Ok Me and this man were deeply in love, so i thought. I called him my husband he called me his wife. He said he needed me to live and all that stuff, then he stops talking to me and says he needs a break with no contact at all so he can reflect and find himself. IM SO SCARED HE ISNT GOING TO EVERY CALL BACK. Have you and your partner ever been on a break? if so How long did it last?? and did it help the relationship? PLEASE ANSWER I MISS HIM SO MUCH AND DONT KNOW IF HE S GOING TO CALL BACK AFTER THIS BREAK OR WHAT, IF YOU LOVE AND NEED SOMEONE SO BAD WOULD YOU JUST STOP TALKING TO THEM COMPLETELY? NEED HELP BAD!
2007-01-24 03:20:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I been married 10yrs and together 15. Never once did we split. Yet we had have had discussions on space. But when he leaves and says he needs to find himself. This has nothing to do with you. He is slacking with his part in the marriage. It takes two to make it work, and he isn't putting his part in. He at this point seems as if he is given up, or has moved on with someone else. I hope that isn't the case and don't want to make assumptions I am not aware of. If you keep trying to call him, hes going to feel as if you are in need and he holds the power. I know you miss him but avoid trying to keep contacting him. Respect yourself and your place in the marriage. If he doesn't call you back, then it is his loss. Don't give him more power but letting him thinking your pining. He needs to grow up and take responsibility for his part in the marriage. I wish you alot of luck and I do pray he calls you cause I can't imagine my husband doing that to me, in fact I know he wouldn't cause we both respect ourselves thus respecting the marriage and each other. God bless
2007-01-24 03:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear you are having a hard time! well
2007-01-24 11:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is just a cop-out! No I have never had that but I can tell you now that if you really love someone then why on earth would you need a break from them! I think there is a good chance he will not call you back, but I don't think that is a bad thing for you. If you let him go and he doesnt come back to you, then he was never yours to begin with. If he does come back to you, then he is yours and will be yours. Maybe he will call, maybe he wont. Only time will tell and I think you should take this opportunity to "find yourself" a new man!
2007-01-24 11:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I'm right or wrong but it seems to me like he's taking a break from you. If he was in love with you as much as he said he was, he wouldn't need a break. I don't have a good feeling about this but I don't know the whole situation so I can only give you my advice. Think about why he needs a break. Is he bored with the relationship? I don't understand why he wouldn't call while he's taking a break - unless he's doing something he doesn't want you to know about. I Hope I'm wrong. Good Luck.
2007-01-24 11:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by K9Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got married at the age of 19 to my wife who was 18 at the time. Been married now for 23 years. The only breaks we've ever had have been deer hunting season (one week) and the annual guys weekend up at the hunting cabin. If a guy says he needs a break it's a load of bull. He's out looking to see if he has better options.
2007-01-24 11:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Doug B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like having to say thingslike this. If your man, who loves you intensely, leaves you for no real reason, with no real promise of calling you again or seeing you again, it's probably time to let him go. He sounds like a commitment phobe to me, or maybe he is already married to someone else. Even if neither of these things are true, what he is doing to you is cruel and not something someone in love does to their significant other. If you take him back, he's going to break your heart agin. I know it's not what you want to hear, but I think you should move on.
2007-01-24 11:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Elaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sounds like he is trying to get out of the relationship...How long were you together? did you find him looking at other women? was he at your side the entire time you were together, or would you set up date days? some times when a man is smothered he needs to break away, not break up but pull away to get a breath. give him a week and if you dont hear anything back from him, go find a new man...one who apreciates your affection.
2007-01-24 11:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually if someone needs a break its a nice way of saying break up for good they just don't want to hurt your feelings and they don't say break up because thats to final and plus they may be seeing someone else and if that doesn't work out you are there hangin on to take them back.....
2007-01-24 11:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by samwise25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one who is truly "in love" with you, will break it off that abruptly.
Seems to me like you were being "played".
If he was really that serious, he would've been just "calling" you his wife, he would have made you his wife.
2007-01-24 11:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a break doesn't accomplish anything. Sorry...
2007-01-24 11:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋