Help i am frustrated and don't know what to do?

Question

My husband has Heart problems and diabities, and on top of that a pace Maker. He also had a little scare with Cancer this year. He is fine now witht eh cancer but with all the other health problems he well lets just say he can get it up but after 1 min. of foreplay it pops off and is gone.
I love him and i would never cheat o leave him but my question is what can i do to get over the sexual fustration. He dosn't want to talk about it and he knows i have toys but he acts like everything is normal. He gets his but when it comes to my turn he turns and walks away and is bright red in the face. What do I DO? HELP

Answer 1

I totally disagree with Solo Rose. You are not being selfish at all, you have a natural human need and it is never wrong to want your partner to keep you satisfied.
If your husband is sensing your frustration it is probably causing even more problems. It sounds like he is probably embarrassed, and that's why he won't talk about it with you. For the sake of a healthy marriage, you two need to work this one out. Try talking to his doctor, and if you can, get him to go to couples therapy with you. Anything to at least encourage an open conversation about what's going on and how to resolve it.
Good luck!

Answer 2

You should encourage him, and be there with him. Guide him through in helping you achieve sexual enjoyment. Let him help you do that by including him. It is fun to use toys with each other not alone. Next time encourage him to stick around and help you out a little. That will boost his self confidence up

Answer 3

if you have toys dont play with them solo introduce them to your lovemaking sessions. Have him please you with those. That way he wont have too much stress either if thats wht you meant.

you should talk to him about your condition. And tell him that you want it like that. lovemaking amoung spouses is not about getting what one person wants...it should be the other way round.

Often problems start due to the lack of communication. Talk about it while you atill can or else you might explode with frustration and end up picking a big fight with him ruining everything.

Answer 4

TALK WITH HIS INDOCRINOLOGIST (DIABETIC DR.) THERE ARE SEVERAL OPTIONS THAT CAN HELP WITH THIS. YOU CAN HAVE A NORMAL SEX LIFE ! ! ! THE PUMP IS ONE OPTION THAT USUALLY WORKS WITH DIABETICS AND DOESN'T INTERFER WITH HEART PROBLEM OR MEDICATIONS. BUT THERE ARE SEVERAL OPTIONS AND THE DR. CAN LEAD YOU IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. IT IS EXTREMELY COMMON THAT DIABETIC MEN CAN'T GET AN ERECTION. DON'T BE EMBARRESSED TO TALK WITH THE DR. ABOUT IT. HE CAN'T HELP YOU IF YOU DON'T SPELL IT OUT TO HIM. WITH ALL THE NEW STUFF THEY HAVE FOUND IN THE LAST 5 YRS ALONE YOU CAN DEFINATELY CURE THIS PROBLEM AND GO BACK TO A NORMAL SEX LIFE WITH THE MAN YOU LOVE. BUT Y-O-U HAVE TO BE THE ONE TO TELL THE DR. HE CAN'T READ YOUR MIND AND HE DEFINATELY DOESN'T KNOW HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO YOU. SO PICK UP THE PHONE OR MAKE AN APPOINTMENT AND IF YOUR HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT THEN YOU NEED TO BE THE ONE TO EXPLAIN THE PROBLEM TO HIS DR. SO THE QUICKER YOU DO THIS THE SOONER YOU WILL BE BACK HAVING THAT NORMAL SEX LIFE ! ! !

Answer 5

Why is he responsible for your orgasm? Sounds rather selfish of you. Were I you, I would use my toys rather than foreplay and when you are on the verge, then commit to intercourse, that way you come together. But be aware, we each of us are responsible for our own orgasms, to place the burden of giving you one on your mate is unreasonable and selfish.

Answer 6

He's going through a tough time. It sucks, you kind of have to suck it up. Use your toys by yourself. Our use them in front of him, it can be fun.

Answer 7

Show confidence in him. Support him. He will work harder for you.