I've been seeing someone for almost a year now. My divorce is in the works now. We haven't been to court yet. Will this hurt my case? While I was with my soon to be ex I found out he had been cheating and had a child with someone else that was about 3yrs old when I found out.
2007-01-24 02:54:36 · 10 answers · asked by bird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, but in most places, adultery doesn't matter in a divorce case. So this is just between you, your spouse and God.
2007-01-24 03:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no written rule book, but since you are still married, and not legally divorced, no matter if you are separated or not, it is considered "cheating" and it is "adultery." NOW, that being said, my personal opinion is if you've both made the decision that there isn't any working it out and it's "over" emotionally between you, then it's really not cheating, it's just a technicality that you don't have the legal documents to seal the deal to end it - but that's just MY opinion and who am I? There is also the argument that two wrongs don't make a right - so as far as your question about whether or not it will hurt your case - it's ALWAYS safer to wait until it's all said and done in the courts, you never know what the other party is capable of pulling, and just because they are guilty of it, they can drag your name through the mud real quick fast and in a hurry....best bet is to hold off, get the divorce finalized, then do whatever you want as a free woman.
2007-01-24 03:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by are_see_bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are still hung up on the thought of your ex and the relationship you had and not necessarily your ex the person,don't know what the circumstances were for your break up or how long its been since you have seen him,but people change so he might not be the same person you remember him to be,but its easy to get caught up in the idea of what you once had when you start feeling distant in your current relationship.If your goal is to stay with your husband and work it out I would say to try and go back to the basics,rekindle the spark by doing the things that attracted you to him in the first place,take the time out every day to do the little simple and corney things that can really make the difference.I met my now husband when I was 20,we did things a bit backwards and had our son before marriage,but we did things our way and in our time and 5 years after our son was born we got married.We now have two boys and will be celebrating our 3rd wedding anniversary and when you add kids to the mix it's easy to forget about eachother.We have to work at keeping the romance alive everyday,but it's what we both want so it's worth it.Hope this helps.
2016-05-24 04:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it's considered adultery and you should call an attorney on the phone to ask. Call one out of the phone book that you do not know. It doesn't have to be yours.Some people do start dating before the divorce is final. The man that you are still married to could probably be in trouble for having a child while he is still married to you. The other woman can take him to court for child support if she wants to. That is what happened to me while I was married to my first husband. My divorce had not even been filed yet. I did not divorce him for adultery. I only wanted to get the divorce over with and to be rid of all my problems.
2007-01-24 03:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that you have to have a legal Separation or a legal Divorce in order to openly have a romantic or sexual relationship with another person......
I think that it is adultery......
There is Something called an OPEN-Marriage
Which you and your Legal husband/wife agreed that it is/was OK for both of you to have a romantic/sexual relationship with someone other than your legal spouse.
Also if you are single and are involved with a married man/woman you as a single can be considered as an adulterer by law.
The laws vary by state, but if you are in Pennsylvania, Adultery is punishable by 2 years imprisonment or 18 months of treatment for insanity..............
2007-01-24 03:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by trey6z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your bible say?
I know what it islike to been that situation...I am there now, but I refuse to date or have any sexual relations until my divorce is final. Adultery is adultery....even though all you have left is just a legal piece of paper saying you are not binded.
GOD listens.....Take Care
2007-01-24 03:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if it's considered adultery by law but the bible say's so and the bible say's fornication is wrong and i think there are ground's for a divorce especialy if you got children by him you need to talk to a atorney about it he would know what grounds you can get your divorce on hope this help's you
2007-01-24 03:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, everyone knows some divorces take years to finalize, they can't expect you to be celibate the whole time. Hell, I have a hard time not banging the neighbors when my wife goes to the store!
You'll be fine.
2007-01-24 02:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...but for heaven's sake hurry the divorce up!
2007-01-24 04:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-01-24 02:57:40 · answer #10 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋