I HAVE ASKED MY SPOUSE TO GO TO COUNCILING AND HE SAYS HE WON'T GO. WHY DO YOU THINK THAT IS?
2007-01-24 01:29:50 · 11 answers · asked by sweetbabykitty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well if he is like my husband, he is a typical male. My husband is hard headed and would never go because he didnt want anyone else in his business. We eventually worked things out on our own.
2007-01-24 02:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Could mean a number of things.
1. He doesn't care. Maybe he doesn't want to improve things.
2.He doesn't think it is anyone else's business what goes on in your marriage.
3.It could just be that he has a hard time talking to people about personal issues.
4. He doesn't think there is a problem.
You need to sit and talk to him and find out exactly why he refuses to go. Make sure he knows how much it means to you to have the counseling.
Good Luck!
2007-01-24 09:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. He doesn't think there is a problem.
2. He thinks it is your problem.
3. He doesn't want to spill the beans to a stranger.
4. He doesn't want to hear it could be his fault.
It could be any of the above or something else all together. If you feel you have a serious problem in your marriage that you need consoling, you cannot give him a choice, but beware he may call you on your ultimatum, so you will need to be ready to follow through.
2007-01-24 09:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, for some reason, probably one of the ones others have given, he doesn't want to. Don't pester him about it though. Just go yourself and get your head on straight.
I know that everyone suggests marriage counseling to couples in trouble, and I suppose it does help some people, but usually it's just the beginning of the end.
2007-01-24 17:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's thick headed.....
But you need to be smart in return. Somehow he should be the one to want it and initiate it, you have to look for a creative way, to let him take ownership of the idea.
Consistent nagging and begging WON'T work with a stubborn head.
it's difficult yes, but maybe, ask the counsellor, what you can do. Be sincere, sweet, nice, forget all your grudges and irritation, and let him feel like the good great guy, let him do things for you..
Maybe the one thing he will do for you then, will be to take poor you, to a marriage counsellor.
Let it sound like you have a problem, you need solved, not we, not him. Would be like him taking you to the doctor when you are sick.
Good luck, God bless.
2007-01-24 09:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He is in denial that there is anything wrong. He doesn't want to lose you and he knows that counseling is the last step before divorce.
2007-01-24 12:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's messing around and he's is hoping that you will get sick of his behavior and leave him. He's just waiting for you to make the move...you to pay for the divorce....You to do everything...men are so lazy....
2007-01-24 10:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...if he doesn't want to go...then why don't you go without him? Then he'll see that you're serious about this and will probably make more of an attempt to go.
2007-01-24 09:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Traci D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-24 11:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by TONY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels he really doesn't need it, can't afford to pay for it or just doesn't want to go.
2007-01-24 13:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋