what would be a good way to leave your wife...?

Question

but you have a 7year boy and a 4 year old girl that you love but you know this would be davastating for them but you know your wife does not love you anymore?.

Answer 1

Pack your stuff...open the door...put one foot in front of the other...have lawyer serve papers to wife...

Answer 2

How do you know that she doesn't love you? Sometimes people say hurtful things when they're angry. And one of them is "I don't love you anymore". Have a long conversation with her. I mean really, sit down and listen to her and for her to do the same with you. You'll find out that most couples need that, better communication. I know people that have worked out their issues, and they're complicated situations, and know from first experience what it feels for you parents to get divorced and yes its very difficult and yes you do go through hell ( I was 8) not to mention I'd get my dad asking me 'Tell your mom I love her, that I want to go back with her'. So yeah people regret choices they make especially without thinking things through and just going by what friends told them. You are your own person so is your wife dont let anyone influence you two. Why? because you two are the only ones involved in this marriage no one else and as much of a friend they are they will never be fair to your spouse or you. why? because theyre your chums and will back you up or her..thing is do they know you? no, do your friends know her, nope so how can they get involved... so think things through and talk to her one on one and listen to each other. Always try and save a marriage if its possible, 90 percent of the time its lack of communication so go mate, start talking...

Answer 3

Are you sure your wife does not love you? Has she told you? I think before you consider divorce you should try counselling. Divorce seems to be the easy way out for a lot of people these days. If you have been to counselling and can not work your problems out then you need to discuss how you will handle the separation. You don't want your children caught in the middle of a nasty divorce. Children would rather be from a broken home than live in one, but you should at least try to fix the problems in your marriage before you jump ship.

Answer 4

Are you sure that you want to leave her? Are you sure that she doesn't love you anymore? Are the two of you communicating? There is never an easy way to leave someone. You both made a vow "for better or for worse" are you sure that you don't want to try and salvage what is left of your relationship if not because you made a vow before God, then just for your children's sake so that they will know that you did all that you can. If you do go through with this however, just make sure that you are always there for your children and make sure that they know you are always there for them. Too many fathers separate from the mothers of their children and become what i call dead beat dads. Good luck!

Answer 5

If you know she doesn't love you then sit down and talk to her about it. Let her know that you don't want a marriage without love. That you want both she and you and your children to have happiness. That to do so you feel it is time to let the marriage go so that you can remain good parents and good friends. While you both want the best for each other. If you can do this and come to an agreement it will be best for all concerned.

Answer 6

If there is absolutely no hope in reviving your marriage, I would suggest you first make some plans on how to tell the children.. They both deserve to know what is going on with mommy and daddy. The 7 yr old is more likely to understand more. Find a good lawyer and go from there good luck

Answer 7

There really is not a good way but the more you drag it out the more painful it will be. I always think it's best that the parents be happy because if your unhappy the children will be unhappy. Just make sure you just don't disappear from your children's life and eventually after the first year they'll bounce back. Just make sure that they know you love them and it's not their fault.

Answer 8

well that is something you to have to work out without involving the kids even if you are not together you can still be apart of the childrens life im not saying leave but your kids would be better off in a loving home then a home where the parents dont get along!!

Answer 9

Tough, tough situation here. First and foremost, I'd make sure that you explain to your kids that it isn't they're fault that mom and dad split - that it's just that mom and dad no longer feel the same way they did when they married. Also stress that you will continue to be their dad, no matter what happens. Further, regardless of what dirt bag your mom brings home, that you'll always be their dad and will always be there for them. Also, I'd be careful about giving them any false hope that you two may get back together - just be honest to them. Good luck to you.

Answer 10

THINK! Your kids are worth working it out. Ask your wife to go to counseling with you, if she will not go, go alone. Love is more than a feeling, it is a decision. She may not feel loving toward you but she can love you again. Try counseling, go down every road, turn over every rock....don't give up without a fight...your children are worth it.

Answer 11

This is contradicting, right? Hang on for the sake of the children. Do whatever you can to salvage the marriage. There must be a cause for this matter. I am sure you still love her. For the sake of the kids, hang on. The kids need you, they need a family.