i always end up saying wrong things or acuse my best friends frienship when it comes to her hanging out with her crush.i feel bad at times when she leaves me but when she tries to include me in her plans( she olwaz does it)..i dont know why i dont go with her and i exclude myself but when she comes bck i end up saying alot of wrong things.things like "she makes me feel bad olwaz" i dont wanna admit to her that i felt bad coz i think that feeling is wrong to even feel..so in the end i end up saying alot more..
i dont know how to control it ..she tels me to tel her olwaz if i am feeling bad..i have hurt her alot..i dont know what to do..i exclude or want to be alone even though she never forgets about me...
i feel insecure and she says its ok to feel that way and tell her instantly instead of it building up in my head..
2007-01-24 02:16:17 · 6 answers · asked by dew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am a girl...and talking bout my best girlfriend
2007-01-24 02:26:57 · update #1
Are you a man or a woman? I'm sorry, but I can't tell by your name.
If you are a man, then it's really clear that you really like her as more than a friend. You need to sort out your feeling, then have a serious discussion with her.
2007-01-24 02:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying that goes something like to speak before thinking is like shooting a gun before aiming because someone ends up getting hurt. You have to learn to think before speaking. You have to identify the source of this insecurity or jealousy or resentment or whatever it is and deal with it. You probably exclude yourself hoping she'll choose you over whatever plans have been made. Why? Trust that she's your friend. Enjoy the time with your friend. Don't make it about you. You'll eventually drive her away.
You should also not spell always as olwaz and maybe throw in some capital letters. But that's just me.
2007-01-24 10:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need peace of mind.each morning...start by saying that u would make people happy today(ofcourse,in the right way)..write down all the things that u know hurt her(coming from u)..remember the list before u go to meet with her..just know that it's really hard to find people who genuinely care for u..make sure u don't lose her..she's been great to u and now it's your turn.u r just feeling a bit left out..try to get yourself busy with other activities.pray to god for your mental peace.take care and good luck:)
2007-01-24 10:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shuld teach urself been controled , coz it s the best way to deal with all situations. i know it s difficult and take time but, try to control urself doing so, coz if not, u ll react the same with ur boyfriend and ur husband, and it s not good at all. think and be wise. and apologise each time , this gives u selfsecurity .
2007-01-24 10:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by gentle whisper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your brain is engaged before putting your mouth in gear.
2007-01-24 10:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop doing that!
2007-01-24 10:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by crisjul v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋