My very good old friend is in big trouble.her husband and her best friend in love.and there age is about 50 or more.my friend did love marriage against her perents wish and for them she is dead.now she has no place to go to leave her house.because her husband dosent want to live with her.somehow she is living there but how long she will live like a servent,dog and statue.2nd thing her husband girlfriend is his best friend wife and mother in law of her children her husband is quite reputeted man so he is handling his wife very tactfully and he put all blame to my friend.now my question is what step should my friend take to save her marriage life who is not working since 10 to15 years.if her husband tell just go where she will go?.she has a daughter but she is america and busy in her routine and i think from childhood she saw her perents are fighting so she is used to it.so from daughter side there is no help.and top of that they are NRI.they have no relative at all.please HELP
2007-01-24 01:31:33 · 14 answers · asked by sumsin60 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When we people in our late forties or fifties behave in this manner its really shame full, on the eve of our life its the matrimonial love between the couple that see them through till the death arrives but some of us forget this & do as your friends husband is doing, I feel really sorry for your friend. Any how what she can do to claim her matrimonial/domestic right as a wife i.e. maintenance & place to live. If the husband refuses these two & is inflicting mental harassment to her she has a relief available now under the newly enacted law the protection of women from domestic Violence Act, 2005 under this enactment she can claim her domestic right to stay in her matrimonial home along with monetary relief as well monetary compensation for the mental torture she suffered from her husband. I shall not tell her to take more drastic legal steps such as divorce or filling of criminal complaint against her husband for bigamy or adultery as it will spoil their relations more. The relief under the above said enactment is enough for her to secure protection order from the court against her husband that can be enough relief for her at this stage of her life. Rest you can always directly email me for information of any further relief if you think which she can legally claim & she should go for, I am lawyer with 24yrs experience.
2007-01-24 17:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since her husband has no work and even if he is not with his girlfriend, there is a chance for him to look for another girl. So best is to get divorce and stay away and let she be happy.
otherwise, stay with her husband and make him understand what is really marriage means and what wrong did he did to his family and his friends family. And he really needs to go to work. Since he is at home. He wants to enjoy the life the otherway. If he is busy with work, he won;t have time for all these.
2007-01-24 17:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mayandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This best friend of yours doesn't truly sound like a friend. He is not treating you nicely, and he isn't being forgiving. You shouldn't have gone out with him in the first place, but I can understand how you felt pressured. You should talk to him and tell him that he has always been your best friend, and that once you saw you held no romantic feelings for him, you didn't want to lie and hurt him. So that is why you were honest, and broke up with him. But even though you don't feel a romantic connection with him, you still hold him dear as a friend. That it hurts you that this broke you two apart, but you would really like to try to be friends again...if this doesn't work then he obviously isn't worth your friendship because he is too butt hurt to accept the truth. Now for your friend's friend, I think what you said to him is exactly what he needed to hear. But it may be too much for your best friend to handle if you are trying to re bond with him, and then you start dating his friend. But if everyone is mature, then it may work out. Talk to your best friend first and if he is going to try to be friends with you again, then this other guy has license to flirt on you in person and ask you out. Your best friend should not hold control over who you date. But if this guy takes too long to ask you out, then he is "all talk and no action" and you should try your best to move on from him. Good Luck :)
2016-05-24 04:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r supposedly r her close friend with whom she shares such a secret.If u r earning & her true friend simply help her by keeping her in ur house.If u have a husband who really loves u & understands u will surely allow her to live with u.She can in sometime talk to her daughter &explain to her a daughter's responsibilities.she surely will understand her mother who can also b her bst friendin some time.Its not a magical wand that will work wonders in no time It will take quite some time & all that while u have to b on her side & give her moral support.send me ur thoughts abt my opinion on nikii_sheth@yahoo.co.in
2007-01-24 01:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by nikita s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times family is right
she choose d her dis tony
any how
she must get back to her family
second she must start looking for a job even now at this age and be responsible
three see what financial relations has she with her husband
2007-01-24 01:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has to see an attorney as soon as possible. If the husband is having an affair she may be able to keep the house and have him thrown out.
2007-01-24 01:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't she stay with you until she gets a job and and a place to live? That's what friends do.
2007-01-24 01:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by EsteeIsFrench 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is really a situation i vud not want my bitter enemies to b in,
ne way ur frnd needs to act vit courage.......
she has only one way.......consult her daughter.
or try to convince her husband.
2007-01-24 01:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by Ramya R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact with women,s commission they will take appropriate action
2007-01-24 03:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by keral 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she can stay with u if u don`t mind until she creates her own identity.
2007-01-24 02:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by ...... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋