why do some off them take this as an excuse to stop paying money for THEIR KIDS because they have new partners & familys
I have seen this from both sides my partner off 20 yrs left me with his 2 sons he thinks he shouldn't pay for them because they are over 16 do you stop being a parent when your child reaches 16
my fiance has 2 daughters & he thinks because his ex is getting benifits his payments should be lower & he is also paying bills in his new home
I disagree with both off them they should both support their kids are guys just selfish
2007-01-24 02:51:57 · 19 answers · asked by miss smidgey 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Robert P I have worked since I left school went back to work part time when I had my sons & still support them today 100% they are my kids no one elses
never been given benifits for them
2007-01-24 03:08:55 · update #1
I also treat my fiance girls the same they got the same spent on them at xmas as my sons off me
2007-01-24 03:13:43 · update #2
mums the word CSA took my income into it to work out what my fiance pays his girls
so I have had it both ways my ex husband does't pay & I PAY FOR ALL 4 KIDS
2007-01-24 03:36:13 · update #3
All the while your kids are living with you then the partner should help with upkeep no matter what sort of situation thay are in, even more so when the partner is the main income earner. Saying you wont pay for kids is like saying they aren't yours, how can you do that after bringing them up from a baby?
I do agree men should pay for kids untill they are self-sustaining, same as if a woman left a man with kids, I am male and I shiver to think that there are men like that out in the world.
2007-01-24 02:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by archaeologia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think you've left it a bit late to start insisting on marriage, considering you already have two children? Where are you going to go if you leave? And what effect is it going to have on your children? It is not worth upsetting the children just to get him to marry you, which frankly I think is a hopeless cause anyway. The time to talk about whether you were going to get married or not would have been before you had the two kids. You need to think of the children. Frankly, I think all the people who say you should leave him are quite barmy. What if you leave him and then he doesn't want you back? What's going to happen to you and the kids then? You have left it too late to insist on marriage now. Ever heard the expression 'shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted'?
2016-05-24 04:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats men for you! My hubby has a child from previous relationship and I had to work full time and have my son minded to pay the CSA as the money we had to pay was ridiculous.His ex is on benefits and so is her hubby and they both smoke 20+ a day and can afford designer gear!
2007-01-24 03:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by mumstheword 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more that the though of giving YOU the money for the child is the problem. They can't cope with it, I think they think you are going out and spending it on a new outfit or night out. Whichever, it is wrng. THey should pay til child is 18 leaving school or not and a smaller amount until they leave home.
2007-01-24 03:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by peachy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like the mom that would have her 35 year old kid still living with her! it's not 16 when the payments stop it's 18 and up to 25 if a full time student... what type support do you offer?
2007-01-24 02:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by Robert P 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are quite right . Their financial responsibilities do not stop just because their emotions have. Go to court for maintenabce for your 2 girls until they finish their education and tell your boyfirnd to act like a man.. if he can't then find someone with a greater sense of responsibility.
2007-01-24 02:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because these 2 are being selfish, doen't mean all men do this...these 2 need to grow up and take care of their children.
2007-01-24 02:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by Bridgette B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask a lawer you can ask for free for 30mins. or look ir up on the net a bout famliy custidy and money kid serport, guys like that try to find ways to a voiled payingbecause they would razer spend it on smokes and beer.he don,t care.
2007-01-24 02:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes they are selfish.... they should pay for their children. I do think that set regular payments should stop once the children are working though...
2007-01-24 03:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Jackie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes guys are just selfish, my ex wanted kids, my arguement was that we might not be together forever. He always said that he'd make sure he supported nay kids if we broke up but when I suggested that if we broke up he'd be left with any kids he came up with all sorts of excuses.
2007-01-24 02:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by Skippy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋