term relationships (1 year +) then i would pretty much expect them to have slept with their partners. so at my age (25), i would say more than 8 people is just too much for me to deal with, but i know that relationships dont work out, and you cant always go by numbers. if the person is genuine and we have a good foundation to our relationship then its just all in the past and it doesnt really matter.
2007-01-24 03:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to when we first got married but now i could care less. The past is the past and everyone has one. One, two, three or four partners, it doesn't matter!! What matters is that I'm with now and I judge him not by the past but by our current standings and for me that's all the counts!!!!!=)
2007-01-24 03:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya I care. He only slept w/ 8 or 9 but it bothers me, well only one bothers me, because of their history.
I dated a guy that bragged he slept w/ over 50 women, it disgusted me.
2007-01-24 03:27:05 · answer #11 · answered by shouldbworkn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋