i love my husband to bits but i dont see it a 2 way thing here. weve been together 3 yrs and married 2. we have a 2yr old and a 9mth old child.
i recently asked him to have a blessing od marriage again as the first one was wrecked by my family. he laughed and said no.
I really love him but he does things to annoy me. he works for gypsies for £60.00 a day but this money i never see, I cant ever spend money on myself as im worn down by these kids as they are with me 24/7.
i dont ask for much but a trusting relationship but foer some reason he wont get a proper job. he travels from manchester to north wales daily for work and it bothers me. I dont think hes cheating but i get the feeling he dont want to be with me.
ive put on weight since birth and he calles me names and when i tell him im lonley he dont care.
i really love him but i dont know what to do? i have no family or friends and dont have anyone who'd support me if we were to split up. Does it sound like he loves me
2007-01-24 02:36:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you split up you can get support from single parent groups.
In a way you are on your own now if he is out all the time. I don't think you should be with this guy if you are asking these kind of questions. I think you might be depressed as you should be getting help from your husband to share looking after the kids, having the kids 24/7 is not the best thing do they see Dad. And for the money does he save it or spend it, he should be givving you some of it. If he has spent the money, I would ask him what he has spent it on. £60.00 a day is alot of money. If he gives you no money what do you and the kids live on. Your husband calling you names, I'm sorry but your husband can't love you if he does this. Be strong and find away out of this. Your right your marrage is one way.Don't you think it is along way to go for work.. Open your eyes and act on what you see. Good luck for the future.
2007-01-24 03:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry hun, but it sounds as if he wants the life of a single guy and no ties. You're worth more than that and so are your kids! Don't let him put you down with the name calling - that's mental abuse and you don't have to put up with it - there are support groups out there to help. You already have the kids 24/7 so you can do it as a single mum!!! Be strong. You are a worthwhile person.
2007-01-24 02:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by blue_sapphire07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Money, house, and material possesions are not worth keeping if you have to be degraded by your husband. You see he too can be replaced. Don't stay with an abusive man if you have somewhere to go. Don't stay with him just because you have a child together. If he knows you won't try to leave him because you have a co-dependency on him....he is going to treat you the same and may become worse. Do what is right for you and your child. Try talking to him and expressing your feelings. If all else fails ask him to attend counseling with you. If that fails ask God to forgive you for breaking your marriage decree and YES --God will forgive you.
Good Luck...
2007-01-24 08:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by shonnie b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds selfish. Run an add for a needed babysitter and get a job. Start taking care of yourself and your children and then see how things go with your hubby from there. You might see him differently when you get the financial problems out of the way.
2007-01-24 02:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not treating you well and doesn't seem to be giving you anything at all. If you decide to split up with him then must find the name of a support group in your area. They will help you through, Samaritans could give you the name of one. Good luck, you deserve better.
2007-01-24 19:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your wasing your life aswell as the kids life you need to think hard do what is best for yourself and your little ones are you sure he not use you as a convienient ie sex; house work etc be strong for yourself leave start a new get man to love you for you not as a slave sorry if sound harsh good luck you desearve better go get it lot nice caring men out there xx
2007-01-24 03:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by MARTYN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's using you and really does not care a whit for your wellbeing and comfort. Else he'd never call you names and the like. There are publicly-funded support agencies in the UK; all you need do is find one. Ask your physician or go to the nearest office of social services and ask there. You need to be free of this jerk, m'dear!
2007-01-24 02:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that u need proper help ie. counselling, someone who can give u advice and save ur marriage. I do not think that ur husband is taking u seriously. If u are worried abt the cost contact ur doc or GP.
Good luck
2007-01-24 02:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by aarti 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think you've backed a looser. Children aren't so young for ever so as soon as you can make a life for yourself. One tip often those who find themselves in this sort of relationship go for the same type again and again. DON'T DO THAT NEXT TIME.
2007-01-24 03:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a job and support yourself. He is living his own life and you are not apart of it. If he is not cheating now, he will be. You are not in love, you are scared to be on your own, guess what? You already are. You deserve better go get it for yourself. You don't want your kids growing following your pattern do you, show them that you deserve respect and real love.
2007-01-24 02:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋