My partner and I are trying to have sex for the first time and it was unsuccessful as I find it an extremely painful experience. So I suggested he use a finger first. Even that was slightly painful but we did managed to get it in with some muscle controlling down there. Now a finger can get in quite smoothly and we'll proceed with more fingers gradually and eventually, his member. Although we're satisfied with the progress, I wonder if it is common for sex to be successful the first time?
2007-01-24 01:54:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
relax it is normal and try being relaxed before u start cause when u r stressed your muscles tense which cold increase tightness. also try foreplay so that both of u r really ready and u will also .have created plenty of lubricant which can ease pain
2007-01-24 10:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by blackraven254 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is far less common for it to be successful/ or not hurt really bad the first time,than it is for it to be unsuccessful. So, relax.....it's totally normal ! Just think of it, besides tampons, you have never had anything of such a size in it, it has to slowly stretch & get used to it. Once you do it successfully a few times, it will stop hurting/hurt far less :) (Oh, you should also expect some bleeding at first as well...totally normal)
2007-01-24 02:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by Maria Rose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. each path is a little different. This is not unheard of and yes your are normal.
2007-01-24 02:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not gonna touch this question with a 10 foot pole no pun intended.
2007-01-24 02:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't know: I'm a virgin.
2007-01-24 02:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by Princess of Egypt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋