My husband has Heart problems and diabities, and on top of that a pace Maker. He also had a little scare with Cancer this year. He is fine now witht eh cancer but with all the other health problems he well lets just say he can get it up but after 1 min. of foreplay it pops off and is gone. I love him and i would never cheat o leave him but my question is what can i do to get over the sexual fustration. He dosn't want to talk about it and he knows i have toys but he acts like everything is normal. He gets his but when it comes to my turn he turns and walks away and is bright red in the face. What do I DO? HELP
2007-01-24 02:10:32 · 16 answers · asked by Ladydew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
seems as if you need a fu*k buddy. someone with no emotional ties and great s*x.
My wife isn't interested in sex anymore either. I need one too but have no idea where to look.
2007-01-24 02:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
U should talk 2 ur husband and see if he is ok with a little 4 play be 4 u actually have sex with him. Talk 2 him and see how he feels about playing with u with one of ur toys first so u can reach ur climax and then he can enjoy himself also. If u guys love each other so much then there is always a solution 2 make things work. Give a try and see how it goes, it doesn't hurt 2 try. If he really loves u he would understand. I know he must b going through a difficult time in his life but together u guys can work it out. GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-24 10:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can he give you pleasure orally or with the toys. Be sure to let him know that you need the release just as much as he does and work with him to get yours as well. Make him sit down and talk about it, because if you keep this inside for too long, the understanding you have now will become anger and frustration and when that happens, bad decisions frequently follow.
2007-01-24 10:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh well lady dew.i would not put him in the hop less case as you did still you must rearrange you body needs to make this minute enough for you to come
and whats wrong with the toys in case you wanted to be good?you can also share the toys with him make him drive it into you and you can drive it as well into him make it a long play so he might feel that you wanted him to *** over you not before you
also there are the situations which are easy for those who cant afford long erection you have to work on top of he
doing it all for he
then comes the part to cheat on him would you??
be good
2007-01-24 10:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to his doctor. Find out what can be done and what can't. See if this is part of his medical condition or a side effect to his medication. Once you know the medical facts you can move forward with finding ways to fix it. But until then anything you do could make matters worse.
2007-01-28 09:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by sageivyberyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have a little problem in the past myself. My high blood pressure wouldn't allow me to "get it up". A little blue pill did the trick. You're not supposed to take them if you have high blood pressure but I didn't care. I risked it and took a 100mg pill. It worked wonders but now that my BP is back to normal I don't need them any more. You might think about slipping one into he normal meds. You both might be extremely happy when you're finished.
2007-01-24 10:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep going u are good women that love your husband even he is ill.. good for u...
u can get over the sexual frustration if u want to, for example when u feel like that go to some where to not feel something missing dear, go to your friends go shopping have fun in life.. the life not sex and that's it.. so don't worry just be busy all the time, then no time for this sexual frustration.
2007-01-24 10:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't talk about it because it hurts his ego, but he knows that you are not satisfied. This is very common with men that suffer from diabetes, so please be understanding.
If you have toys and he knows, what don't you suggest him for him to use them on you? It will be fun and satisfiying for both of you, besides, nothing is wrong to try something different.
Good luck
2007-01-24 10:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very considerate. He is probally feeling pretty low since he can't satisfy you. Don't push him to talk about it untill he is ready. Untill then just become good friends with the toys.
2007-01-24 10:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you've got a situation there, I don't really understand why he gets red face but maybe you guys can talk about it sometimes, there are other ways to satisfy a women.
2007-01-24 10:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by happydial 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some things it sounds like maybe he cant help,but there is always ways for him to make you fell complete without over excurting himself i would tell him what you want dont be afraid i mean what are you afraid of,not getting your needs met thats whats happening now tell him its not fair for you not to be satisfied!
2007-01-24 10:19:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋